Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[Liisa]

Hi All...

Suzi - better late than never, but I owe you a THANK YOU! for the recipe.

I woke up Saturday with a slight cough. By Saturday afternoon, I was stuffy, coughing, fever, miserable... It completely kicked my butt until yesterday when I finally started to get back on top of things. I hate coming back to work and unburying myself. I called my Dr. on monday hoping for some nice chemicals to fix me up. She assessed that it was a viral infection and just need to run its course. What the heck!?!? GIVE ME MEDICINE!!!

Anyway, just wanted to check back in.

Photobear - I'm with you on the music scene. Suzi and Madd speak a different language there! I'm sooooo not cool!

 

[ReaderGirl]

Maddhatir, thanks for the warm welcome!

Like you, my husband and I have heard the envious comments. Usually it's something about our being able to spend a little money on ourselves. While the decision to not have kids was made for us, we plan on making the best of it!!

I think Disney is a great place to be kidless, but I'm a bit of a kid myself. I love all the sweet Magic Kingdom stuff. The last time we were in Disney, we tried a behind the scenes tour (Keys to the Kingdom) and thought it was terrific. I recommend it highly. I'd like to try another behind the scenes tour on our next trip. There are so many other things we haven't seen and want to try, like the Adventurer's Club, and the water parks -- we'll have fun checking them off our list.

Everyone have a great day.
Liisa, I like your dog photo!
Reader Girl

 

[Suzibrat]

Liisa, I hope you feel better soon! Even though you weren't given any "helpers" from the Dr.

ForTheLoveofDisney, I wondered where you had disappeared to. Hope things slow down so you can come out and play more often.

Readergirl, great to have you with us!!! Welcome!

I'm sitting here watching the bloody stupid snow fall. Yesterday it was so beautiful here. Warm, sunny, I spent the afternoon having an extended "happy hour" on the deck while DH slept Today I'll get to use my time to shovel snow. Will it ever end?????

Madd, I saw Behemoth on a vid, on Headbanger's Ball and the guy playing guitar had something that looked like a glittery cat toy in his hair behind his ear. I was in hysterics. I'll keep my dark purple streaks and forego the cat toys thank you very much!
Everyone have a great day! Hope the sun shines on you!

 

[maddhatir]

I woke up Saturday with a slight cough. By Saturday afternoon, I was stuffy, coughing, fever, miserable... It completely kicked my butt until yesterday when I finally started to get back on top of things. I hate coming back to work and unburying myself. I called my Dr. on monday hoping for some nice chemicals to fix me up. She assessed that it was a viral infection and just need to run its course. What the heck!?!? GIVE ME MEDICINE!!!

Hey Liisa- Hope you are at least feeling a little better today!!!

OMG- Everyone here!!!!! Have any of you seen the new HBO George Carlin special "It's Bad for Ya" !!!!!????

I WAS FREAKIN' PEEING!!!!!! and I only saw about a half our of it! I have to watch the rest ON DEMAND! (FYI- if you have been a Geoge fan forever- you will not believe how much he has aged! But still funny as ever)

He is SO dead on with everything I believe in (kids, stupid people, people on the phone)

He does a great schpeel on kids and their obnoxios NAZI parents! It is AWESOME! Wait until you hear his comment about "kid's being our future" !!!

So

to everyone who thinks we are the only ones who feel the way we do!!!

IF GEORGE SAYS IT- IT MUST BE TRUE!

 

[maddhatir]

Madd, I saw Behemoth on a vid, on Headbanger's Ball and the guy playing guitar had something that looked like a glittery cat toy in his hair behind his ear. I was in hysterics. I'll keep my dark purple streaks and forego the cat toys thank you very much!
Everyone have a great day! Hope the sun shines on you!

Suzi I love your new siggy- that freakin' kitty is freakin' hilarious!

And I notice you are never in the same place twice! (your location under your screen name!)

 

[Shyvioletisme]

Hey Liisa- Hope you are at least feeling a little better today!!!

OMG- Everyone here!!!!! Have any of you seen the new HBO George Carlin special "It's Bad for Ya" !!!!!????

I WAS FREAKIN' PEEING!!!!!! and I only saw about a half our of it! I have to watch the rest ON DEMAND! (FYI- if you have been a Geoge fan forever- you will not believe how much he has aged! But still funny as ever)

He is SO dead on with everything I believe in (kids, stupid people, people on the phone)

He does a great schpeel on kids and their obnoxios NAZI parents! It is AWESOME! Wait until you hear his comment about "kid's being our future" !!!

