Memorial Service--Need Ideas

[disneyfanatic60]

I have a memorial service to go to on Saturday. I guy I work with lost his precious wife to breast cancer two weeks ago. She was in her early 40's. She was a youth activist and very involved in the community. In July, she went to Washington to speak to Congress on potential funding cuts for cancer and our local research center. She truly was an amazing lady.

It appears this is going to be a large service. He has many people coming into town and has booked large sections of hotels. I want to do something but I don't know what to do. Originally, he was inundated with food so much so that he donated large amounts to our local homeless shelters, etc. It was just him and his two sons.

I was thinking with all the out of town guests, however, now may be the time to make something to help him out. Maybe even something they could use at the Reception he has planned afterwards.

Does anyone have any ideas? I'm thinking something that does not need to be refrigerated.

 

[jama]

When my mom died some of my friends gave us a huge meat cheese platter from a deli. Also bread, chips. We really appreciated this because it was very easy to make sandwiches for us and out of town relatives.

 

[CEDmom]

I'm so sorry for this family. You may want to wait a few months to do something. Likely the family is getting inundated with food, flowers etc but once family and friends go back to their own lives he and his sons will still be dealing with their loss.

I don't know how old the kids are but with the holidays coming up maybe you could do something nice for them. If they're young even taking them somewhere for a few hours would give their dad some time for himself.

We lost a friend to breast cancer a few years ago and she left behind a 2 yo son and her DH. We try to do stuff with them as much as possible. I give her son some mothering and his dad gets a chance to just hangout with my DH.

 

[mickeyboat]

I know this is going to sound crazy, but here goes. This person will have lots of people in and out of his house, and he will need lots of stuff to take care of them while they are here. Maybe you could get some huge packages of toilet paper, paper towels, plastic and styrofoam cups, garbage bags, nuts, mints, coffee, sugar packets, etc. Know what I mean?

Denae

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Sounds like a donation to breast cancer research or her community group in her honor might be the thing to do here.

 

[Hannathy]

When my folks died a few things stood out as really being appreciated and useful. as the other poster said someone sent a big can of coffee and stuff for it, bottles of soda, rolls and condiments. Someone sent a precooked spiral ham - we ate off it for days could just go grab a piece and munch or make a sandwich.

When my DD was helping set up for the lunch after at her Teacher's house when his DD died she called and said Mom you need to go buy Styrofoam cups and bring them we have coffee and nothing to put it in.