Meg + Rob SBP/ADH/UK Lower 10/12/09 - Roots Photos ONLINE! YES!!!!

[PrincessShea]

Oh Meg. Three virtual hugs for you

1. If any family member other than my parents "yelled" at me, I would go psycho; so kudos to you for keeping your cool.
2. I agree with Carrie's sentiment about your "friends". All I have to say is that it's situations like this where you find out who your real friends are. I know, economy, economy, economy. But you are talking to a teacher here and if it were my friend, come hell or high water, I'd be there. I'd take a train or drive; stay in a motel 8, etc. Illness, or people with kids who have no money are understandable though.
3. 25 people showing up sounds like a great number. You will be surrounded by people who truly care about you and you won't have to worry about pleasing all these people who are obviously....uh....handfuls, shall we say.​

I wouldn't get too stressed out. If you are now worried about hitting your minimums...well, you were planning on spending that money anyway, so maybe now you can add some things you had previously cut.

Hang in there

 

[tiggerrifficheidi]

I agree with everyone...SHAME on your friends and family for doing that! As for the uncle...I'm shocked he's not struck with the irony of his statement: So YOU'RE selfish for having YOUR wedding at WDW, and HE thinks HE gets to make that judgment call. Uh-huh. Right.

Okay, I apologize for the sarcasm. I am just constantly shocked how people throw the "selfish" label around so much, but typically only when it interferes with their SELFISH desires.

End of soapbox. Go to the spa. Relax!

 

[29apr00]

Your uncle is a jerk and i haev a few more choice words for your "friends" but the filter would probably bleep it out anyway. So sorry for the stress, i hope you get all the guests you REALLY wanted there in the 1st place and to everyone who is missing it....their loss!

 

[disneygal922]

Oh Meg, I'm so sorry your uncle was a total jerk to you. That's just not right for him to make you feel bad about your decisions. I agree with Carrie, a small wishes wedding can be fantastic. You can still get all your fabulous upgrades and whatnot and still be able to see and chat with everyone. Just remember we are here for you and support you 110%. Keep your chin up hun, it will all work out for the best

 

[camara381]

Oh Meg I am so Sorry you are having to deal with all of this. That is so unfair that your uncle would say that. and lets not mention your "friends" - I cannot believe they did that. People waiting to make reservations until the last minute is to be expected, and 25 people is a great number very intimate. Everything will be beautiful. Hang in there everything will be fine.

 

[malibustacey]

Meg - I had my cousin do nearly the same thing to us.

My cousin and her now Fiance got engaged sometime at the beginning of last year after knowing each other for only a few months. They got pregnant and got a 100% mortage on a house and a brand new car. They NEVER announced any wedding plans. Everyone knew it would be a long engagement because of their extravagant spending and knew they would have to save up hard to afford a wedding in a few years. They only knew each other for 2 months, got tattoos of each others name and got pregnant. No one seriously thought any wedding plans would come so soon( i know 2011 is far away, but even their parents expected 2012+)

Fast forward to me and Wayne getting engaged in August last year- we announced STRAIGHT AWAY that we was going to get married in Disney and it would most definately be November 2010 (as this was the month we got together. We just told everyone we didnt know an exact date).

Now, a few months ago, they sent out some letters to our families (the letter did not include my or Waynes name, just My mum and family as a whole) to be invited to Jamaica for a destination wedding 3 MONTHS AFTER OURS!! (Our wedding will be in November, theirs will be following in Feb!).

So yeah, they got engaged first, but for ages they never planned anything with a wedding, and they didnt have any intention of having a wedding in the near future. So now, my family is 'torn' on where to go for the weddings. I have had 1 auntie and uncle saying they will most definately go to mine and not hers (and have had a reply card back), but i know its a tug o war game now- whos wedding shall we go to!!!

I also did get all sorts from family members telling of my dislike of having my wedding in Disney. One person- that being my own stepmother - saying that her and my Dad would have been able to pay for some of the wedding if it was in the UK- and cant put any money towards the wedding because its in Florida. (i replied, i didnt care about money for the wedding, we just want our family there). My stepmum has a major dislike for Disney and kept saying stupid things like 'is the wedding still on' when i would visit.

So yeah, i know how you are feeling. Here is some hugs

and a dancing banana to make you smile

What you must remember, you do what makes you and Rob happy. Who cares about whos not coming- you have clearly changed your plans that you originally wanted because of other people. It is your wedding, no one should tell you what to do or who to invite. x

 

[DisneyMissy]

I'm sorry all these people are being buttheads You totally don't deserve this so close to your wedding. I know your wedding will still be beautiful and the most important people in your life will be there. Don't let them get you down!

 

[not_Joanna_eggs]

Awww.. Meg. Glad you have your

Aren't families great? I really don't get why other people think they are so important that you would change your wedding plans around them. Seriously?

I agree with Carrie, that a small Wishes wedding is great, because you can really socalize with and "pamper" the guests that do come.

But if the Escape is more your thing... Didn't they implement a clause that you can pay a bit more $ and have up to 25 people at an Escape? That might be an option for you if your number holds.


Jus a tought.... I'll leave you with



Keep 'em on and know the people who really care about you will be there.