So

to everyone who thinks we are the only ones who feel the way we do!!!

IF GEORGE SAYS IT- IT MUST BE TRUE!

yes! DH and I watched it last weekend on Demand...we couldn't believe how old he finally looks. it was crazy...but we were finding ourselves agreeing with him a lot...as we usually do...loved it!

 

[Liisa]

Feeling a bit better - finally got a good nights sleep last night. What a difference that makes.

Of course, now I've been on hold for 20 min with the UK trying to close out two of my Company's bank accounts that we no longer use. UGH! The guy was super helpful... just pop on into a branch and we can take care of this for you. Ummmm... hello?!! I'm in the US!!! Definitely not popping into a banch anytime soon. Oh... and instead of elevator music, they are playing all these 80's songs which, given my congestion, are starting to give me a headache.

Suzi, how's your hubby doing? I can't believe you are still getting snow! YUCK!!! Of course, I'd take that over the dreary, gray rainy days we've been having. Depressing....

 

[maddhatir]

I avoid mosh pits as well. My idea of a good show is not one where I could leave with broken bones! The drummer of Dimmu is awesome. I could go on and on about my love and facination of double bass drumming and Hellhammer (DB's drummer, not the band Hellhammer) is right up there at the top of my list. I hope you get to go!

Suzi- just on the Dimmu website and I read this:

The 24-show trek will launch on April 2nd in Toronto, Ontario, Canada and will end on May 4th in Chicago, IL.
Drummer Tony Laureano will continue to handle drum duties, as the 2007 injury suffered by Hellhammer still has him sidelined

I wonder if I will get to see Hellhammer in action??

Ya know, I have to stare at your siggy everytime I see one of your posts- there is nothing sexier than a dude, hair flying and banging his head.....or banging on the drums!-

OK- Nothing sexier- EXCEPT for JD! Now If JD would just do a little headbanging I would be speachless. That, or, I need to see a pic of him ridng a Harley with no helmet and hair blowin' in the wind! It would be the death of me for sure!


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[ForTheLoveofDisney]

Maddhatir, thanks for the warm welcome!

Like you, my husband and I have heard the envious comments. Usually it's something about our being able to spend a little money on ourselves. While the decision to not have kids was made for us, we plan on making the best of it!!

I think Disney is a great place to be kidless, but I'm a bit of a kid myself. I love all the sweet Magic Kingdom stuff. The last time we were in Disney, we tried a behind the scenes tour (Keys to the Kingdom) and thought it was terrific. I recommend it highly. I'd like to try another behind the scenes tour on our next trip. There are so many other things we haven't seen and want to try, like the Adventurer's Club, and the water parks -- we'll have fun checking them off our list.

Everyone have a great day.
Liisa, I like your dog photo!
Reader Girl

Hey Reader Girl So glad you stopped by. We too had the decision made for us but HONEST TOO GOODNESS it's feeling more and more like the RIGHT thing!!!!!! Seriously, we were in Burger King the other day trying to catch a quick meal ----FYI for all my fellow vegetarians Burger King sells a VEGGIE burger ---- anyway I'm trying to hold a conversation w/ DH about my day at work and this kid just kept letting out these loud random, screaching screams, for fun it seemed I was just like "GET ME OUT OF HERE!!" It was like nails on a chalkboard. Now, contrary to the popular belief that's been floating around in places about the Marrieds choosing not to have kids HATING kids, I don't. I have (honestly I've lost count) 17 or 19 nieces and nephews. I love them. I like spending time with them. I like buying them things and doing things with them. AND I like sending them home. It's just like DH and I have gotten settled in a no kids life. We sleep in on weekends and days off, we like to be spontaneous and run out for a bite to eat or running to a town several hours away. We've become selfish with our time. So, like you, while the decision was made for us we're ok with it and embracing it. I choose not to hang out on the Marrieds NOT choosing boards because it seemed to me (and I could be VERY wrong like people have been about us) in the several posts I read people were still trying and pining away over children and I don't want to be in that place. I want to be with people who are embracing the life they've been given and having fun along the way. Like I said, I could be wrong and I'd hate to pass judgement without fulling reading the entire thread but I remember being in a place where I was angry/sad/depressed/emotional/upset about not being able to have children and my conversations and actions gravitated towards that end and I don't want to be there anymore and quite frankly, I don't want to be around other people who are that way. Is it like that over there? ANYWAY, sorry for the novel, glad you found us!! Stick around.

