Most romantic thing someone has done for you?

[unfreshdiva1]

In open and frank discussions with my ex, he told me that he thought my ideas of romance were cheezy and forced. I felt they were genuine, but I can understand some of his points. As I re-enter the dating pool after being partnered for 9 years, I am looking for ideas/examples of some romantic things your current or ex partners did that you still gush over.

 

[MrVisible]

This probably isn't the sort of thing you're looking for, but...

A couple of years ago, I woke up after one of our game nights, which traditionally involve binging on junk food and playing board games with friends, with a tummy ache. I thought it was gas, and took a couple of over the counter remedies, but by noon I knew something was wrong.

My partner took me to the hospital. It turned out to be appendicitis, and the operation went... well, badly. The next two months were a nightmare of infections, dressings, and general recuperative nastiness.

Through it all, my partner was right there. He held my hand, tended my wounds, took care of all the day to day tasks, sorted out the paperwork, and even helped my mother calm down. He was so strong, so supportive, so wonderful and caring that I knew that he'd be with me, no matter what, for the rest of my life.

We got married the next year, and honeymooned (where else?) at Disneyland.

We've had candlelight dinners and long walks in the park and late-night pillow talk, and they're all wonderful, but knowing that he was the kind of man who could be there for me, thick and thin, sickness and health... that's when I totally and unreservedly gave him my heart.

 

[Boston5602]

well years ago, my first boyfriend did something really sweet ( I thought so anyways )

We were teens and I worked at Burger King , he said he didn't see enough of me so he got a job there too. We were both still in the closet. One night my shift ended early while he had to close the place , some friends picked me up and we went to a party and I got totally drunk.

My friends dropped me off at 1 am at BK where my boyfriend was waiting for me . So there wouldn't be any questions in the morning he drove both of our cars 4 miles to his house where we spent that night . He drove one car with me in it a couple of blocks then RAN back to the other car and drove that up to the car I was in. He did this all the way home.

I was so drunk I was sick for 3 days he stayed with me the whole time .

Hey, we were kids !

Thats one of my little storys

 

[jlewisinsyr]

My boyfriend is very happy go lucky...he does cutesy things...

He's sent me flowers at work (most recently due to my new job I took)...

He's made romantic dinners with candles and rose petals...

He's drawn pictures of us or me...

etc...

I'm much more serious about life, but I do romantic things but I was also raised with old manner so to speak, like always opening doors for your signifigant other, so we have a very interesting fit.

For me, I was in NYC for work and on the flight home I used the $5.00 a minute air phone to call a limo company and make dinner reservations. I then proceeded to go to his office and suprise him with a night out. He was very impressed.

 

[CanadianGuy]

Romantic or Cheezy you decide..

One of my very first boyfriends, with whom I still stay in touch, gave me the most romantic/cheezy 'one month-iversary' present ever..

He showed up with what he called the gift for the five senses.. Each gift had a little note attached explaining why he selected it.

- For touch, he got me this 7-UP t-shirt. At the time they had this animated character dude that he said reminded him very much of me.

- For smell, he got me this awful bottle of Brut-33. And this was WAY past the point when Brut-33 was even remotely cool... (1992) which was long before MY youth. Of this he said, you dont' have to wear it in public, but I like the smell of this. (hint hint)

- For taste, he got me a can of Coke (I LOVE Coke) and a box of Kraft Dinner (Kraft Macaroni & Cheese for you US folks). He wanted me to make the Kraft Dinner that night. At the time it was the only thing I could make and we were both kinda starving student types. I had gotten pretty good at adding things to it to make it interesting and tasty.

- For hearing, he got me a B-52's CD. This was after LOVE SHACK, "GOOD STUFF". (1992) I still have it in the big CD rack somewhere.

- For sight, he gave me this plant. He was big into plants. I don't remember what kind of plant .. but the note said "I hope our love blossoms along with this plant and you think of me everytime you see it." Well ok, except the lady at the flower shop told him, "These plants almost NEVER blossom.. " (ha!)

About 3 weeks later, the plant developed the most beautiful flower I have ever seen. It was amazing. We were both stunned.

