Meghan and Mikes At Home Wedding/Disneymoon9/18/10**THE DRESS

[PeytonSdiz]

I really like the Navy blue/pink stuff that was posted on the previous page. I think it looks classier than the teal.

 

[teddygurl28]

I really like the Navy blue/pink stuff that was posted on the previous page. I think it looks classier than the teal.

yeah i think teal would be too summery looking ... also... i just think navy and champagne together will look nice and a pink will make it pop

ohhh and i was just on the main page looking at a page on the bulk candy..and i saw the set up of the candy area on of the girls had...and now my hair dresser had that for her wedding...the favors were chinese take out boxes (obviously nice ones not real ones but shaped that way..ok im getting off topic) and she had tons of candy set up and people could just fill up the boxes with anything they wanted.....i think...

i so want to do that! i mentioned it to df via email and he said yes...but i need his reaction in person..so t-minus 1 hr til we leave work and walk to the train and ill find out ... i also mentioned it might be $$ so he said he would talk to his parents .. this is typically how i know hes into something...so i could be on the right path!

 

[PeytonSdiz]

I remember seeing those "take-out" boxes when we planned our wedding. Very cute. We were on a budget though so we went cheaper with just tulle circles tied with ribbon (and filled with candy.)

I think all shades of white/ivory/whatever work for weddings so whatever you choose will be fine. I'm super pale so an ivory would have looked better on my skin but I really wanted white (I'm very traditional and always dreamed of a white dress) and I knew I'd regret it if I did anything else. But I have seen some gorgeous non-white dresses on brides before. You really can't go wrong with whhatever you choose.

 

[figment fan21]

I love the idea of a candy bar! DF think we're going to do that for our at home wedding reception. I'd rather that than one of those favors that get throw in someones kitchen junk drawer!

 

[figment fan21]

I just saw your facebook post!!! I was details!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[teddygurl28]

ok so here is my story....in the end..i still need you guys to give me opinions on bridesmaid dresses..

so the weather today was SUPPOSED to be rainy and my moh and i decide we were going to look at bm dresses....i had a hair appointment at 10, so at 1130 i went and picked her up and it was cloudy so we figured it would stilll be a crappy day all around. we go to a bridal store up the street from me and end up trying on about 12 dresses....we narrow it down to about 3 but we werent totally crazy about any of them....in the end we decided to go upstairs so i could look at bridal gowns...the woman helping us was asking me a million questions about what i was looking for..but i told her i jsut wanted to look i wasnt planning on trying anything on...so she left me alone...then my moh found this dress and i was like ohhhhh its prettty so i took that and another dress and went to the room...i was like hmm lets try the prettiest one on first...so i put it on and we clip it up...and i walk out to a side mirror ( meanwhile my saleswoman is totally MIA..downstairs somewhere)....and I was in love ..
...another lady came over and found my saleslady and they got me a slip and a veil and put me in a bigger room with huge mirrors and a pedestal
...at the point when she put on the veil i looked at my moh and was like im either going to cry or be sick
so here it is

you arent supposed to take photos there but my moh has a pic on her camera so ill have to get it from her

it looks amaaaaaazing on ( of course im going to say that lol ) but it really really does

its amazing because i really wasnt planning on looking at dresses and i definately wasnt expecting to find "MY" dress...but i couldnt be happier

of course i come home to tell my mom and show her...and shes like well i have to see it on..i dont like the jewel. im like uh i dont care i love it....she kind of ruined my mood ( more to come on that later )

 

[teddygurl28]

now we went to another store to continue looking at bm dresses...i really want tea length ...even though im having a night wedding and my dress is really detailed lace and very elegant and eyepopping looking. my mother thinks everything looks like crap and wants me to do long..and i made the comment that "we" want tea lenth, and she said who is we..and i said me and the girls, and she said well its your wedding not theirs so its not what they want...and i was like yeh no kidding but I want tea length..and shes like well you should just have a morning wedding then because it looks foolish...
... talk about ruining my mood...i started crying and didnt even want to make my dinner anymore ...yet she doesnt see anything wrong with what she says...( she also doesnt see anything wrong with what she said about my dress i picked out)...i mean i know im going to get comments from everyone about the wedding and i cant make everyone happy..but my own mother is being the worst everything i say she contadricts... she doesnt like my dress because of the jewel, she doesnt like tea length for the girls it looks not elegant enough, she doesnt like the candy buffet idea because people may not understand it (and she came up with some rediculous other favor idea that i HATE)... she didnt plan her wedding when she got married -her mother did- its like im sorry you didnt get to plan yours, but that doesnt give you the right to try and plan mine and then destroy everything i have i want to do on top of it all any time i try to talk to her about it..all she says is its to early maybe other dress styles will come out or why order it now its too early maybe you will loose alot more weight....grrr.....okay sorry way off topic...

...so my moh and i saw two bm dresses that we love....they would be in navy...but we havent narrowed it down yet...so opions are welcome!

i like this one because it seems a little bit more elegant but still flirty fun

and i just like this one

 

[MainStMandy]

Ok first of all, that dress is just gorgeous!!! I know how you feel...my mom didn't LOVE my dress at first. But it comes down to what you want. You are going to have look back at those pictures.

