MIL and HS graduation rant

[Kteacher]

This woman drives me nuts. I've pretty much decided there's no way I'm pulling my kids out of school during finals week or have them miss out on end of the year stuff they've been waiting and planning for. I'll send a nice card with a check that my DH and DS19 can bring up with them.

 

[HayGan]

This woman drives me nuts. I've pretty much decided there's no way I'm pulling my kids out of school during finals week or have them miss out on end of the year stuff they've been waiting and planning for. I'll send a nice card with a check that my DH and DS19 can bring up with them.

I think that sounds like a great idea!

Boy, I am so lucky that I have wonderful in-laws!

 

[Pam]

Glad you are staying firm and not going!

Is the graduate having a party later on? Quite frankly, around here just the immediate family, including grandparents attend the graduation ceremony. The party is what all of the other family and friends attend.

 

[poohandwendy]

Glad you are staying firm and not going!

Is the graduate having a party later on? Quite frankly, around here just the immediate family, including grandparents attend the graduation ceremony. The party is what all of the other family and friends attend.

Yeah, that is pretty much what I am used to too...maybe it's a PA thing, LOL.

 

[Beth76]

I wouldn't even send DH and DS. IMO, there's no reason for aunts, uncles and cousins to attend a HS grad. I think a gift and card are all that's needed. You can send those in the mail. Sorry, but sending DH and DS is still caving in to her demands.

 

[azgal81]

When I graduated from HS my aunt that lived an hour away came as well as my aunt and uncle that lived 45 minutes away. The others who lived further away didn't come at all and I didn't expect any of them to even attend. Don't feel guilty for not going!

 

[Kath2003]

How much notice were you given of this?

People don't make four hour trips at the drop of a hat. Your immediate family must come first. Send a gift and your best wishes to let your niece knows you're thinking about her. There is no need for extended family at these kind of events.

 

[Pam]

Yeah, that is pretty much what I am used to too...maybe it's a PA thing, LOL.

PA'ers are great party people, huh????




 

[auntpolly]

PA'ers are great party people, huh????




I'm from PA and do you know that only PA people say "PA".

Sorry for the OT comment -- BTW, please remind me not to be such a drama queen when I'm a grandma, "insistling" that the grandkids do stuff!

 

[mickeysgal]

in order to be there for the ceremony I would have to pull my DS16 and DD13 out of school during finals week,

You're kidding me, right? I wouldn't even consider it. Let DH go IF he wants to go.

 

[poohandwendy]

I'm from PA and do you know that only PA people say "PA".

Sorry for the OT comment -- BTW, please remind me not to be such a drama queen when I'm a grandma, "insistling" that the grandkids do stuff!

LOL, I never thought about it, but I guess you are right...I have never heard anyone from anywhere else refer to it that way...

I agree, I hope I bite right through my tongue before making those types of demands on my kids.

 

[bellacam]

.What makes it worseis that my BIL and SIL were " too busy " to attend our son's graduation last year

I think this says it all! If your husband and older child want to go, that is one thing, but if it was ok for them to bee too busy, its ok for you too.

 

[SleepyMom]

I'll send a nice card with a check that my DH and DS19 can bring up with them.

Good for you, I think this is a nice compromise. Your DH probably wants to go anyways since it his side of the family and it will be nice to have DS for the drive.

It was never "insisted" upon by my late MIL but it was very much expected of us to attend all the nieces and nephews HS graduations (we even went to 2 college ceremonies). Over the years we only missed one niece's, it was last year and DH had a conference for work. MIL was gone by then, otherwise I am sure we would still be hearing about it. What I found weird though was that MIL had no problem that several people planned to miss our oldest DD's graduation two years ago.

Thankfully though we never had a conflict other than last year and was always able to go to them. You do have to put your children's events ahead of others.