morbid question

[englishteacha]

My father and his first wife were married for 10 years or so and had 5 kids. She passed away 50 years ago. My dad married my mom a few years after she passed. They had 3 kids. When dad passed away last year, after being married to my mom for 44 years, he was buried beside his first wife. Mom was fine with it, and I believe there is a plot there for her, too.

My MIL's family left her 6 burial plots. She is in one. DH, me, my SIL and her husband were to be buried there. Someone is in DH's spot and SILs. So....I guess we need a new plot!

 

[Handbag Lady]

I am now feeling very lucky that we have a "family" cemetary and that everyone is buried there for four generations now and I'll be the 6th generation buried there.

The family owns a lot of plots and they can have two people in them. Grandad's thinking at the time was that if anyone died unexpectedly, they'd have a home, no matter what finances are at the time. Luckily, there were no deaths in my dad's level so it hasn't been a problem. So, he and gram are in two plots (room for two more), my great-grandmother is with a child, my aunt and uncle have room for two more and so on.

I've told my husband that if I go, I am to be buried there. I don't care with whom or in my own, but if I'm not in THAT bury patch, I'd haunt him.

But I just realized that my parents won't be buried together. They divorced and are not speaking. I wonder what their plans are? Buahahahahha, I think I'll have them buried together for revenge!

 

[snarlingcoyote]

I have a distant cousin who married her first husband (he was also a cousin of mine. They were NOT cousins, but they were both cousins of mine. . .) when he was dying of leukemia in the mid 1980's; they were childhood sweethearts and decided to treasure the time they had together. They picked out which plot they wanted in the community/family cemetary and bought a BIG double stone before he passed. Tongues wagged - she was only 21, surely she'd want to be buried with her second husband.

Well, she DID remarry, but cousin and her 2nd husband apparently have an understanding that she will be buried with her first husband. 2nd husband and father of her children will be buried on her other side.

In a very non-Hollywood way, I think of that as true love. 2nd husband loves his wife enough to honor the love she had for her first husband.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

When my MIL passed away, my FIL bought both plots together and already has his name down there, obviously without the year of passing date....

He has been remarried for about 5 yrs now, but I guess because he had children together with his first makes it easier. Also, like someone else had mentioned, it wasn't like they were divorced....the spouse passed away.
Can't hold a grudge for that if you are the current spouse....