IF GEORGE SAYS IT- IT MUST BE TRUE!

Ain't that the truth!!

Feeling a bit better - finally got a good nights sleep last night. What a difference that makes.

Liisa, glad to hear you're feeling better. I had that mess back at the beginning of February. I was out of work 4 days from it. On a side note, besides their stupidness in this situation, don't you just love British accents??

Nothing going on here today at work. My boss isn't here, half the faculty aren't here and I'm just bored out of my gourd!! Thank goodness I have the DIS!!

Like I said, no big plans for the weekend.

Talk to you later.

 

[maddhatir]

Feeling a bit better - finally got a good nights sleep last night. What a difference that makes.

Ummmm... hello?!! I'm in the US!!! Definitely not popping into a branch anytime soon. Oh... and instead of elevator music, they are playing all these 80's songs which, given my congestion, are starting to give me a headache.

Glad to hear you slept well.

I have a suggestion for the bank problem. Tell your boss the bank said it is mandatory for you to come into a branch to close the accounts and you need to hop on a plane to the UK ASAP!!!!

I SO want to go to the UK! DH does not have a desire to. I would not care to much to visit London- maybe one day- but I would rather do a lot of the countrysides!

Actually I think I said this here before- I would prefer to move there and become a citizen- not too happy with our government the past (ummmm 8 years ) I would say, I am kind of ashamed what they have done to this country- OMG- but that is a whole other matter!

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

Glad to hear you slept well.

I have a suggestion for the bank problem. Tell your boss the bank said it is mandatory for you to come into a branch to close the accounts and you need to hop on a plane to the UK ASAP!!!!

I SO want to go to the UK! DH does not have a desire to. I would not care to much to visit London- maybe one day- but I would rather do a lot of the countrysides!

Actually I think I said this here before- I would prefer to move there and become a citizen- not too happy with our government the past (ummmm 8 years ) I would say, I am kind of ashamed what they have done to this country- OMG- but that is a whole other matter!

We'll go to the UK with you. DH and I would love to travel to the UK. On Saturdays we watch OLD reruns of Keeping Up Appearances, Last of the Summer Wine and As Time Goes By. They are all British shows. Keeping UP Appearances is HILARIOUS!! Last of the Summer Wine is pretty funny as well as As Time Goes By, which starts Judy Dench. On BBC America we used to watch the show Coupling. Yup, I would love to visit the UK. Course, with our dollar being worth NOTHING it will be some time before we get there.

 

[maddhatir]

We'll go to the UK with you. DH and I would love to travel to the UK. On Saturdays we watch OLD reruns of Keeping Up Appearances, Last of the Summer Wine and As Time Goes By. They are all British shows. Keeping UP Appearances is HILARIOUS!! Last of the Summer Wine is pretty funny as well as As Time Goes By, which starts Judy Dench. On BBC America we used to watch the show Coupling. Yup, I would love to visit the UK. Course, with our dollar being worth NOTHING it will be some time before we get there.

I have never seen any of the shows you mentioned. I am not one for their humor- If I moved there I may just be staring at them clueless when something is supposed to be funny

But- I DO love Dame Judi Dench- she is incredible!

I try and see movies now just b/c she is in them!

 

[Liisa]

Ohhhh, I'm all about the accents. Any kind actually.

My boss and I actually had to go to the UK back 4 or 5 years ago to set up the accounts in the first place. It was my second time there... but my boss only flies 1st class. So when I went with him, I got to go 1st class as well. It was awesome for an international flight. We had these pods where you can fully recline and sleep the entire flight - in comfort!!! What a way to travel.

Stilllllll raining............... blah!

 

[maddhatir]

Ohhhh, I'm all about the accents. Any kind actually.

My boss and I actually had to go to the UK back 4 or 5 years ago to set up the accounts in the first place. It was my second time there... but my boss only flies 1st class. So when I went with him, I got to go 1st class as well. It was awesome for an international flight. We had these pods where you can fully recline and sleep the entire flight - in comfort!!! What a way to travel.

Stilllllll raining............... blah!

That would be awesome- 1st Class to the UK!

It is beautiful here in South Jersey! Sun is shining and I would say it is about 60 degrees! My bulbs are coming up all over the yard!

