Me and my GF of 5 years are breaking up and it sucks.

[funkehouse]

Had to vent a little , sorry all. I have lived with her for 4 years, it is the longest relationship i have had and this is really hard. I love her, but we are just not meant for each other i suppose. we fight SO much and it hurts. me and her fight more in one month than i remember my parents fighting in my whole life. She is heartbroken, as am I, she wants to make it work, but we have tried over and over again, and nothing works, 2-4 weeks later were in another huge fight. and it gets mean, i will not lie i say mean hurtfull things in fights, and she does the same. Its just not healthy for either of us. She told me "thanks for wasting the last 5 years of my life, i though we were gonna get married" i choose to not see it as a waste, it was a life experience that had many many good times, and some bad ones also. Its with her i took my first WDW trip, and my first Cruise. I feel so bad for her, we are still living together, this just happend 2 days ago, but she is planning on staying with her mom for a little while (her mom also lives in the same apartment complex as us, but on the other side, this should be interesting). I hope im doing the right thing, but i just cant take the hurtfull arguments anymore. I can tell we are both gonna have a rough couple of weeks ahead of us. I feel so alone out here also, i moved out to phoenix with her 4 years ago, i have no family and very few friends here. I would like to move back home to Orange County CA, but we have 5 months on a lease left. All i know is breaking up SUCKS. not just for the person getting dumped, it hurts for the other party too. I truly do love her and wish her only the best in life, i just know that i am not the person that can make her the happiest, and she deserves that, even if she doesnt know it right now. thanks again all...

 

[WLfan]

I'm sorry. I hope you're feeling a little better now that you vented.

 

[SamSam]

Breakups are extremely difficult but it sounds like this is the best thing for you (and her) in the long run. All you can do is take things one day, or even a hour at a time to get through it.
Hang in there, remember the good times, learn from the bad, and move on with your life.

 

[noladave]

Dude, this kind of stuff sucks, but you will get through it. We have all been there, some of us multiple times. I didn't get married until I was over 30. I had several multiple year girlfriends during that time, and break-ups were never easy. One side (either her or I) were always hurt.

Hang in there, it will get better with time.

 

[disneym2m]

I agree with what has been said. If you truly have worked at your relationship and are fighting all the time, then it is probably not meant to be. (A lesson learned from the same type of experience). It is probably best that you two separate and put some distance between you. If in the future you meet up again, you will know if it was meant to be OR you two will get back together.

Hang in there. And take one day at a time. And maybe in five months you will be moving back to California.

Thoughts are with both of you during this rough patch in your life.

 

[CinderellasSister]

Good luck to you. These situations are always difficult for everyone to get through. I do agree with everyone else. It sounds like you're making the right decision for yourself. And maybe you can spend the rest of the 5 months getting ready to move back out to CA.

 

[DVCJones]

You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. It is hard to think with your head when your heart tries to get in the way. That is probably why you've been together this long. It is never easy, but it sounds like you are doing the right thing for both of you. Good luck!!!

Like someone already said. We have all been there.... and we all got through it and you will too.

 

[mommyceratops]

(((hugs))) Break ups are hard.

Maybe she has a friend who needs a place and can live with her for 5 months to help with the rent?

Can you do rent and still move to CA?

 

[wishspirit]

I feel for you, however it seems to me like you are making a smart choice.

Best of luck and lots of

 

[*NikkiBell*]

Hugs and pixie dust your way.

 

[MerMom60_94]

Hey Funkehouse, I'm sorry you are going through such a sad experience. Break ups are so hard to go through, but sometimes it is necessary to go through this pain so you can both get to a happier place. As for the past five years being a "waste of time", I don't agree that it has to be. You and she can take lessons from this to bring to future relationships about what it is you need and are looking for. Not to mention you have many good memories of your good times together. Anyway, stay strong.

 

[alebisi]

breakups always sucks.. so I wish you good luck and I'm sending you lots of pixie dust . Anyways...my advice... do some things that can entertain you... I don't know if you like to paint go ahead and paint... keeps your mind busy.
hugs

 

[DisneyLily]

Funkehouse-
I am terribly sorry that this happened to you. I just want you to know that we are here for you =) No matter what, I promise.

 

[klam_chowder]

It does suck, but it's better than a lifetime of fighting which you already realized. According to studies, the next 6 weeks will be the hardest so stay strong, keep yourself busy and hang in there!

cheers,

 

[drakethib]

Yeah they suck for sure and I think we have all went through at least one.

It will work out in the end for you. It always does.

 

[crazytp93]

I am verry sorry my friend.

 

[exwdwcm]

so sorry to hear it- time will help a little. try and keep your chin up and hang in there

 

[froggy5657]

God has plans for each of us. This was all part of the plan. You needed to find someone who you couldn't spend the rest of your life with before you could. It will all be alright eventually. You will find that special person.

 

[lorax123]

Wow. I'm reading this thread and my 29 yo nephew calls to say he may be breaking up with his GF of 6 years. She seems like a great girl but they are just on different levels right now. She's been in her career for years now and is ready to get married, he's just graduated college, got his first professional job and doesn't feel ready to push forward with marriage yet.

I'm the worst person for NORMAL relationship advice.

But I agree with you, it wasn't a waste. It's a learning experience.

 

[funkehouse]

Thanks all, i appreciate the good thoughts, i knew i could count on everyone one here I thank you all very much !