Menopause questions

[Tiggeroo]

OK ladies, here goes. I'm 42yo and still get regular monthly visits. But I've had a series of problems with hormone imbalances and other problems and wouldn't surprise me if I hit it early. All summer i have been dealing with heavy sweating, breaking out in sweats. My kids, three college kids, are giving me stress. Good kids but college kids and summer just sort of ended, they've been stretching it out.
I complained to dh about the humiidity killing me this summer. He proceeds to tell me it's probably menopause, losing weight might help. And he announces that I will be terrible with menopause. Oh and by the way, he says, when your monthly comes I'm going to get an apt. since you get so cranky. I'm glad he's so helpful and sweet.
Then I'm thinking I really don't like this butthole. How did I ever like this man. This person to whom I've been married for 22 years, I will likely kill. If he, who never birthed a child or had a horrible period decides to comment to me on the big M I will surely stick his head in the toilet and flush a few times.

 

[goldcupmom]

Yep, sounds familiar! I've found revival soy helps my 'hot spells'. the website www.power-surge.com has a wealth of info.

Good luck and stay cool!!!!

 

[Tiggeroo]

btw - I love my dh. He just said the wrong thing at the wrong time. I feel much better having vented here. He would never have gotten it if i had vented at him.

 

[Alex2kMommy]

It's kind of early for menopause, but might be peri-menopause ("pre" menopause, where you still get periods but hormones begin to go whacko and you get some menopausal symptoms.)

Your BH is a funny man. A bit foolhardy, perhaps, but funny. But I think when you're cranky, you're much funnier! Go for the swirlie!!!

 

[RNMOM]

I had early menopause myself and have ceased (wahoo) having periods for the past two years. I always had painful menses and lots of pms. I went on Paxil for depression about 15 years ago and low and behold, it took away my pms. Honestly, I was a mellow momma for the first time in my life. It also eliminated hot flashes and a lot of the emotional aspects of menopause. I do still have occassional night sweats but that I can live with. I can't use hormones as I react to them but there are several of the antidepressants that have shown to be very effective in helping menopause symptoms. Maybe discuss it with your doctor and see if it helps. BYW, I tried changing to Zoloft and I had a terrible time with hot flashes so I went back to the paxil.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

It's kind of early for menopause, but might be peri-menopause ("pre" menopause, where you still get periods but hormones begin to go whacko and you get some menopausal symptoms.)

Your BH is a funny man. A bit foolhardy, perhaps, but funny. But I think when you're cranky, you're much funnier! Go for the swirlie!!!

Ummm...You never know when a woman might go into menopause. I have a friend who's going through peri-menopause at 30. Her mom went through menopause by the time she hit 35.

 

[miss missy]

OK ladies, here goes. I'm 42yo and still get regular monthly visits. But I've had a series of problems with hormone imbalances and other problems and wouldn't surprise me if I hit it early. All summer i have been dealing with heavy sweating, breaking out in sweats. My kids, three college kids, are giving me stress. Good kids but college kids and summer just sort of ended, they've been stretching it out.
I complained to dh about the humiidity killing me this summer. He proceeds to tell me it's probably menopause, losing weight might help. And he announces that I will be terrible with menopause. Oh and by the way, he says, when your monthly comes I'm going to get an apt. since you get so cranky. I'm glad he's so helpful and sweet.
Then I'm thinking I really don't like this butthole. How did I ever like this man. This person to whom I've been married for 22 years, I will likely kill. If he, who never birthed a child or had a horrible period decides to comment to me on the big M I will surely stick his head in the toilet and flush a few times.

The post alone sound like Menopause to me Seriously, my did was half way through at 42. It can happen. The DR can test for it, but I know most think its too early... what do men know though! LOL

 

[DVC Jen]

I complained to dh about the humiidity killing me this summer. He proceeds to tell me it's probably menopause, losing weight might help. And he announces that I will be terrible with menopause. Oh and by the way, he says, when your monthly comes I'm going to get an apt. since you get so cranky. I'm glad he's so helpful and sweet.
Then I'm thinking I really don't like this butthole. How did I ever like this man. This person to whom I've been married for 22 years, I will likely kill. If he, who never birthed a child or had a horrible period decides to comment to me on the big M I will surely stick his head in the toilet and flush a few times.

OMG I am dyin here!

That has got to be the funniest thing I have read on here in a LONG time.

I just turned 40 and although I haven't been experiencing what you are (yet) I feel, from time to time, the same way you to about MY DH. Kind of a love/hate relationship.

Thanks for a good laugh. I needed that today.

 

[robinb]

I'm 45 and perimenopausal and my husband is smart enough to just lay low when I'm like that.

 

[Christine]

Tigeroo--Since you are 42 and still having regular periods, this is "perimenopause" rather than menopause and it will likely go on for about 10 years!!

I, too, am going through the same thing (I'm also 42). In fact I was at the GYN yesterday and discussed it a bit. There is really no test they can do to prove it but you can notice by the changes in your body.

One positive thing for me is that my periods have gotten shorter. Rather than last a full 7 days, they stop after 4 days. They are still regular as clockwork but the actual period has changed. My doc said that this is due to hormonal shifts and being out of balance. My mom said that the same thing happened to her. You will also notice that you probably don't have the energy that you used to--this is not necessarily "getting older" but hormonal reasons.

