May 10, 2008 Ship of Thieves! Stealing the Magic..AGAIN!!! Panama Canal FL to CA!!! Part 7

[HollyTyler]

And this deal with Tyler happened after I just booked the mini-cruise for November. I felt great about booking it because I thought he'd been doing so well since his last incident at day care before he started school. I can cancel the cruise, but I'd forfeit 50%, so I'm just not willing to lose that money when it's so hard to come up with it in the first place.

 

[MrsMork]

And this deal with Tyler happened after I just booked the mini-cruise for November. I felt great about booking it because I thought he'd been doing so well since his last incident at day care before he started school. I can cancel the cruise, but I'd forfeit 50%, so I'm just not willing to lose that money when it's so hard to come up with it in the first place.

Holly,

 

[lillygator]

Holly did I miss your post? What was Tyler suspended for? I dind;t know they did that in K??!

 

[granmaz]

If I can just make it until showtime with my sanity intact. Tyler was suspended for 3 days starting today, so I'm not at work. Tomorrow and Friday his dad has to worry about it because those are his days. He'll be taking Tyler to work with him.

I set up an appointment with one of the mental health professionals Tyler's pediatrician recommended, but his dad told me he basically doesn't have coverage for that. So he wanted me to cancel that appointment and he'll take him to a free family counselling program his employer offers. That's great that his employer offers a free service, but I'm not sure what they offer is what Tyler needs. However, I'm sure the counsellor will tell him if he feels Tyler needs something else. So he'll probably set it up during a time I can't go....but I can send the info from school and Tyler's teachers with him.

I just found out a friend of Tyler's receives counseling from a social worker at school for emotional issues and trouble controlling himself. I had no idea the school offered this, so I'm going to check into it today after we have lunch.

That's only one problem I'm dealing with this week, but it's the biggest concern.

O Holly. Just when you thought he was doing ok. I so hope things smooth out in this area as it must be such a worry.

 

[HollyTyler]

Holly,

Thanks Angie. I've never heard of a kindergartner getting suspended. Scary. I don't understand why he behaves with me and is horrible everywhere else. Anyway, he lost all fun Halloween activities, which he isn't happy about. No trick-or-treating, no haunted hayride, no pumpkin patch. Yup, I'm a bit harsh, but he needs that whip cracked (not literally, of course).

 

[HollyTyler]

Holly did I miss your post? What was Tyler suspended for? I dind;t know they did that in K??!

No, you didn't miss the post. I just posted about it a few above yours. He didn't do anything physical (that I know of) like he used to in day care, but was being very disrespectful and threatening. I guess it started because when he was sitting at a table, he was sort of lifting it up and down with his knees. When they told him to stop, he started getting mouthy with the teachers. He saying things like he was going to punch and kick the teachers, said he'd rip up all the Halloween decorations, said he'd break the other kids' bones, was smacking his fists together threatening to punch everybody, told them he was going to beat up his teacher and throw her out the window, etc.

 

[HollyTyler]

O Holly. Just when you thought he was doing ok. I so hope things smooth out in this area as it must be such a worry.

Thanks. I'm a bit worried. I don't want him to wind up in jail when he gets older, but I've never heard of a kid being so threatening so young. Very scary.

OK....off to have lunch and then to talk to school about any counselling they might be able to offer. Tyler's not happy about me not playing with him, but I've told him he's not here for playtime with me. He doesn't get to do much other than sit today. No fun for him....and that's the point! I asked him if he's getting bored and he admitted that he is. It's pretty obvious too.

 

[mishoe01]

If I can just make it until showtime with my sanity intact. Tyler was suspended for 3 days starting today, so I'm not at work. Tomorrow and Friday his dad has to worry about it because those are his days. He'll be taking Tyler to work with him.

I set up an appointment with one of the mental health professionals Tyler's pediatrician recommended, but his dad told me he basically doesn't have coverage for that. So he wanted me to cancel that appointment and he'll take him to a free family counselling program his employer offers. That's great that his employer offers a free service, but I'm not sure what they offer is what Tyler needs. However, I'm sure the counsellor will tell him if he feels Tyler needs something else. So he'll probably set it up during a time I can't go....but I can send the info from school and Tyler's teachers with him.

I just found out a friend of Tyler's receives counseling from a social worker at school for emotional issues and trouble controlling himself. I had no idea the school offered this, so I'm going to check into it today after we have lunch.

That's only one problem I'm dealing with this week, but it's the biggest concern.

What happened at school??

to you! Know we're here for you if/when you need to vent.

 

[mishoe01]

And this deal with Tyler happened after I just booked the mini-cruise for November. I felt great about booking it because I thought he'd been doing so well since his last incident at day care before he started school. I can cancel the cruise, but I'd forfeit 50%, so I'm just not willing to lose that money when it's so hard to come up with it in the first place.

Can you shift the cruise (& $) to a different cruise?

