Missing daughters Pre-K graduation

[rileyroosmom]

I've had our Disney trip planned since January. May 25-June 3. My daughter attends pre-k on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays.

She just brought home a flier saying graduation will be held on Thursday the 25th! I am so sad! She is my youngest child, so there will be no more pre-k ceremonies for me. I feel like a terrible mother having her miss this. I also found out she will miss her Kindergarten orientation and screening which is being held also while we are gone. I am so mad at myself. I rememer last year hearing friends talk about the orientation on May 31st and I made a mental note about it. It must have fallen deep into a empty crack of my brain!!!

I know once we are in the World I'll feel better, but between now and then I elect myself as worst mom of the year.
Thanks for listening

 

[MATTERHORN]

You will both be fine! You are a great mom to even be worried about it, but Kindergarten graduation, IMHO, is much more of an event than pre-K graduation. I am sorry you will miss it, I know how hard that is, but you will be having great family time together and that is important too. Once they are in school, it will always be something, right?

IT is hard to plan ahead when you just don't know what will come up, but to let you know, my DD started K this past fall and there was on orientation at the end of the previous year and one before the new year in August, so you could be fine. I would call and ask!

Have a great trip!

Andrea

 

[pezpam]

(I keep this in mind....) Our parents managed to muddle through without a graduation until senior year in high school was finished.

I don't think you're being silly at all, but you could have a family acknowledgement of the occasion at WDW if you want. If your pre-K graduation is anything like ours was, your DD will like the WDW one better anyway..... Get a cake or make up a silly family toast with frozen bananas or get her a special crown. She'll love it and I bet you will too. Heck, I bet she votes you Best Mom of the Year.

 

[ntburns22]

Just pretend it isn't happening. Easier said then done I know. My DD did not have a preschool graduation and her school does not do a kindergarten one either. I have to wait till highschool for a graduation.

 

[DisneyDotty]

Personally, I think all these graduations (except for high school and college, of course) are a bit much. But that doesn't help that you feel like you're missing out on something. Really, though--wouldn't you rather be at WDW than home watching one of many graduations still to come?!
Have a great trip!

 

[rparmfamily]

I can relate. DH bought plane tickets to Hawaii way back in Nov without looking at the calendar. Now DD5 is missing her end of year-pre-k parties, mother's day tea, 3 birthday parties of special friends, etc and she is heartbroken that she will miss the last 2 weeks of preschool ever with her first group of friends. (she won't go to the same elem as them.) She doesn't understand how special it is to go to Hawaii instead of school I basically had to tell her we'd call her friends over the summer and instead of me attending the mother's day tea (they make dessert for us, do a song,etc) that her and I would do something special instead.

I'll join you in the mommy-guilt group, ok?

 

[rileyroosmom]

Thanks everyone. I know it really isn't that big of a deal. There will be more in her future. Funny thing is, when I told my dh he reminded me that my dd has been having "issues" this year. She is miserable at all the "special presentations", i.e, mother's valentine tea, doughnuts with dad, the olympics, walk down storybook lane (the list goes on). She doesn't like all the fanfare and attention.
Time in WDW will be much better and less stessful for her. I do like the idea of a special toast though.
Thanks again everyone, it is tough being a parent sometimes, there is always guilt!!

 

[pezpam]

Thanks again everyone, it is tough being a parent sometimes, there is always guilt!!

It is..... But I hear psychiatrists/psychologists joke all the time about how half of their patients are seeing them because their parents didn't pay enough attention to them. And the other half are there because their parents paid too much attention to them.

You do the best you can and as long as you are, that's all you can ask from yourself. I don't know you, but the fact that you'd even worry about this, plus ask others about it and think about it, tells me that you're probably doing a dang good job with those kids.

And no, I will not feel guilty about not buying a yearbook EVERY year DD is in school! Our PTO started the dang things in kindergarten and apparently does it every year. I told DD that we got ONE when we graduated HS, the school gave us a class picture every year anyway, and if she wanted the yearbook, it'd come out of her allowance. Strange, it just wasn't important to her after that. (ok, personal rant finished. and now, back to your regularly scheduled DISing)

 

[Kendra17]

Make this into a pre-K graduation trip! And, tell some of the cast members. Maybe get her a graduation button/ribbon to wear.

Explain to her how sorry you are that all of you are missing it, but that you didn't realize. And, your whole goal was to have a wonderful time as a family, which you will.

I think you sound like a wonderful mother! I bet she thinks so, too!

 

[F1Julie]

DD and I are in the same boat. Her last day of school (kindergarten) has been listed all year as May 17. I booked our trip to start that day. I took the whole day off from work thinking her graduation would be in the morning and then we'd drive straight to WDW from there. I just got a note from her teacher Friday saying that the kindergarten graduation will be May 18! At first I was really disappointed, but there's really nothing I can do. DD is ok with it. We'll be at MK and having lunch at CRT when the rest of her class is doing their thing. I'll email her teacher to let her know, but I don't expect her teacher to change the date for us.