Military (Basic Training)

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ok so my bf is in the US Army National Guard and he leaves June 11 for Basic Training at Fort Jackson in South Carolina. Right after that he goes straight into AIT Specialty training in Virgina. I live in Illinois and I'm having a kinda hard time with this. He and I were close before he asked me out and I was dreading him leaving but now that we're "official" it's that much harder. He'll be gone for 4 months and 9 days. I get to see him for 3 days in August when he graduates from BT but after that I don't get to see him until October. He can't call me or talk to me for about 2 weeks and after that he only gets one call every weekend. Everyone keeps talking about him leaving and about the possibility of him going to Iraq after his training and that scares me Does anyone have anyways to deal with this? We are both really upset about not being able to be around each other all summer. He says that he's gonna cry the first time he talks to me and stuff . My mom was dating my dad when he was in the AF and she says that the hardest thing I'll ever hafta do is walk away from him at the airport. I honestly don't know if I can do it. My bf and I were walking in the park the other day and just talking when his recruiter called him needing some information for his BT paperwork . It's like everytime we get our minds off him leaving something happens that brings it back up. When his recruiter called I started crying a little bit. . .Does anyone know anyway to help me with this. . .seperation anxiety (I guess that's what it is)?



me my bf

 

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so i dont have any advice, as ive never had to go through this; pm me if you need to, anyways...

 

[LemonFruitChew13]

i know how you feel. my b/f is going to the Coast Guard (as long as he gets in). assuming he gets in, he'll be leaving on June 30th and i won't get to see him until thanksgiving once he leaves. and i'm going to disney the week before he leave and i'll come back the day before he leaves. we don't really talk about whats going to happen to much. i try and forget about it and not worry about it now and take each day as it comes. i know that he's worried about it. i only know this really because his ex g/f was showing me a conversation she had with him and had him saying that mine and his relationship is the only one he's worried about when he goes away. and her response to that was if you love each other it will work. at the time he goes away it will be after one year of dating. and we thought going into it it would be pretty much long distance the whole time because he asked me out last june then left two weeks later to work at a camp all summer so i only saw him when he came home on saturdays for our swim meets. and then i left for college 1 week after he came back. however i came home from the college i was at because i was unhappy so we've spent alot of time together. the times it was lkong distance for us wasn't that bad, but it will be harder if he goes to th coast guard because we won't be able to talk. and like i said before we don't talk about it so i'm not really sure when he'll first be able to talk to me. the extent of us talking is saying how we are going to give it a try. however none of this will matter if he doesn't get accepted, and as much as i don't want him to leave, i really hope he gets in because it's been his dream as long as i've known him.

sorry that was really long, and i'm not sure if it makes any sense, but in short i do know how you feel. if you need to talk you can p/m me, although i don't know when i'll get it because i don't log on to often

 

[xCourxCorex]

My boyfriend's brother went through this last year.. basic training in the summer at Ft Jackson and then to specialty training. It was really hard on his girlfriend but they made it through all right. And they kept saying he was going to be sent to Iraq, but he's still here so try not to stress over that part too much.
Just make the most of the time you guys have together right now, and with a lot of effort on both sides, I'm sure you'll make it through this hard time!

 

[BabyPiglet]

 

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Ok so we went skating last night and he wore his national guard polo and he had ppl saluting to him. . .it made me kinda sad. He is amazing though and he is soooooo proud of himself. I am extremely proud of him too.

 

[MadameLeota]

I was with a guy that was in the Air Force. I did not get to see him between October 2006 and January 2008.

It's insanely hard at first, not having them there. It does get better though.

PM me if you need to.