 

[Pinkerbell1983]

Think of it this way, all the people who are making a drama out of things now and spoiling this exciting time for you are the ones who will do the exact same at your wedding. If they don't come, they won't be able to get at you. I had two people at my wedding who gave me a really hard time the whole holiday, I thought they were my friends, now I know there not, and I wished they had not come.

p.s. I just realized I will be at Disney when you have your wedding, just like you were at mine. I hope you don't mind me coming to have a peek?

 

[figment fan21]

Awe Meg!!!

I didn't see the whole story before you took it down but from what i got out of everyone elses posts i can see that you're having som severe drama! I'm so sorry for you sweetie! Our wedding isn't until NEXT october and DF and I are getting crap already so i can't even imagine what we'll be dealing with this time next year. But no matter what these girls as well as me are here to support you!

I dont know exactly what your uncle did but shame on him if he did indeed pull out the "selfish" card. I HATE that!!! FDBIL has called DF and I selfish and like stacey, DFMIL keeps asking if "the wedding is on"... Just know that people need to understand that this is about you and your man nobody else!

I would love to do a small wishes wedding if i could afford it. I agree with carrie that you can get everything you want and more with a small wishes wedding. I'd use the extra money on things that you had to cut back on and make your wedding even more amazing so those who aren't going can see your wedding pictures and think "man was i stupid not to go!"

 

[spacerangerqueen]

I'm so sorry your friends and family are backing out!
If you need an extra guest to come eat your yummy food and cake I am here for YOU

 

[acwinsett]

Hey girl! I didn't get a chance to read your post before it was edited, but I'm really sorry about whatever went down in the last few days. Your wedding is going to be AMAZING, no matter who shows up, 'cause you are one of my favorite-est DisBrides and you guys absolutely ROCK! Just think of it as . . . an elopement on steroids!

 

[LuluLovesDisney]

I didn't get to read your post either, but I just wanted to let you know that you did nothing wrong! The couple decides where the wedding will be, the guests decide whether or not they can go. This is why there are RSVP's with room for "graciously accepts" or "declines with regret". There is no box for "have your wedding somewhere else that I like better". If guests can't go, the couple accepts that, why can't the guest accept the location?

I also have to say if my good friend were getting married in Alaska, I would find a way to go!

I am sorry though, you don't deserve this. Forget it and go back to being your cheerful happy self!

 

[malibustacey]

Hey Meg where are you!? Hope you are okay!

I just wanna say that I agree with Becky... i am here to eat some food too -and i would definately find a way to come over there and join ya! (i require 2 pieces of cake!?) haha!!

Hope you come back on here soon and let us know how you are!

 

[LLLBelle]

Family is great, aren't they? I don't know what it is about weddings that brings out the worst in people. My dad won't even talk to me about my wedding and he is not even attending, at least he sent back the RSVP though.

I hope you are doing okay. And if he is willing to act that way, you are better off without him at your wedding. And shame on your "friends" for planning their wedding so close to yours.

 

[MegKate]

Thank you all for the thoughts - they do help muchly! I've been kind of bumming for about a week now. Not that I'm not excited about my wedding, because I still am. It's more that I've found out alot of about the true nature of some of my friends and family and it hurts. What do they say - weddings and funerals bring out the best and the worst of people?

I'm now trying to come up with a plan for my smaller than planned Wishes wedding. I'm at 25 and holding, but we haven't heard from Rob's mother's side of the family yet. The way I see it - they're all going to come, or no one is going to come. His parents are downstate right now having a bit of a family reunion and I've put them in charge of getting the RSVPs back from people. So we'll see what we get back from those, but honestly not expecting much. Since Rob's side would be underrepresented at this point, he's threatening to invite some of his Orlando tv meteorologist buddies, so if that happens, I get DISBrides! LOL

So the plan for my smaller than planned wedding - what else could I add on to the ceremony/reception? Many of the things in my BEO would be changing - we would take out bus transportation since most guests are staying off property or are local - tables would be cut out of the reception - cutting down on floral cost - food cost will obviously go down as well.

Can I even still keep the ADH with 30 odd people?

 

[honey2741]

Can I even still keep the ADH with 30 odd people?

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through that. In the end I realized the people that truly want to be there will show up. I was told I couldn't have ADH with only 30 people...hopefully this policy has changed and you won't have any issues. Hang in there...you are going to have a beautiful wedding day! It's ALL ABOUT YOU!

 

[MainStMandy]

Aww Meg that really stinks. Most of my side isn't coming...but at least I knew up front.

I hope you do get to keep ADH...it SO beautiful!!! I didn't have enough coming to hold our reception their.

Well just think, now you can "spend" a bit more...maybe more expensive floral (centerpeices, etc.) It's so funny when you try to keep things at a certain price and now all of a suddent you need to spend more....too many choices!!

 

[MegKate]

No ADH... I have no idea what I'm going to do. This changes everything if I have to give it up because of the drama. I had a definite vision and plan for my wedding and now it's all falling apart two months before the wedding.

HELP!!!

 

[gemmybear83]

Meg I am so sorry this has happened, obviously I don'y know exactly - but from everyone elses posts I get the general impression Hang in there you are going to have an amazing wedding, and I promise in a few weeks you will be able to laugh about all this drama