Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[Liisa]

DH could write that stuff! I called him in here to watch and he goes "Finally! Someone who understands me!"

I'm going to show my DH tonight. He's going to get a kick out of it. People... UGH!

 

[PoohNTuck]

Sam,

Sorry to hear about your chalet. I don't post often but do read. That's heartbreaking and scary! It sounds like you dealt with it well!


And as for music preferences...
For the record, I'm 28 and I love "classic rock", "metal- the older stuff like ozzy, metallica, etc" and old 80s hair bands as well. It's my favorite stuff to listen to and DH doesn't understand it because he's younger and listens to hip hop. Rarely do we both enjoy a song on the radio I don't tell my coworkers or most people I meet what I really enjoy listening to... most people don't understand and have negative feelings about the type of person I must be to listen to it. I thought I was the only female left listening to it these days... it's comforting to know there are more of you out there!

 

[maddhatir]

Sam,

Sorry to hear about your chalet. I don't post often but do read. That's heartbreaking and scary! It sounds like you dealt with it well!


And as for music preferences...
For the record, I'm 28 and I love "classic rock", "metal- the older stuff like ozzy, metallica, etc" and old 80s hair bands as well. It's my favorite stuff to listen to and DH doesn't understand it because he's younger and listens to hip hop. Rarely do we both enjoy a song on the radio I don't tell my coworkers or most people I meet what I really enjoy listening to... most people don't understand and have negative feelings about the type of person I must be to listen to it. I thought I was the only female left listening to it these days... it's comforting to know there are more of you out there!

How do you think *I* feel- I am 43 rockin' out to Korn Exodus, Slayer- and of COURSE Metallica!

I don't care what people think- most people have a stick up their butts anyway I always feel they WISH they can let loose and be something else. They are stuck in a mold. NOT everyone, just those that have the nasty comments.

I remember way back in the day- the first band I really loved was KISS- my aunt took us to see them when I was in 7th grade and went to every concert they had in Philly after that.

Anyway one day in the mall- my cousin had a few KISS buttons on her jacket, KISS shirt etc and some stuffed up B%$#@ said to her, "I am SO glad you are not MY daughter!"

Shocked ......All she could say was......"Well, I am glad you are not my MOTHER!" Good come back huh? But you get some adult saying that to a kid they do not even know! We were good kids- just b/c we listened to KISS does not mean otherwise!

When I see a kid with piercings, a mohawk, different color hair- I never think ewwww- I just remember back in the 70s and 80s and what *I* looked like and people made the snide remarks.

I am not going to be one of those idiots that need to judge.

SO! Let your metal flag FLY! SC%$W your co-workers! and welcome to the thread!


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[maddhatir]

Oh- on a whole other topic!

I was listening to the local sports station in the car yesterday and they were talking about kids- and sports.

The guys were saying how sports are no fun anymore for kids b/c they are so organized- they went on to bash the parents for being SO obnoxious about the kids playing and the refereeing and who did not put their little Johnny in the game! Oh- it is so true!

They were talking about how when they were kids and you would play baseball out in someones field- with however many kids you can round up- or, if you were on a team, your parents would drop you off...and you would just PLAY and have a good time!

Not any more- seems parents are really messing up kids pretty bad nowadays- in every aspect of life

Now parents need to be sure they little one gets THIS and gets THAT, b/c they feel they are entitled to it

and I might be back b/c I know I was thinking about another topic earlier this morning that I wanted to comment on......hmmmmm......the brain cells are gone!.....but I have a lot of fun waving goodbye to them!

 

[Hixski]

and I might be back b/c I know I was thinking about another topic earlier this morning that I wanted to comment on......hmmmmm......the brain cells are gone!.....but I have a lot of fun waving goodbye to them!

I think I lost a few brain cells back in the 70's. The rest I am losing now due to menopause. I must have had an overabundance of them or surely they would be almost gone by now.

When I forget something DH asks me if my brain derailed again. He thinks it's funny. Nice way to put in a Captain Jack quote by the way.

 

[maddhatir]

I REMEMBERED!