DH wants to get a move on planting the Morning Glories on the 2 arbors. Last year we put up a fence and used the arbor as an entrance- I planted the Morning Glories (and Moonflowers) to soften up the look- he thought they were the best thing in the world

We now have another arbor and he wants them to grow on that too. He acts like Morning Glories are new to the plant world or something

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

I have never seen any of the shows you mentioned. I am not one for their humor- If I moved there I may just be staring at them clueless when something is supposed to be funny

But- I DO love Dame Judi Dench- she is incredible!

I try and see movies now just b/c she is in them!

Yea, I'm not into their dry humor either (I HATE Monty Python) but that Keeping Up Appearances is SO FUNNY!! I mean it, even if you don't like their humor you will split your sides watching that show.

Ohhhh, I'm all about the accents. Any kind actually.

My boss and I actually had to go to the UK back 4 or 5 years ago to set up the accounts in the first place. It was my second time there... but my boss only flies 1st class. So when I went with him, I got to go 1st class as well. It was awesome for an international flight. We had these pods where you can fully recline and sleep the entire flight - in comfort!!! What a way to travel.

Stilllllll raining............... blah!

How AWESOME!!!

It is beautiful here in South Jersey! Sun is shining and I would say it is about 60 degrees! My bulbs are coming up all over the yard!

South Jersey??? I'm FROM South Jersey! Born and raised for 21 years there. I graduated from Ocean City High School! It's a small world!!

 

[Shyvioletisme]

Glad to hear you slept well.



Actually I think I said this here before- I would prefer to move there and become a citizen- not too happy with our government the past (ummmm 8 years ) I would say, I am kind of ashamed what they have done to this country- OMG- but that is a whole other matter!

madd, DH and I are right there with ya! Unfortunately as I have learned...the UK has really strict VISA and citizenship laws...they aren't real fond of letting more people take their jobs...so that kind of put our desire on the back burner for now! Although we can't help but still want to live over there... DH and I are HUGE Football(aka soccer to Americans) fans and huge supporters of the Manchester United. We'd love to live near Manchester and be season ticket holders for the matches!!

 

[maddhatir]

madd, DH and I are right there with ya! Unfortunately as I have learned...the UK has really strict VISA and citizenship laws...they aren't real fond of letting more people take their jobs...so that kind of put our desire on the back burner for now! Although we can't help but still want to live over there... DH and I are HUGE Football(aka soccer to Americans) fans and huge supporters of the Manchester United. We'd love to live near Manchester and be season ticket holders for the matches!!

Hmmm- how ironic- they do not like giving their jobs away and the US tosses theirs away to anyone willy nilly!

Now you mentioned football- How in the world can I watch Hockey??! EEEEK!

I guess I can get some kind of dish or something

 

[ReaderGirl]

Hi FortheLoveofDisney! I think we're in the same boat.
We couldn't have children, and being sad about it isn't helpful for me.
This is my path in life, so I'm going to enjoy it and do things I find meaningful, like helping animals.

I'm not into the British comedies, but I got completely hooked on the mystery series Rosemary & Thyme, about the Brit gardners who traipse from gorgeous setting to gorgeous setting, happening upon murders and of course, solving them, usually with some sort of horticultural twist. Very fun.

Everyone have a good weekend!
ReaderGirl

 

[maddhatir]

South Jersey??? I'm FROM South Jersey! Born and raised for 21 years there. I graduated from Ocean City High School! It's a small world!!

Yup! Marlton.

I think I may have mentioned it to you when I came over to the other CF thread?

We used to be in OC all the time b/c our BF used to have a condo right over the 9th Street bridge! As you were going into OC it was right on the left!

And my cousin owned a home on 32nd and Central. Right behind Campbells Kitchen. Actually he bought his house from the woman who owned the place. He sold it a few years ago when the market was doing really well. We used to be there all the time too.

I love OC- it is my favorite "shore"

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

Yup! Marlton.

I think I may have mentioned it to you when I came over to the other CF thread?

We used to be in OC all the time b/c our BF used to have a condo right over the 9th Street bridge! As you were going into OC it was right on the left!

And my cousin owned a home on 32nd and Central. Right behind Campbells Kitchen. Actually he bought his house from the woman who owned the place. He sold it a few years ago when the market was doing really well. We used to be there all the time too.

I love OC- it is my favorite "shore"

You know, now that you mention it. . . . you did tell me that. I am having BRAIN FREEZE!!!

Or as the faculty around her call it, "I'm having a brain CRAMP".