Second of all...I LOVE the BM dress!! My moh is wearing a tea length dress and I don't think it's any less formal!!

It sounds like you had a lot of fun dress shopping! Can't wait to see pics.

 

[figment fan21]

Awe Meghan

I know this feeling all too well. Its your wedding you do what ever YOU and your future husband want.

I love your gown! I can't wait to see the pictures of you in it! I like the jewel on it, i think those are so beautiful!

I like both BM dresses! If you do the first one i'd do a sash around the waist. I really really like the second dress, I think it'll be lovely in Navy! But both of them are very pretty and i think your right that the first one is more formal.

 

[Pirate's Princess]

Love those dresses!

 

[teddygurl28]

ok so there was a 3rd dress my moh tried on..that i loved...the problem...its long...but i love it...i think i want my girls to get it...i asked them if they would hate long dresses and noone seemed against it..what really it was was that its my wedding they will do what i want...whether or not they are happy about it im not sure ...but this dress is a pretty front and the back zips up but has buttons down the top back half...i could have them cut to tea length IF i wanted too...so thats an option..so this is the dress....i think i may go with this one....

...atleast my mother will be satisfied

the other thing to look at is now even though i would want the bm shoe color to be the same the shoes may not have to match exactly..

 

[PeytonSdiz]

I'm assuming your mom is probably around the same age as my mom. I think their generation sticks to traditional things and out-dated "rules" a lot of the time. So I wouldn't worry too much if she thinks tea-length can't be for an evening wedding. Do what you want and don't worry about "rules."

 

[figment fan21]

I have to say that I like that dress too! All three of them, I think, would go great with an evening wedding.

 

[teddygurl28]

yeh i dont listen to her "rules" i just get so frustrated!
i think i need darker hate blockers lol

but i think i just love this long dress i think it will compliment my dress a little bit better than a tea length dress just because my dress is sooooo detailed ( i honestly dont think there is an inch of material that isnt covered with something)

i hate being the most indecisive person in the world!!!!!!!!!!!

the only things i know
1) im in love with my dress
2) i want to go to disney daily

 

[LLLBelle]

Your dress is gorgeous! That third dress will look nice with yours, you are doing the bm in navy, right?

 

[msGAJeepgurl]

First let me say this, you are the first DISBride I've ever felt a connection with. Maybe its the issues - I can relate, maybe its the Sept wedding and Disneymoon, maybe its just we rock.
HAH so I am going to hijack your report temporarily but its all in love and happiness

Dresses: I love # 3, but that last one is gorgeous. Trust me, I bough mine from a Tux shop wearhouse sale....and it made me cry. That was enough for me.

BM Dresses: your wedding, your choice. Be mindful of $$, but beyond that who cares about the rules?!?!? Tea length is perfect so long as you arent doing a super formal, everyone attending must wear a ballgown and 3 piece tux.

Colors: I like the Pink, I like the gold/champagne color, I like the idea of doing a darker color for "fall". What about mixing a dark teal (blue & green teheh) with the Pink. Using gold accents, i.e. vases, table overlays, napkins, etc?

Your momma: first and foremost I know how it can be. My momma feels since she and DD are paying, they have the right to chose everything. And then when she tells me to chose, but I chose what I want not what she was thinking she gets pissed. I promise it will all work out - drink booze, it helps.

YAY now I'm caught up on your PJ

 

[teddygurl28]

First let me say this, you are the first DISBride I've ever felt a connection with. Maybe its the issues - I can relate, maybe its the Sept wedding and Disneymoon, maybe its just we rock.
HAH so I am going to hijack your report temporarily but its all in love and happiness

Dresses: I love # 3, but that last one is gorgeous. Trust me, I bough mine from a Tux shop wearhouse sale....and it made me cry. That was enough for me.

BM Dresses: your wedding, your choice. Be mindful of $$, but beyond that who cares about the rules?!?!? Tea length is perfect so long as you arent doing a super formal, everyone attending must wear a ballgown and 3 piece tux.

Colors: I like the Pink, I like the gold/champagne color, I like the idea of doing a darker color for "fall". What about mixing a dark teal (blue & green teheh) with the Pink. Using gold accents, i.e. vases, table overlays, napkins, etc?

Your momma: first and foremost I know how it can be. My momma feels since she and DD are paying, they have the right to chose everything. And then when she tells me to chose, but I chose what I want not what she was thinking she gets pissed. I promise it will all work out - drink booze, it helps.

