Men are such fools.

[ratherbeatdisney]

anyone see the irony that the OP name is Bellewdw ? BELLE??? isnt it Belle that gets with the Big ugly Guy who has a huge castle and tons of stuff? oh how i love the Irony...

 

[FireDancer]

Well, at least this thread title isn't an over generalization or anything.

I mind my own business and don't judge the people anyone else dates. So he is dating someone younger and that makes the man a fool...why? If he were dating someone overweight, from a different race, or taller than him would he also be a fool?

His and her motivation for the relationship are no one's business but their own. There are sure a lot of nosy people in the world not minding their own business.

If he is attracted more to a woman in her 20's than her 50's than that is who he should date.

 

[ratherbeatdisney]

I know that is the way things are and I still don't think it is right. The only people who ever complain about it are the guys that dont have any cash or success, or women who are not so good lookingI I think your statement was pretty ignorant. Talk about stereotyping!!! I've seen plenty of good looking guys complaining that all women are interested in are money, etc. I've seen attractive women talking about what guys only care about are looks. No I believe we were not "built" like animals. I was not attracted to my husband just because of his money, job, success or strictly his looks. I was attracted to him because the more I got to know him the more I really saw what a wonderful person he was. I LOVE his qualities and that what makes me LOVE HIM. I am ALSO VERY ATTRACTED TO HIM TOO. I don't believe a relationship that is based solely on such superficial things such as solely sexual attraction, looks, money, etc. will endure. Looks fade, money runs out, jobs end, etc.

NOPE !! you are wrong !! Guys like hot chicks, hot chicks like either good looking guys, or guys that have cash. end of story. you are entitled to be wrong though....

 

[JerseyJanice]

And I would like to ask again, respectfully, what led you to this conclusion.

Obviously, it's from her vast life experience!

 

[Jennasis]

It's so exciting to see who will get the last word on this thread before it inevitably gets shut down.

You can THINK "ewww" all you want. You can even say it about the relationship between the man and woman referenced in the OP. To say "Ewwwww" DIRECTLY to the poster who stated she preferred older men is rude, crass, hurtful and completely out-of-order.

That is all. This thread will self-destruct in 3....2....1....

 

[jemgumby]

I don't have a daughter, but if I did, I wouldn't think it was any of my business who she dated at 28 years old. But if she were just looking for a "sugar daddy" it would make me sad that the upbringing she got from me didn't lead her to aspire to better choices.



Congratulations! You may think your sexual choices are the same ones every decent woman should make, but most don't. Many people get together in the first place because they find each other physically attractive. That's actually very normal in most worlds. When I first met my husband (at the age of 26), I was very physically attracted to him, and I know he felt the same way about me. Over time, we grew close in every other way, and here we are 21 years later, very happily married.



No, I think you're immature because you're carrying on about older men being attracted to younger women as if it's something outrageously abnormal. I also think it's ignorant to rave on and on about being a virgin when you got married at 21 on a Disney message board.



See, here's your problem. You're the one who can't think outside of her own little world. You seem to think that men and women should only get together if they're the same age and have more than a physical attraction when they first meet.

Oh, and I guess you think that a person should only have one sexual partner in her/his entire life? Sorry, but I don't want that for my son, and if I had a daughter, I'd feel the same way. I don't believe that two people should wait to get married before they figure out whether they're sexually compatible. I believe that a couple should figure out such an important aspect of married life before they even get engaged. [/QUOTE]

Well with thinking like the above in bold there is a chance of teen/unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, etc. That is why today abstinence is promoted hence the saying "abstinence is the best policy" Oh and your right it is half of all marriages end in divorce. Still half of all marriages ending in divorce is pretty sad. The 3 out of 4 was something completely different and certainly a whole other thread.

 

[jemgumby]

It's so exciting to see who will get the last word on this thread before it inevitably gets shut down.

You can THINK "ewww" all you want. You can even say it about the relationship between the man and woman referenced in the OP. To say "Ewwwww" DIRECTLY to the poster who stated she preferred older men is rude, crass, hurtful and completely out-of-order.

That is all. This thread will self-destruct in 3....2....1....

Since when do people really care about other people's feelings on this board?

 

[Jennasis]

Since when do people really care about other people's feelings on this board?

Lamest excuse for poor behavior ever. I care. Otherwise I wouldn't have bothered to call you out on your unbelievably unacceptable comment.

 

[Plannin'Shannon]

Well with thinking like the above in bold there is a chance of teen/unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, etc. That is why today abstinence is promoted hence the saying "abstinence is the best policy" Oh and your right it is half of all marriages end in divorce. Still half of all marriages ending in divorce is pretty sad. The 3 out of 4 was something completely different and certainly a whole other thread.

Yes, abstinence-only education has proven to be so very successful, hasn't it?

 

[jemgumby]

Lamest excuse for poor behavior ever. I care. Otherwise I wouldn't have bothered to call you out on your unbelievably unacceptable comment.

FYI I was not making an excuse. I am entitled to my opinion just as you are. So when I think of somebody being with a person who is twice their age it does gross me out. Flame away, don't care. This is a COMMUNITY DISCUSSION BOARD and everyone should be allowed to state their opinions even if we don't personally agree.

 

[Plannin'Shannon]

FYI I was not making an excuse. I am entitled to my opinion just as you are. So when I think of somebody being with a person who is twice their age it does gross me out. Flame away, don't care. This is a COMMUNITY DISCUSSION BOARD and everyone should be allowed to state their opinions even if we don't personally agree.

Would you have said "Ew" to someone's face in real life?

I think not.

 

[John VN]

Got to get this maybe last word in....

