MIL vent continued.

[binny]

I'm sorry I know you are probably all tired of hearing about my MIL but Im going crazy ( you'll note this happenns ONLY when Im going to see her )

well we have a closing date of next thursday for our house. Im so excited!!! Well the bad thing is that's the day she is supposed to
come and visit. Keep in mind we see her once a year as she lives in Canada.

WELL this is just bad timing and I *WISH* it were different I really do the kids and DH both should get to see her and I wouldnt ever stand in the way of that .

I am more than willing to have her come and visit that is not the issue at all! The issue is the house closing and us moving means we wont really get to spend any time with her at all. She had agreed that if the closing date fell on when they were suppose dto be here she would just not come. It really isnt fair to anyone.

Well dh asked her yesterday if they could postpone their trip ( their driving they have no reservations or anything) and she said "NO were coming, why do you have move that weekend? cant you just postpone your move???"

excuse me????




We have waited and waited to get a house, done everything we were supposed to do and it just HAPPENS to be the wrong date. If I could move in today I would but I dont want to have be out another weeks rent or live here any longer than I have to. Does that make sense? Are we being unreasonable?

UGH Help please!

 

[jldriscoll]

You were up front with her about not coming if the move interffered. She should respect your wishes. Especially when you haven't sprung this on her or anything. SHe knew the score!

I say....let her come and hand her a box

{{{Hugs}}}} You are NOT unreasonable!!

 

[Pam]

You are definitely NOT the unreasonable one here!!

Is she planning on staying with you or at a hotel? If she insists on coming, just give her plenty of boxes to carry! I sense that no matter what you say, she is determined to come and make your life miserable, sorry!

I'd buy a big bottle of aspirin, sounds like you will need it. You might want to keep a rag handy as well - they work great when you want to say really, really nasty words, just bite the rag instead......

Pam

 

[helenabear]

Robin, you are definitely NOT being unreasonable there! I'd have half a mind to refuse letting her into my house if I were you. And if she does come during that time then she ought to help with the move. She is the one being unreasonable and I'd be fuming if I were you. To me this is just awful and I thought my MIL was bad because she was guilting me because I couldn't make it to their house (they are 400 miles away) for Thanksgiving since I will be leaving that weekend for a vacation Yours sure takes the cake! Good luck!!! {{hugs}}

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Ah well my dh would TELL his mother she is not going to come on that weekend.
But then again my MIL would be understanding of the situation and we wouldn't have to say that.
Moving is very stressful and to add fuel to the fire is just insane.

{{{HUGS}}} I hope you (ahem) work things out.

 

[Rock'n Robin]

I would welcome them and hand them a box to carry. You can always use two more people to help move.
If they don't want to help, I guess they can watch you. They know what the score is.
I sympathize--just got a message from MIL asking DH to do "a couple of things" this weekend--put away her lawn furniture, rototill her garden, caulk her windows.....
Robin M.

 

[Tuffcookie]

Well, I would most definately put her to work! Maybe she could come in handy if you need someone to watch the kids while you and DH are busy with other things. I know, being a MIL myself now, I have to be very careful not to intrude on DS and DD-I-L. Still, it's nice to be invoved in the really exciting moments in their life, like moving into a house!

TC

 

[Serena]

I'm with TC, if she insists on coming, then she volunteered to help.

Hey, if you can get some others to insist, you'd get lots of help.

 

[aahmom1]

You're not being unreasonable at all.

If you want her to change weekends you're going to have to make it about her. Tell her that you are just dying to let her see your new house but you want it all put together special for her visit. Tell her you want your kitchen all stocked so that when she comes you can make her a special dinner in your NEW kitchen. Hopefully she'll decide to change her mind.

 

[Nagle]

Don't give her the address to the new place.

 

[PRINCESS Ariel34]

Originally posted by Nagle
Don't give her the address to the new place.

LMAOO
My mil/satan/hellspawn/heathen/all that is evil isn't allowed to step foot on my property. Thank God I don't have to deal with her. On the other hand, No your not being unreasonable She is. Congrats on your house and like other posters said, Hand her a box when she walk thru the door