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[Hrhpd]

Just when posters are starting to run out of patience, we have an amazing turn of events.

Good luck to the OP and husband at the ER..... although I'm not sure what the preferred outcome is at this point.

It is the DIS afterall, home of sudden, sometimes miraculous resolutions to problems.

I also noticed that despite the need to update, the more technical questions are soundly ignored and not addressed.

Who is taking care of the graft?

 

[antmaril]

Oh I am betting it is important by keeping us filled in. She craves the attention on this wild boat ride

<<<Just can't look away at this hot mess of a thread

I, too, cannot look away. I haven't posted until now, but I think it is fascinating. Everybody keeps giving the same advice over and over and the OP comes back and comments or gives some lame excuse as to why she hasn't packed her bags. Who in their right mind would stay in this situation? NOBODY that I know. This story is just wrong on so many levels.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

I wish I could figure out what other name the OP posts under. Sounds like the stories don't jive.

 

[thornton0511]

This post may have been better suited for the beginning of the thread but I just found it yesterday and scanned through all of the posts quickly. I work as a BOM for a pair of skilled nursing facilities and I can tell you if he goes to a SNF and approved for medicaid his disability check will be cut off. He will only receive $30 a month everything else goes to medicaid. The state does not want to pay your room and board if you can in any way pay for it yourself privately. OP would not be able to still receive his check. Medicaid is a beast and has so many rules and guidelines to abide by in order to keep eligibility and get providers reimbursed. OP most facilities will have someone in charge of medicaid and medicare that would be able to assist you in this process and be able to answer all your questions and make sure you do everything correctly. It would be very hard for a facility to be successful if they do not have someone with vast knowledge of how this works for both state and government funded programs. Don't feel that you have to go though a lawyer for this. I know with mine we prefer to do everything for the medicaid process at our facility to make sure nothing is missed to cause a case to be denied. Do understand though that if you want nothing to do with him financially after admission to make sure and set that up with the facility so that they can take care of all his financials. Medicaid will send out letters from time to time and if they do not get timely responses they will revoke the eligibility. It is an ongoing thing and if they request financial info you have to get it to them quickly. I hope it all works out!

 

[LisaR]

Oh my, someone mixing alcohol with narcotics would scare me. Would it be possible to quietly tell her primary Dr. about this?

I have. Once I realized what all these medications were (hadn't really been privy to that information until then). Honestly, the doctors didn't seem overly concerned.

I, too, cannot look away. I haven't posted until now, but I think it is fascinating. Everybody keeps giving the same advice over and over and the OP comes back and comments or gives some lame excuse as to why she hasn't packed her bags. Who in their right mind would stay in this situation? NOBODY that I know. This story is just wrong on so many levels.

I'm NOT saying I believe everything the OP'er is saying, far from it, but I know two people who were in abusive relationships and they stayed far longer than they should have.

I didn't meet the first friend until she was divorced from the jerk, remarried to the nicest guy, and had two of their three children. She is one of the strongest people I know and she doesn't take **** from anyone. Imagine my surprise when a few years into our friendship she tells me about her past life. It was mind blowing what she went through and even more mind blowing that someone so strong and smart stayed for ten years. She wasn't being held hostage. She left the house daily for her well paying job, but she just couldn't leave for good for many years. The first time he abused her was on their honeymoon!

The second person I knew was an employee of mine. Her spouse used to come in my store and scream at her in front of everyone! If he did that in public, I can only imagine what he did in private. I had to threaten to have him arrested if he stepped foot in my store again. She had a great support system and plenty of people to turn to if she left including her parents, sister, best friend, and even me. She cried, complained, said she was going to leave and she never did. She only got out because he was in a car accident and died.

Unfortunately, even strong people stay in terrible situations. I can't explain why or what is going on in their mind, but it does happen. I am not saying my two examples are the same as OP'er or that OP'er is presenting all the facts. I am simply responding to the one part of your post that I put in bold.

 

[Hrhpd]

I, too, cannot look away. I haven't posted until now, but I think it is fascinating. Everybody keeps giving the same advice over and over and the OP comes back and comments or gives some lame excuse as to why she hasn't packed her bags. Who in their right mind would stay in this situation? NOBODY that I know. This story is just wrong on so many levels.

