Handbag Lady
Disneyland Bride 2000
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well, the plot thickens...for the better.
Mom called me this afternoon and I could tell she was itching to say something. I asked her how the cake shopping went and she launched into a whole spiel about why she was just doing something nice and sister doesn't really care about the cake.
So I gave mom BOTH BARRELS....in a kind way. I told her it was NOT her wedding nor her place to make such decisions. If the bride wants to have Hostess Twinkies in lieu of a cake, well dang it, she gets Twinkies. I told mom I know she was just trying to make it nice...but it was MOM's version of nice, not the bride's.
Mom then called my sister and said cupcakes would be lovely. My sister called me to thank me and is actually excited about cupcakes.
Then my younger PITA sister called to give me grief for stirring up trouble with mom. I don't give a hoot. It's not mom's party. All I care about is whether the bride is happy (and to a lesser extent, the groom).
I never intended to be the white knight here, but when mom brought it up, I couldn't keep quiet knowing how upset my sister was.
GOOD FOR YOU!!!
Sometimes we have to parent our parents.
My mom was SO upset that she couldn't invite all 200 of her friends and family to my wedding. We had 50 guests. I allowed her 10. She cried and thought that would get me to cave. I explained to her that we had a budget of $5000 and if she wanted, we could go get her checkbook. She wouldn't pay up and stressed to me that she paid $$$$ to go to so many of her family weddings that I wasn't being fair and that she was OWED the ability to be the MOB in front of everyone. Yeah, no, not on my dad's dime. (Parents are divorced and dad asked me what I wanted... a small wedding, so thaat's what I got.)
And I love the idea of cupcakes!