When my mom was going through peri, she was constantly tired and always cold, especially in the winter. The woman LIVED with layers of clothing. She lived with me for a few months and was always freezing. Oh, her thyroid was fine. After she went through menopause, she never has this now. She said she hasn't worn a sweater in years and feels "normal." She also does not have the fatigue that she always had in her 40s.

I have had months where I've had bouts of sweats but nothing serious. But basically, as the hormones change, your body's core temperature goes up and down in response so you can alternate between freezing all the time and then sweating.

 

[Disneyaunt4]

I am 47 and perimenopausal and my husband is not smart enough to lay low,even though I warn him all the time. I love him dearly but tell him I can kill him and get away with it at this hormonal time in my life. In fact he is annoying me at this moment.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I am 47 and perimenopausal and my husband is not smart enough to lay low,even though I warn him all the time. I love him dearly but tell him I can kill him and get away with it at this hormonal time in my life. In fact he is annoying me at this moment.

Change my age to 45, almost 46 and this is me!!! My husband has been annoying the hell out of me and I've been wondering what I saw in him 24 years ago. I wrote a long vent post on the PMS thread just to release some steam over a trivial matter that I was ready to kill him over (not literally, but the man is driving me nuts).

I haven't had any night sweats, but the hormones have been out of whack, leading to lots of migraines, which do not help my mood. Throw in a hormonal college daughter, a couple teenage sons who are as different as night and day from each other (good kids, but still teenage boys) and a handful of a 6yo son and I have to remind myself on a daily basis that these really are the good ole days (I'm talking about with my kids at home, not my mood swings ).

As you can see with my first tag, my hormones have invaded my DIS postings, too.

 

[Tiggeroo]

my periods have changed. They are very heavy but very short. I was being treated for very heavy periods a bit ago, then they were very very long. They checked my levels then and they were normal. Now the problem is back but shorter. I'm luck to not get embarassed when this happens.
I get tired and nauseous.
DH is beyond clueless. Since he turned 40 he has been the ultimate cranky man. Men must have their own versiou of menopause. So put a cranky old man, a perimenopausal woman, three teenagers and an insane cat into a three bedroom condo and the recipe is basically for disaster. I thought I had gotten rid of the kids at least during the school year. Well, one son is taking the semester off to think about his life, yeah right, DD is a fifth year sr. and to save money, hers, she's staying home for this year, and other son decided to work weekends for the first six weeks of school so he comes home every weekend. He now has a serious gf so i'm sure that's the reason for that. And he's driving a car I don't like, too small, so every time he drives home and back i'm a nervous wreck. But then he tells me, mom i'm 19, I can drive any car I want. Hahaha yeah right. who's paying that car insurance.

 

[Galahad]

Studies have shown that when a women is ovulating, she is attracted to the rugged, handsome, outdoor type of man. When a woman is not ovulating she is attracted to the sensitive man who is a good listener. When a woman is menopausal, she is attracted to a man with scissors crammed into his temple.

 

[Christine]

Studies have shown that when a women is ovulating, she is attracted to the rugged, handsome, outdoor type of man. When a woman is not ovulating she is attracted to the sensitive man who is a good listener. When a woman is menopausal, she is attracted to a man with scissors crammed into his temple.

So true..

 

[Christine]

my periods have changed. They are very heavy but very short. I was being treated for very heavy periods a bit ago, then they were very very long. They checked my levels then and they were normal. Now the problem is back but shorter. I'm luck to not get embarassed when this happens.
I get tired and nauseous.

Mine are also very heavy for two days and I have clots (sorry for the TMI). In fact, since July I have had two blood test that indicated low red blood cell counts. My doctor attributes this to my periods. Honestly, they don't seem "too" heavy to me, but maybe I am just used to them.

I get VERY tired in spells. Sometimes I have normal energy and other times I can barely function. I get nausea too but I also assumed that was my reflux.

 

[crazyme5kids]

I have to say, my husband is trying to learn as much as he can about menopause. One night after we went out to dinner we stopped at a drug store. Due to the couple of glasses of wine I had I must have been in a fairly happy mood. As we were walking around, he very thoughtfully pulled a box of Estroven off the shelf and said, "I read this is very good, maybe it will help you.".

Just last week he was asking me about certain symptons. Things like constipation, bloating and my "mis-shaping body" (no, let's not call it fat ). I felt like I was part of a cheesey comercial. When I questioned him about his questions, he said he had been reading some magazine articles. He said the airline magazines are a wealth of information.

My husband loves me very much........ or he's just really, really afraid of me !

 

[Tigger&Belle]

tiggeroo, my husband has also been cranky. I assume it's due to the stress that he's had at work and his own health concerns (short term memory problems), but he hasn't been a joy to live with. That doesn't help things for sure. Sorry that you're kids are not out of the house. Don't you want to toss them out the door some days and yell, "FLY!"

 

[Brise Nannie]

Here's another vote for soy. My hair stylist told me about Silk Soy so I reluctantly tried it and have found it to be a staple in my diet now. I drink the chocolate flavor and really it doesn't taste as bad as everyone thinks. HONEST. Doesn't resemble soy milk for infants in the least. Can't say I've ever tried infant soy milk but I don't think if I threw up on myself it would smell the same either. No sweats or flashes here.

 

[Tiggeroo]

Can't say I've ever tried infant soy milk but I don't think if I threw up on myself it would smell the same either

hahahaha