And she has pages of the same advice given to her on her two other threads, one under a different screen name and one under her "real" screen name. So, she has been sitting on the same advice for over a year.

When she is ready, if this is even partially true, perhaps she will remember some of the advice and act.

 

[Hrhpd]

I wish I could figure out what other name the OP posts under. Sounds like the stories don't jive.

Somebody posted them a few pages back. She has been very busy on all the other threads the past few days with her real screen name. I have to give her oodles of credit that she can remember to logout of her other screen name and log back in as this OP to post in this thread, especially with all the self-medicating she claimed she did last night.

 

[littleblackegg]

This post may have been better suited for the beginning of the thread but I just found it yesterday and scanned through all of the posts quickly. I work as a BOM for a pair of skilled nursing facilities and I can tell you if he goes to a SNF and approved for medicaid his disability check will be cut off. He will only receive $30 a month everything else goes to medicaid. The state does not want to pay your room and board if you can in any way pay for it yourself privately. OP would not be able to still receive his check. Medicaid is a beast and has so many rules and guidelines to abide by in order to keep eligibility and get providers reimbursed. OP most facilities will have someone in charge of medicaid and medicare that would be able to assist you in this process and be able to answer all your questions and make sure you do everything correctly. It would be very hard for a facility to be successful if they do not have someone with vast knowledge of how this works for both state and government funded programs. Don't feel that you have to go though a lawyer for this. I know with mine we prefer to do everything for the medicaid process at our facility to make sure nothing is missed to cause a case to be denied. Do understand though that if you want nothing to do with him financially after admission to make sure and set that up with the facility so that they can take care of all his financials. Medicaid will send out letters from time to time and if they do not get timely responses they will revoke the eligibility. It is an ongoing thing and if they request financial info you have to get it to them quickly. I hope it all works out!

He's SSDI. He's federal. So, he likely is with a contracted case management agency due to his large number of inpatient days and his multiple serious comorbidities and self care deficit. Makes no sense? Makes no sense to me either, and I've worked in this field for two decades.

 

[Kitty 34]

Why does this thread go on and on and on and on.............??

 

[NewRVLady]

I wish I could figure out what other name the OP posts under. Sounds like the stories don't jive.

clue......K....M......
a character that Erica Kane's DD(her first role) played in 1999

 

[LisaR]

Why does this thread go on and on and on and on.............??

Why do any threads go on and on and on? There are currently eight threads on the front page with over 400 responses. Most of them have over 1000. It is what it is.

 

[Kitty 34]

Why do any threads go on and on and on? There are currently eight threads on the front page with over 400 responses. Most of them have over 1000. It is what it is.

Thank you for pointing this out.

 

[sunshinehighway]

Why does this thread go on and on and on and on.............??

This is the thread that never ends. It just goes on and on, my friends...

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

It's almost like the wheels on a bus or something...

 

[PlutoPony]

I'm kinda curious to see which route the OP goes with this
Will it be the status quo - he comes home from the ER and promises to be more compliant / a better patient - and she stays to see him on the road to recovery yet again. Or is he too sick for home care and in need of skilled nursing, in which case she can be absolved of guilt from family and friends and (hopefully) go into therapy for herself.

Tune in as the thread continues.....

 

[Hrhpd]

I'm kinda curious to see which route the OP goes with this
Will it be the status quo - he comes home from the ER and promises to be more compliant / a better patient - and she stays to see him on the road to recovery yet again. Or is he too sick for home care and in need of skilled nursing, in which case she can be absolved of guilt from family and friends and (hopefully) go into therapy for herself.

Tune in as the thread continues.....

If he does has c.diff, he most likely was not soiling himself just to spite her. He just had to go. So, not sure how she is going to reconcile that he may actually be sick and not doing something purposely to abuse her.

 

[Pamlur]

In my experience, c.diff has a distinct odor. My mind is still blown that a doctor would do a skin graft type procedure in this situation, odor or not. That is so delicate, and so dependent on constant care, and it would have to be pretty obvious that the constant care would probably not happen.

 

[Frozen72]

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[Gorechick]

If he has c. Diff. then you will have to disinfect very carefully at home. There are special cleaning wipes we had to use in my son's hospital room when he had it.

 

[Frozen72]

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