Mending a broken heart

[ez]

My 19 DS's girlfriend of 1 1/2 years broke up with him Tuesday. It was totally unexpected for him, and he is devastated. In an earlier relationship, he was the one who did the breaking up, so this is the first time he has ever had to deal with this side of things. Does anyone have any suggestions for me , or him, to help his broken heart start mending. Seeing him like this (constant tears or on the verge of) is breaking mine.

 

[caitycaity]

the only thing that ever worked for me was time.

sorry he is going through this, but i guess it's something that everyone goes through at one point or another.

 

[aunt lissa]

Gee wish I had some great words of wisdom for you here, but can only suggest what I do when my heart is broken...keep him busy for a while!! I stay as busy as possible to keep my mind from wondering too much, it's then that I get all choked up!! Best of luck to both of you!

 

[mrsdon]

My son is going through the same thing. They were engaged and planned to be married Jan 27th 2005,.
The only thing that is helping him get through this is working about 60 hours a week, We also have refued to bad mouth the lazy, lying, spoilded brat of a child.(at least to him)
We have also told him if he needs to talk we will be ready to listen.

 

[SandraM]

The loss of a relationship isn't unlike the death of a close friend or relation. Time needs to be spent grieving, and perhaps you can help your son realise that it's ok to do that. You sound like a wonderfully supportive parent. I remember being in bits over a relationship and I was told that "there are plenty more fish in the sea"! This did not make me feel better.
Time is the only recipe for recovery I can give you. I wish your son well.

 

[JC2]

No advice. I just wanted to say you're a good parent to care so much and be there for him.

 

[Angelgirl13202]

Me and my ex just split after over a year of dateing.......we were very much in love in fact i still love him just in a different way he will always be special for things we shared. all i can say is that time does heal and i will take more time if he intended to marry her at somepoint.

Every one keeps telling me my relationship was over months before it was (turned into a long distance thing) But i know that it was special and wasnt over yet.

The only reason we did finally call it quits was bc the distance killed us. i did fly out to visit all the way on the other side of the country...................we had a lot of fun and created a lot of great memorys but that was it we realized it wouldnt work. i was origanilly planning to move out thier(thankful i didnt) but he and i still remain good friends to this day so if this person was that special i would say give it time and maybe they will be freinds at one point......but it does take time