YAY now I'm caught up on your PJ

hijack away!

i put my dress on at teh store again and still love it, i got all nervous putting it on so i took that as a good sign..then the lady basically made me a barbie doll and she and one of my bm's played dress up on me
a decision has been made that i cant wear a necklace or it will take away from the dress..normally okay right? welll i have this birthmark/mole on my neck that i hate..now its always visible but i feel when im wearing a necklace its like hidden ( even though its clearly not) now my doctor has once already said she would remove it, even thoguh its non cancerous because the effects of the sun could be dangerous and with my history and my luck i should get it removed...so now im thinking ugh maybe i should, so thats something that im going to have to speak to my doc about next time i see her
...and yes im that ocd about things i will have a mole removed for my wedding
...back to the dress its an "impressions" dress style 2977..incase anyone is interested lol im still waiting to get the pic from my moh from our day at the store

the red dress posted above willl be my BM dress

so i figure okay i can relax now..right? NO
...hair and make up has to be booked in september. now im making my girls get their hair done at the salon with me its $60 i have to pay half now the rest is due the day of...im going to toss it on my CC and have the girls pay me the $30 sometime within the next 3 months ( thats plenty of time to come up with $30 i feel)
..my issue is w/ the make up..i want the make up professionally done..and i have good valid reasons...some of the girls will go way overboard and look like they belong in a certain type of club and others will show with no make up on...so i want it professionally done..my dilemma is do i make them do it at the salon with me and pay $50...do i make them do it at the salon and i pay as part of my gift? or do i say it needs to be professionaly done you can do it with me or do it on your own and i just need to know whos doing it?


also im going to get the girls jewlery to wear with the dress..i think?
and since i have 8 girls...yes 8..in case anyone forgot im insane...so i have a family jeweler on both sides now that i can go too...but my father reminded me i need to go within the next couple of months because if anything needs to be ordered it could take some time i dont know what to get!
ah

also back to a funny story..when they were dressing me up at teh store i told the lady i wanted a tiara for sure ( bc i know i do) but not a huge one just minimal, which apparently it wont look so good because my hair is blonde and it wont stand out (uhm yeh im not buying the big gaudy expensive one get over it) and so she asked me how i was doing my hair..i was like uh im not totally sure yet and tehn she kind of leaned into me on how i should know that because it makes a huge difference on what im going to be buying...i was like well im not going to be buying any of the accessories until later anyways..but its like come on i dont know how im going to wear my hair tomorrow nevermind next september

engagement photos are september 13-no idea what im wearing for that just know that they will be in boston...still not sure where in boston.....are you guys catching the theme of this post....

its like im still in an up mood and excited im just SO LOST


im going to maine for the week starting monday..so that will be nice..no nothing up there..just the lake and the house ..no internet..minimal cell phone..basic tv

ok im done ranting....

 

[teddygurl28]

okay so im going to update the post name but its still a rant..but i need serious help..i think i know what i want to do ( ok i know what i want to do...but...) so i have 8 attendants...2 of them right now are issues.
... lets start off with att.
#1. lets call her S. S has bowtox on her lips and and eyes and is on drugs and just got kicked out of her house..she needs to order her dress like this month/next month and this month i need to speak with her about her hair make up ( im paying for make up but they pay for hair)
#2 is the one i have been complaining about all along..she didnt want pink when i want pink, now that i have picked the long dresses (COMMON for most weddings she is complaining to the MOH about alterations) also she is complaining babout price in general..MOH said about $200...they will be $180after discount and tax..i asked all my bm and moh about getting hair done togather and gave them pricfe of $60 and they said ok..she said can go i on my own for $30 or so? i wnt to say ok..but then again shes the only one? NO its my day suck it up...eat in one night...but then i feel bad saying no out loud...but shes *****ing behind my back..also she is saying if it were her and her wedding she wouldnt have #1 in her wedding...( so okay when you get married dont....)

 

[teddygurl28]

my problem is im a people pleaser.... i dont want to hurt these girls or lose them as friends, but at the same time..i dont know how valuable as friends they are...i just quit...lol....i have left messages and i will wait to speak with both of them.....im going to lay everything out and let them know that if they arent committed to this and don't have the time ( or money as appears to be a large issue for bm #2 ( i call her M) ) then thats ok and they can come as guests and leave it at that....oyyyy......back to the drawing board

 

[figment fan21]

ok i'm going to be getting on my soap box now....


first of all, when someone asks you to be in their wedding there are things that you need to take into account before you say yes or no...

first... money... as sad as it is, it is absolutly something you need to take into account. If you can't afford to be in someones wedding there is nothing wrong with declining and letting the bride and/or groom know that money is tight and that you'll just be attending as a guest. I think the bride and/or groom would be appreciative to know that upfront then later down the road.

Second... time... you can not be in someones wedding if you do not have the time to dedicate to it. simple

third... class... yes i said it, class! Being in someones wedding means exactly that, you are in SOMEONE ELSES WEDDING! Unless you have something positive to add to wedding planning dont say anything at all. It isn't about you or any of the other people in the bridal party its about the groom and bride. If you dont like the dress you have to wear handle it with class, if you dont like the usher your paired up with or the bridesmaid standing next to you handle it with class.

Ok i'm done now. I know that you like to be a people pleaser because i am one too but this is about you and your guy! Dont let anyone else ruin it for you... honestly if someone is going to be a jerk about it how much to you want to keep someone like that as an important person in your life?

p.s. DF and I drive to stoneham all the time for his work... i'll stand in as your bridesmaid