MIL is dying! Things are getting worse!

[Kitty 34]

Sending you lots of prayers and

 

[TeresaNJ]

I am also going to suggest you bring hospice in. You do need a doctor's order though, so I'm hoping your MIL's doctor will agree. In my experience I have found some doctors very reluctant to give up all treatment, even in the face of a terminal illness. They are so ingrained to preserve life at all costs. Also, please don't badger your MIL to eat if she doesn't feel like it. I know it is hard for you to see her like this, but the body does prepare for death and stopping eating is one of the first things that naturally happens. If your MIL is ready to give up the fight, then that is her decision and must be respected. So sorry that you are going through this.

 

[disneymom3]

I think that your MIL is very blessed to have you for a DIL. I hope you figure out the best solution in this time. Hugs.

 

[tnhillbilly]

 

[minkydog]

Everybody recieves that news in a different way. I may be that your MIL has long suspected she had cancer and is readly to get it over with. My dad was diagnosed with mesothelioma last year, a form of lung cancer which is extremely aggressive. Up until the week he died he was actively making plans to return to work even though the rest of us knew clearly that he was dying. The interesting thing is, once he finally accepted it, he just quit. Three days later he was dead.

 

[MsDisney23]

I took Mom yesterday for some kind of lung test, it came back that she COP, Chronic Obstuciton Pulmonary. She was so tired and very depressed, I did take her over to see her sister. She did not want to go, but I was not going to take her back home so she could just sit. I then took her out to lunch, she did eat soup and salad for me. I told her that if she did not eat, that I would have to call the Dr. She was such a sweetie. After I got her home and settled. bIL & SIL went over and had dinner with her lastnight and helped her.

The Dr. said that if they start the other kind of chemo on her it will kill her! I have talked to Mom to let her know that she has decisions and that all of us are their for her. I am not sure how long she will last in this condition.

I am going to call Hospice to see what they can offer, I thank all of you for letting me know to go that route. I am taking care of myself as well. Lastnight I was very tired and just dropped! Oh I did sleep good.

Mom does want to see Jamie, so DH is going to take her over one day so she can see her beloved Beagle! ( Mom keep Jamie for the two months I was in the hospital) OK she also spoiled her and got her FAT!

I am going to try again to talk Mom into moving in with us, she just wants to be in her own home! My heart goes out to her.

 

[tnhillbilly]

I hope your husband knows how special he is to have a wife that thinks so much of his mother. Just a question, If she wants to be in her house and it does not look good, could you and your husband move into her home, for a while. Companionship helps with people. With what you are doing now you will never look back and think could I have done more?.

 

[epcotfan]