About 8 weeks later, we broke up. And I kept that plant for 4 years after that, but it never blossomed again - true story!

Anyways.. like I said - Romantic or cheezy.. you decide.

Knox

 

[mickeysaver]

Overall, I think that grand romantic gestures are highly overrated. This is not to say that you shouldn't treat your SO with respect and try to be nicer to them than you would the rest of the population of the planet.

I would much rather have Gabby wash the dishes, clean out the cat box, and walk the dogs than have her spend money sending me roses or taking me out to a fancy dinner.....not to say that she doesn't do those things too, because she does. Gabby spoils the heck out of me. From the day that I fell in love with her to today, I call her my gift from God.

She has tried grand romantic gestures on more than one occasion......she has horrible luck pulling anything like that off. Other than surprising me with roses or my favorite peppermint carnations on occasion, the big efforts tend to fall apart before they can be executed.....which ticks her off so bad....whew.

My favorite of all the grand romantic gestures that Gabby ever has done for me was back when we were first dating. We met on the internet, so it was a few months before we got to actually see each other face to face. We sent lots of snail mail packages to each other in addition to all of those emails. One of the packages had a simple outline drawing of her hand. She wrote on there for me to put my hand on the outline whenever I wanted to be a bit nearer to her because then we would be holding hands. Simple, but very sweet.

Ok, so there you have it. The OMG huge budgetted, totally blinged out, blowout vacation gift that I am getting for my 40th has been eclipsed by a piece of paper with an outline of a hand. Romance....it's kind of a tricky thing to know what will make the biggest impression...usually, it's the little things. Maggie

 

[Zspa<3ariel]

Ha, this is great, seeing as Im still 18, I havent settled for something serious at the moment. But wednesday at my work, they call me to the front and have me sign for a vase full od a dozen of white roses. It was from, I found out, my friend Jasen, who is a very special person to me aka prince charming, lmao. But yeah, all the girls where asking where I found this guy at.

and somehow he knew, white roses, are my ultimate, heh.

 

[snowman]

Does ditching the husband for me count?

No? Okay then, I'd definately have to say getting me a beagle puppy to celebrate buying our first house would be the most romantic. I know, it doesn't sound very romantic, but to me it was the sweetest thing in the world. I love my beagly-beagly as much as I love my precious DSO who gave him to me.

 

[padalyn]

Romance is so tough to define - for each person it is very different!

My wonderful hunny (Tiggr33 for those who don't already know) is someone who absolutely hates "bodily functions and fluids"...she gags at the sound of someone vomiting, and if she sees or smells it???? eeeeewwwww

Well, I have a bit of irritable bowel - so my tumy acts up in a terrible way on a regular basis.

There is a thread on this board that she started -
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1421686

This tread sort of catalogs some of the events that are why I know I love her so much.

Knowing all the background on her respose to bodily fluids - I have to explain that she dealt with my vomiting (projectile!), diarrhea and moaning and whining for hours and hours each week for over a month. The day I finally went into the ED at 8am I had been at it for over 8 hours. She sat with me in the ED, where there were LOTS of smells and sounds to make her gag (I wasn't the only one tossing cookies that morning), she made sure I ate, got me to the MD, helped with my clean up, laundry and fridge mess after the power failure.

This may not seem romantic to most - but as some one else posted, knowing that this person is willing to overcome her fears, repulsion and reaction to these things and stick by me - well...this shows me just how much she loves me.

So - to my hunny

Tig - I love you!







(I know she finds all my posts - she is my shadow!)

 

[MousekaMaddi]

before we dated my DH sent me a single rose in a vase every half hour alllllllllll daayyyyyyyyyyyy loooooooong once when I was at work, all the girls were freakin out after about ten deliveries. I LOVED it and was amazed by it and we have been married since 2000, (with DD4 now! )

 

[unfreshdiva1]

Thanks for the responses! I agree that some of the simplest ideas are the best. The big, over spend, over planed events I did really did not turn out to be "romantic". BTW - I really liked the 5 senses gift idea (and that is something you could do without spending alot of money).