Mother of the groom dress??

[Antonia]

I have been shopping for a MOG dress and have found a dark teal dress that is just very straight with a matching long-sleeved sheer jacket that has a glittery design on it. It is actually very low-key - not flashy at all. The back of the jacket has a little flair at the hem. My mother loves it, but I just always pictured myself in a beige outfit. It is an evening wedding. The bridesmaids dresses are pool and the men are in black tuxes with pool vests. FDIL is coming to see this dress today. I bought it, but am prepared to take it back if she doesn't like it. The wedding is March 31st!!!!

 

[ducklite]

What is the mother of the bride wearing? Generally you take you cue from her in terms of length and color.

Also, what color is "pool"?

Anne

 

[siouxi31]

You haven't said what you thought of it. Do you love it? If so, I say you should get it.
You're very considerate to let your FDIL have input.
My MIL wore white to my BIL's wedding. Can you believe it?

 

[Antonia]

Pool is sort of an aqua blue. It is all over the David's Bridal website. A very popular color this year.

Mother of the bride is just wearing "something I already have". No one has any idea. She is a very strange woman, so I cannot take a cue from her. She may not even attend the wedding. FDIL thinks she has an untreated bipolar problem.

I love the dress - I just wish it were beige!! Silly I know. The dark teal makes me feel too wintery, but it is not a wintery wieght fabric.

 

[siouxi31]

I'm a beige person too. It's safe and usually looks good.
But, dark teal sounds striking. I think you should go for it.

 

[MsLeFever]

My MIL wore like "off-white" to my wedding. She was really worried since I was wearing an "off-white" too - (I kept calling it tattle-tale gray!). I just didn't want to wear that pure copy paper white - it washes out my skin tone.

But I didn't care if MIL wore the same color as long as it didn't look like she was wearing a wedding dress herself!

 

[kristen821]

If you like I would keep it. If you don't I would return it. If you are unsure you can always keep it and return it if you find something you like more in the next month.

 

[ducklite]

You love it, and the color won't clash with the bridesmaids dresses and the tux vests, so I say go for it! It's still early enough to get away with more wintery colors, as long as it's not made of mohair I don't think it matters.

Sounds like your poor son is marrying into a POW MIL.

As long as the glittery stuff on the jacket isn't so glaring that it doens't upstage the bride, it sounds like you've found the perfect dress!

Anne

 

[Pam]

From your description, I think your gown will compliment the bridesmaids' dresses beautifully - much better than a beige gown.

Go for it!!

 

[mrsg00fy]

It sounds beautiful. It is nice of you to seek you fdil's input. My MIL wore teal to my wedding...I happened to love the color.

I think beige is too washed out and can be frumpy. However...I am a girl who loves color, especially any shade of blue.

 

[Disney Doll]

Sounds gorgeous, and like it would be lovely with the color scheme.

Beige?....eh...I like color better.

 

[WDWAurora]

Hey, as tough as they are to find, I'd say if you like it, keep it. I shopped with my mom, DMIL, one of my grandmothers, and mom went with the other....absolute insanity. Everything is either WAY too matronly or way too young. It was absolutely horrible trying to find them all dresses. DMIL didn't actually find one until like a month before, and she'd had a long time to look. In the end, all their dresses were different and very nice, but it was so hard to find ones that were right for them.

I've only been married since August, but I'd definitely say that as long as it isn't white, it will be perfect. You should show us a picture!! The color sounds beautiful though.

 

[lulugirl]

Wear whatever makes you feel pretty....as long as it isn't white!
I never understood why brides feel they should have input on this?
For my own wedding it never even occured to me that I had to "approve" my mother or MIL's attire.

 

[Madaboutthemouse]

I didn't care what my MIL wore as long as it wasn't a shade of white...that went for my Mom too! My bridesmaids dresses were red and that's what what MIL found too. It looked great! My Mom wore a dark grey/silvery dress so they complemented very nicely

 

[bananiem]

I told my mil and mom to wear any color they wanted. Etiquette at the time said no one was to wear white except the bride. Well, I wore off white because I'm so pale I'm practically clear so white looks REALLY BAD on me. Anyway, my mom got a lovely teal dress. My mil insisted she had to match my mother so she got an off white dress trimmed in the teal color of my mother's dress. Then we got the wedding pictures back and you can see her slip in all the pictures. She still apologizes for that 18 years later!
I vote for the teal one.

 

[4nana]

Sounds beautiful!!!

Knowing how difficult it is to find that perfect 'mother's dess', I say if you like it, your DS and DIL agree it compliments the wedding party and the MIL (who gets first choice) doesn't care either way, it's a GO! I have always ask my children's in put, as to the style/color and they have always left the final word up to me to choose something that compliments. I have worn teal (evening wedding), fern and blue.

The color 'pool' is a new one on me and sounds beautiful!!
Exciting time when our kiddos get married, relax and enjoy!

 

[Simba's Mom]

I have been shopping for a MOG dress and have found a dark teal dress that is just very straight with a matching long-sleeved sheer jacket that has a glittery design on it. It is actually very low-key - not flashy at all. The back of the jacket has a little flair at the hem. My mother loves it, but I just always pictured myself in a beige outfit. It is an evening wedding. The bridesmaids dresses are pool and the men are in black tuxes with pool vests. FDIL is coming to see this dress today. I bought it, but am prepared to take it back if she doesn't like it. The wedding is March 31st!!!!

That's the same date as my DS is getting married! He's getting married in Mexico, and from what I was told, there are certain colors the MOG can/can't wear in the Mexican tradition. I finally selected one that's beige/champagne, or as I told DS, "It's the same color as my car!" The clerk told me that's the "acceptable" color for the MOG. Surprisingly, they're not having any attendants-there seems to be alot of differences!

 

[Mickey527]

My mother who had 4 sons and 2 daughters said the role of the mother in law is to "Wear Beige and shut Up".
Well when my son got married my DIL requested that I wear dark green which is the worst color on me.
Her girls were wearing a ruby color and her mother was wearing light green. I just couldn't find anything green that looked good on me.
So I wore silver. It wasn't a shiny silver, it was more like a grey, but not boring. I had more compliments on the dress and I didn't clash with anyone.
My DIL was ok with my color choice once she saw it but I think until she previewed the dress she was angry at me for not choosig her color choice.
I would think you need to get the color you feel most comfortable in, and remember, there will be tons of photos that you will have look at for a long time, make sure the dress you pick looks the best on you. Peggie

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I think your dress sounds wonderful! But I'm probably not the person to ask. The only thing that I cared about anyone wearing to my wedding was a smile. I wasn't in to any of the traditional stuff, so who am I to say? But I'm still married almost 24 years later so I guess the lack of matching dresses didn't jinx our marriage.

 

[redshoes]

I think the dress sounds very pretty. Asking your FDIL's opinion is honestly a wonderful gesture and it sounds like your dress will be perfect.
My mom insisted on wearing beige at my wedding (which was the least of my problems with her at that time) and honestly the pictures are not ideal. The pictures I have of her and I together seemed to sort of blend together.
Now my younger brother is getting married in April and my SIL-to-be has taken the whole matching dress to a whole new level with her wedding. Imagine the same dress (a black shift dress with a matching jacket with huge pink sequined flowers all over) for every female in the wedding party from her 13 year old niece to my 55 year old mom (bridesmaids, MOG, and MOB are all wearing the same dress). Should make for some memory making pictures.

edited for grammer. Sorry.