 

[LiserAnn]

I just wanted to share some good news.

My brother has finally been told that his stem cell transplant worked. He was originally told they would know after 2-3 weeks and it has been 7 weeks, so he was pretty much convinced it hadn't taken.

He is still very seriously ill, from the damage caused both by the disease itself (myeloid fibrosis) and by the chemotherapy - from which his liver has suffered particularly badly. But at least he now knows it is worth continuing to fight through it all because hopefully he will eventually recover completely.

Thank you for all your prayers and pixie dust.

That's excellent news! As long as he has hope, anything can happen!!!

 

[granmaz]

Thanks. I'm a bit worried. I don't want him to wind up in jail when he gets older, but I've never heard of a kid being so threatening so young. Very scary.

OK....off to have lunch and then to talk to school about any counselling they might be able to offer. Tyler's not happy about me not playing with him, but I've told him he's not here for playtime with me. He doesn't get to do much other than sit today. No fun for him....and that's the point! I asked him if he's getting bored and he admitted that he is. It's pretty obvious too.

Oh, and so boring and trying for you too!!

 

[LiserAnn]

No, you didn't miss the post. I just posted about it a few above yours. He didn't do anything physical (that I know of) like he used to in day care, but was being very disrespectful and threatening. I guess it started because when he was sitting at a table, he was sort of lifting it up and down with his knees. When they told him to stop, he started getting mouthy with the teachers. He saying things like he was going to punch and kick the teachers, said he'd rip up all the Halloween decorations, said he'd break the other kids' bones, was smacking his fists together threatening to punch everybody, told them he was going to beat up his teacher and throw her out the window, etc.

Hi Holly-I'm sorry to hear this. Tyler sounds like he's got some pent up anger. I've been on and off the thread lately (you know, life has taken over-imagine!) but awhile back I recall you saying that his dad is basically in denial and doesn't want to even try to take him to a doc just to see if something's going on...is that still the case? It must be so frustrating to you to not be able to have full control over basic things, like being able to take him to a specialist. You must feel so bewildered at times. Hopefully your ex will dig his head out and allow you to take Tyler to someone that can pull out of him what's going on. Hang in there!

 

[LiserAnn]

I set up an appointment with one of the mental health professionals Tyler's pediatrician recommended, but his dad told me he basically doesn't have coverage for that. So he wanted me to cancel that appointment and he'll take him to a free family counselling program his employer offers. That's great that his employer offers a free service, but I'm not sure what they offer is what Tyler needs. However, I'm sure the counsellor will tell him if he feels Tyler needs something else. So he'll probably set it up during a time I can't go....but I can send the info from school and Tyler's teachers with him.

I just found out a friend of Tyler's receives counseling from a social worker at school for emotional issues and trouble controlling himself. I had no idea the school offered this, so I'm going to check into it today after we have lunch.

Holly-I just saw this post...good news that your ex is going to let Tyler have counseling of some kind. Most of the counslers they have through the free EAP (employee assistance programs) are good. Usually you get a certain amount for free and then at some point a cost kicks in. They should be able to evaluate what Tyler needs and then proceed accordingly. If it's something they're not skilled in, they usually can make a referral. Good luck!!!

 

[lillygator]

wow Holly I am sorry to hear that. I would take advantage of your ex'es EAP, but also, if you feel they are not helping I would still look into the specialist on your own. They may be able to give you a price break if you don't have insurance that covers that area.

 

[fourmcds]

I am feeling worse today...very stuffed up - I hope this goes away soon! I think the only well one is Haley at the moment. I am hoping to use the weekend to rest and get better.

It was 74 this morning, I had to get a sweater and Samantha has pants on! She'll probably be hot later on.

V....hope you guys all get better soon!

Look what I'm going to see tonight! http://www.cirquedusoleil.com/CirqueDuSoleil/en/showstickets/saltimbanco/intro/intro.htm

My friend Cindy (who I'm cruising with) won 2 free tickets to tonight's 7pm show. I've had such an awful week already, in all aspects of life, it will be good to go someplace where I can shut off my brain for a bit.

Holly, have fun! I love Cirque shows, they are so entertaining and amazing you won't have a free second to think about anything going on in your week!

I just wanted to share some good news.

My brother has finally been told that his stem cell transplant worked. He was originally told they would know after 2-3 weeks and it has been 7 weeks, so he was pretty much convinced it hadn't taken.

He is still very seriously ill, from the damage caused both by the disease itself (myeloid fibrosis) and by the chemotherapy - from which his liver has suffered particularly badly. But at least he now knows it is worth continuing to fight through it all because hopefully he will eventually recover completely.

Thank you for all your prayers and pixie dust.

Great News!

If I can just make it until showtime with my sanity intact. Tyler was suspended for 3 days starting today, so I'm not at work. Tomorrow and Friday his dad has to worry about it because those are his days. He'll be taking Tyler to work with him.