JerseyJanice, any chance you are familiar with B&W in Hackensack and their wonderful Heavy Crumb Cake? This not good looking and old Bergen County boy who has no desire for a young hot girl is really in need of a Heavy Crumb Cake fix

 

[Jennasis]

FYI I was not making an excuse. I am entitled to my opinion just as you are. So when I think of somebody being with a person who is twice their age it does gross me out. Flame away, don't care. This is a COMMUNITY DISCUSSION BOARD and everyone should be allowed to state their opinions even if we don't personally agree.

Commenting on somebody's taste in a partner is rude (if somebody had said they like blondes, or tall guys, or fat chicks and you responded with ewww to any of those, it would be the same. RUDE). Using the "I'm entitled to my opinion" or "free speech" or "it's just a message board" does not excuse the rudeness. You said what you wanted to, and now you will have to deal with the repercussions of stating your opinion. I can't imagine you care that strangers think you're rude....but I care enough to let you know.

Consider it my good deed for the day, world.

 

[jemgumby]

Yes, abstinence-only education has proved to be so very successful, hasn't it?

Have you watched Teen Mom on MTV? There is a couple on their (can't think of their names) that gave their baby up for adoption. After all they went through being a pregnant teenage couple and giving up a baby for adoption do you know they had unprotected sex after the baby was born? Now you know they are educated on what makes a baby since they already made one!!! It showed her at her followup OBGN check and the doc specifically asked her if she had sex and she said NO. Her boyfriend later called her out and said why did you lie and she said it was because she was afraid she wouldn't get the birth control. I am not a prude and believe sex education is very important. MY DD is 9 and I've talked about sex with her. It's just not education cause if that was the case then this teenage couple who already gave up one kid wouldn't be having unprotected sex would they? It is about self respect and making good choices. I had a young girl about 19 just confide in me that she had sex and I could tell she really regreted it. I wasn't going to set there and add salt in the wound so I said well all you can do now is move forward and not make the same mistakes again. To really avoid unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted disease abstitence is really the only way. That is the truth and a fact!

 

[jemgumby]

Commenting on somebody's taste in a partner is rude (if somebody had said they like blondes, or tall guys, or fat chicks and you responded with ewww to any of those, it would be the same. RUDE). Using the "I'm entitled to my opinion" or "free speech" or "it's just a message board" does not excuse the rudeness. You said what you wanted to, and now you will have to deal with the repercussions of stating your opinion. I can't imagine you care that strangers think you're rude....but I care enough to let you know.

Consider it my good deed for the day, world.

If that's your good deed for the day that is pretty sad.....You can think I am rude all you want. I am so sure that in all your postings you have never been rude?????

 

[JerseyJanice]

Well with thinking like the above in bold there is a chance of teen/unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, etc. That is why today abstinence is promoted hence the saying "abstinence is the best policy" Oh and your right it is half of all marriages end in divorce. Still half of all marriages ending in divorce is pretty sad. The 3 out of 4 was something completely different and certainly a whole other thread.

I never said anything about half of marriages or 3 out of 4, or anything of the kind. I don't know what the marriage/divorce statistics are, so I wouldn't post it. Even if I did know or look up the correct numbers, I don't know the reason why most divorces occur, and unlike you seem to be doing on this thread, I wouldn't make up a reason and try to use it to bolster my arguments.

The young lady in the OP is 28--far past the point of becoming a pregnant teen. When my children become adults, I expect them to have experiences (physical and otherwise) that help choose a life mate that they will be happy with and achieve true intimacy with.

 

[LuvOrlando]

I don't see what makes the guy a fool. Why is he a fool to pick a woman for her beauty and age and she less a fool to pick a man for success especially since you probably wouldn't be saying this of a guy down on his luck? These days we have cougars too. It's not my thing but I can see why it would work. Older people have more money and stability and younger people have youth and good looks. From an evolutionary standpoint, older men who have proven themselves to be the right mix for success draw attractive women so the next generation is likely to have the genes for both beauty and success. This would be the case with cougars too, except that mother nature was unkind with the female biological clock.... but as a society we're challenging that these days too aren't we?

Now if more details were provided like that the guy wrecked his family for the woman or she destroyed her family for a crack at "Old Guy Lotto" I might agree with foolishness. But armed with only the surface situation if choosing a likely successful good looking mate made us all fools you could count me in there too. Don't we all go with the best we can find where 'best' is dependent on where we are coming from?

PS--- my DH is a man, and my DS will one day be a man and I can't stand it when someone puts men down based upon their gender. I like men, and I happen to adore the 2 who live in my house. It's ok to say "I think THIS man is a fool" because it's an opinion and we're all entitled to have one, but it is not ok to speculate that ALL are fools because then the conversation is about something totally different and I disagree 100%.

 

[Jennasis]

If that's your good deed for the day that is pretty sad.....You can think I am rude all you want. I am so sure that in all your postings you have never been rude?????

Well it's only my good deed for today. I'll do something more worldly tomorrow. And of COURSE I've been rude...and been called on it by others, rightly so.

 

[JerseyJanice]

Got to get this maybe last word in....

JerseyJanice, any chance you are familiar with B&W in Hackensack and their wonderful Heavy Crumb Cake? This not good looking and old Bergen County boy who has no desire for a young hot girl is really in need of a Heavy Crumb Cake fix

Yes, I am well acquainted with B&W bakery. They changed hands a few years ago, and it was looking a little shaky there for a while, but fortunately, the new owners got back on track and are now selling that wonderful crumb cake and their meltaway Danish rings.

 

[Plannin'Shannon]

When my children become adults, I expect them to have experiences (physical and otherwise) that help choose a life mate that they will be happy with and achieve true intimacy with.

You sound just like my mom. I'm proud to say that I made responsible, educated decisions and am now preparing for medical school. She must have done something right!

(Done tooting my own horn now )