First and foremost--my condoleneces to everyone who has had to watch a parent or grandparent suffer through illness and then lose that special person
It is a terrible thing to go through. I dearly miss my grandfather and hate the pain he suffered, and the confusion from Alzheimer's which robbed him of his memory long before the first stroke robbed him of his movement and the third finally robbed him of his life. I fully admit to feeling relieved for HIS sake when his suffering ended while at the same time grieving for my own loss. I never wanted him to die so I could gain something though --like most of you I really cannot fathom that mindset.
Can't remember what else you complained about... what I will say in closing is stop acting like a spoiled 12 year old brat. Time to earn your dues, pay off your debts and act your age.
I know a lot of 12 year olds--not one behaves like the OP
Sandra--I used to read your posts and think you really just never had anyone as you grew up who set a good example for you or taught you any kind of responsibility and that if people were just kind enough to offer you some real, level headed, advice you would eventually take some of it and start to grow up a bit. I no longer think that is the case as you seem to continually disregard every bit of advice offered that requires any effort whatsoever on your part. I can't just ignore these comments completely (though I suspect that my breath--like everyone else's will be wasted) but I will keep my remarks brief knowing others have already said things better than I have:
The hardest part is dealing with her now.
If you cannot see how cold hearted that along with wanting her to die sooner SO THAT YOU CAN HAVE A BIGGER ROOM is to have posted, well then I am not sure what to tell you--but I can say you will be of no true help to your grandmother in her infirm condition with such an attitude. Both of you would be much better off if you were to get out of the situation and leave your grandmother in the hands of those who love her and do not wish her dead while you worked on getting your own life on track--rather than further derailing it.
know i cant be the house decorater... But i would like an opinion in it. And i will be helping to pay for the house, eventually it'll be mine. For now it's my aunt's name on the mortage because she has the credit. And this is what she wants to do, not me.
And there's no objections to house guests, just in my bedroom. Saying "no guys in the bedroom till your married". More like i'm a child rather than an adult sacrificing my life and time to help her.
Why would she put you--with a track record of not remaining employed and with bad credit on any of the paperwork
She has every right to protect her credit rating by leaving you off.
Other than that--as the person whose house it is she does have EVERY right to decide how to decorate it and what the house rules are. Some may be childish (though you say your family is very religious so it is probably not an age thing but rather wanting certain ethical standards upheld in her house that is at play here) but, quite honestly, you act like a child in many respects so perhaps there is a correlation.
I don't mind the comments. I'm used to being hated... comes with the territory. Just some one made a statement about not liking what I post.
I just have to say you are gutsy saying that to this group. I do not know what the kind of hate many posters here have experienced is like but I KNOW they have been through a lot JUST for who they love while otherwise being kind, loving, responisible and productive members of society.
I already know what I want... but it's not anything any one else agrees with.
Well, from your history of posts it seems you want a free ride in life. If it is something else you want (a loving relationship, a child--you posted about that once and I did post about how to go about doing that well and how you CAN work your tail off and get to a place where that makes sense in a few years--, etc.) and you are willing to WORK HARD for what you want, then you can probably have it.
Rarely are things totally out of reach if you really work for them--one that has alluded us for years is getting equal treatment and rights for many on this board--but you better believe many of us TRY for that and WORK for that and do not give up and just whine. In smaller, more personal ways I think every other poster on this thread has worked for and achieved many of their goals. You should try it sometime--it is a good feeling when you get there.
no, my family doesn't have any clue about the 7yr relationship with kari. I think my aunt knows, but its never talked about. And i wouldn't go for another until i'm away from her. On the other hand, i won't torture any one else through a relationship with me. Family... And all that other stuff i wanted as a teen has all gone out the window. It's not happening, i know it, i've accepted it.
I know what i've said about my mother and sister. It's what i believe. And it's hard to get away from it. To be different. And i hate myself for it, just as much as you hate reading it.
So much here
1. Really, do not move back in with family who cannot accept you for who you love. It will not help you.
2. You are not THAT old (mid 20s or so I think). You are WAAAAAAAY to old not to be taking responsibility for your own life but WAAAAAAAY too young to have given up on all of your dreams. They were not handed to on a silver platter (most people's aren't) but you can MAKE many of them come true. DO yourself a favour, set some goals and achieve them.
3. If you truly believe it would be torture for someone to be in a relationship with you then make some changes so that is not the case. You do know you control your own actions, right?
Finally, please do not come here asking (repeatedly) for advice, then ignore all the advice and then want sympathy when you whine about how bad things are. Take some of the well thought out advice you get here to heart or else at least have the good sense not to complain when your own actions leave you in situations you do not like. I really DO hope you can turn things around and become productive and happy in your life and I REALLY hope your grandmother lives out the remainder of her days in no pain and feeling loved and cherished by those she has loved over the years.
My Grandparents loved that show.
That was our "date night" and we had THE best times!! I am guessing that's where my love of big band music came to be. I learned alot from my Memere'...we'd talk about life, and our family. She'd share tid bids of info about my family's past, you know...those hidden treasures that you just stumble onto? I have no regrets that other kids were outside playing & having fun. I was inside w/ my Memere' having an incredible time. She introduced me to her world, back in the 40's & 50's. I LOVED when Bobby & Cissy would come out and dance, and the Lennon Sisters, remember them? The best times, were when I didn't have to share her with the whole family, just me & my grandmother. 
He taught me to read, and having learned English from the British, he passed that on to me as well (I can't spell for beans today! LOL)!!!
) for the rules of man... just some of the things I learned from him...
DVC your grandfather sounds like a wonderful man.