I set up an appointment with one of the mental health professionals Tyler's pediatrician recommended, but his dad told me he basically doesn't have coverage for that. So he wanted me to cancel that appointment and he'll take him to a free family counselling program his employer offers. That's great that his employer offers a free service, but I'm not sure what they offer is what Tyler needs. However, I'm sure the counsellor will tell him if he feels Tyler needs something else. So he'll probably set it up during a time I can't go....but I can send the info from school and Tyler's teachers with him.

I just found out a friend of Tyler's receives counseling from a social worker at school for emotional issues and trouble controlling himself. I had no idea the school offered this, so I'm going to check into it today after we have lunch.

Holly, so sorry to hear that this is going on. Definately give his dad's program a try as some are amazing. You could also look in your area for sliding scale programs. I know here in WA we have an amazing one close by that I refer patients to frequently and they see people for varied amounts depending on earnings and insurance coverage. At least it sounds like his dad is admitting there might be something else going on and you can get to the bottom of it soon!

 

[Jhalkias]

John1 - do you want to see if we can get you in w/ us (Kathe, V, John, Samantha, Haley, Monica) for breakfast at 1015am on the 27th at Boma's?

Let me know and I can see if I can get my ADR changed.

Monica - only if it does not screw you guys up. I could also check for a separate ADR for us, and try to get in around that time. Let me know.

 

[birkner]

Hey Everyone....exactly 7 months from today we'll all be at the terminal ready to hug and say hi and get on board the Magic and start this cruise!!!!!!!!!! YEA!!!!!!!! Getting closer everyday!!!

I only have 2 weeks and a wake up until I leave to cruise on the Wonder in 5122 having coffee on the veranda. AAAAAAHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!! I feel like I need it bad.

John and I realized that since we got home from our last cruise Oct 06 we took mom to the hospital immediately. We didn't even have time to sit back and reminisce about our cruise. That was one year ago and we're still not done with settling her affairs. This has been a very draining year and we need our cruise to rejuvenate. I'm anxious and filled with anticipation until I can be sitting on my veranda again.

I'm thankful to be able to have a short quick fix to hold me over to our good long cruise with all of you.....I think I sound like an addict now....but it is addicting.....if I won lotto, I would just live in 5122 on the Magic!

I hope that you and John find lots of joy and healing on your cruise. You both deserve a relaxing fun cruise with lots of champagne dreams!!

 

[birkner]

I just wanted to share some good news.

My brother has finally been told that his stem cell transplant worked. He was originally told they would know after 2-3 weeks and it has been 7 weeks, so he was pretty much convinced it hadn't taken.

He is still very seriously ill, from the damage caused both by the disease itself (myeloid fibrosis) and by the chemotherapy - from which his liver has suffered particularly badly. But at least he now knows it is worth continuing to fight through it all because hopefully he will eventually recover completely.

Thank you for all your prayers and pixie dust.

What fabulous news!! You must be dancing on air!! Warmest wishes and thoughts to you and your brother!!

 

[scottishwee35]

Thanks. I'm a bit worried. I don't want him to wind up in jail when he gets older, but I've never heard of a kid being so threatening so young. Very scary.

OK....off to have lunch and then to talk to school about any counselling they might be able to offer. Tyler's not happy about me not playing with him, but I've told him he's not here for playtime with me. He doesn't get to do much other than sit today. No fun for him....and that's the point! I asked him if he's getting bored and he admitted that he is. It's pretty obvious too.

HollyTyler

After I read it and had been thinking that it is very difficult as Tyler is very young boy and living with you and without his dad too.

I have seen the photo of him as he look lovely cute boy.

My daughter is profoundly deaf and wearing the cochlear implant. Her bad behaivour is terrible at home. She is very cheeky with us, shouting at us, refused to do things when we were asking her. At school, she is behaviour very well. The specialist doctor see Olivia as one every year. He came and see her and I explained about her bad behaviour at home. He send out specialist doctor this Friday at my house. My family and friend think nothing wrong with her as she had full of beans, living girl! But they cannot see that her behaviour terrible as doctor said she had terrible 7!! I feel that I will have terrible times when she is teenager!! Our son opposite of her, he is quiet boy, shy boy.

Please don't worry too much about Tyler as you said that you are worrying about future - jails etc. I think it is another way round. Maybe Tyler will be calm when older? Same as my friend's son, he was very wild boy when he was little aged 2 - 6 years old. Now he is calm and much better as he is 10 years old.

I know every child is different and I wish you get help and wish you all the best.

Take Care

Scottishwee35

 

[EllaEnchanted]

May will be here before we know it.

Just one Winter away now!!!

You will probably find your next cruise a bit of a healing experience Deb. Time in one of your favourite places and time to mull over the year. A few tears perhaps. Come back feeling stronger.

Exactly! It's what I need right now....It IS my favorite place in the world....so I'm happy and thankful to have the fortune to do it 3 times in this upcoming year....it should balance the slate nicely!