DH and I went to the liquor store last night. Stock up on Becks Dark, anywho-- this young girl was at the cash register and I COULD NOT UNDERSTAND A D$#@ WORD SHE WAS SAYING! It was a series of grunts and groans!

Have you noticed young people have now resorted to "mumbling" instead of e-nun-ci-a-ting

Just watch this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rvz5zYm5SDo

I am always yelling out that word when I can't understand people

 

[2vets]

I cannot believe this thread is still here, from 2 years ago, right on the first page!!! I posted some sappy nonsense on page 14 in 2006. I can't believe I ever even seemed that much like I might convert to the mommy camp!

We moved to CA, so it's been a couple of years since we've been to WDW, but we are going back twice this year...heh heh heh...stroller-dodging, I'm all about it.

(Seriously, too funny that this is still here...)

 

[maddhatir]

I cannot believe this thread is still here, from 2 years ago, right on the first page!!! I posted some sappy nonsense on page 14 in 2006. I can't believe I ever even seemed that much like I might convert to the mommy camp!

We moved to CA, so it's been a couple of years since we've been to WDW, but we are going back twice this year...heh heh heh...stroller-dodging, I'm all about it.

(Seriously, too funny that this is still here...)

Welcome back!!!

 

[PhotobearSam]

Sam,

Sorry to hear about your chalet. I don't post often but do read. That's heartbreaking and scary! It sounds like you dealt with it well!


And as for music preferences...
For the record, I'm 28 and I love "classic rock", "metal- the older stuff like ozzy, metallica, etc" and old 80s hair bands as well. It's my favorite stuff to listen to and DH doesn't understand it because he's younger and listens to hip hop. Rarely do we both enjoy a song on the radio I don't tell my coworkers or most people I meet what I really enjoy listening to... most people don't understand and have negative feelings about the type of person I must be to listen to it. I thought I was the only female left listening to it these days... it's comforting to know there are more of you out there!

It really is a NICE thread where people can support a total stranger like this...Thanks.

 

[PhotobearSam]

I cannot believe this thread is still here, from 2 years ago, right on the first page!!! I posted some sappy nonsense on page 14 in 2006. I can't believe I ever even seemed that much like I might convert to the mommy camp!

We moved to CA, so it's been a couple of years since we've been to WDW, but we are going back twice this year...heh heh heh...stroller-dodging, I'm all about it.

(Seriously, too funny that this is still here...)

We are a tenacious bunch around here...

 

[LisaZee]

Why, oh WHY do I go read and post on That Sea of Judgement, AKA The Community Board? Why? Sigh. Anyhoo...

I was reading Madd's post about how parents have screwed up sports for kids, and what I can't wrap my head around is why there is no first place anymore - no winners. Everyone's a winner - you all get trophies because you are all equally athletically superior, even though you, Little Johnny, struck out every time at bat and you, Little Suzie, fall on your face every time you try to kick a soccer ball. But first place for everyone! Whaaaat? I'm all about encouragement, but is this realistic? Life does not hand out trophies to everyone just for playing. I wish it did. (I also wish it handed out new cars, but that ain't gonna happen either.) Does this do a dis-service to kids? Maybe if they didn't come in first this year, they would try harder so that they came in first NEXT year...

I dunno. Maybe I'm bitter because the only trophy I have is for "Most Improved Bowler" from junior high. Which is code for - "You sucked the worst at the beginning of the season"!

What about everyone else - since we have no kids to brag on, let's brag on ourselves! What trophies do you have hiding in your basement, or up on your mantle?

 

[Suzibrat]

Why, oh WHY do I go read and post on That Sea of Judgement, AKA The Community Board? Why? Sigh. Anyhoo...

I was reading Madd's post about how parents have screwed up sports for kids, and what I can't wrap my head around is why there is no first place anymore - no winners. Everyone's a winner - you all get trophies because you are all equally athletically superior, even though you, Little Johnny, struck out every time at bat and you, Little Suzie, fall on your face every time you try to kick a soccer ball. But first place for everyone! Whaaaat? I'm all about encouragement, but is this realistic? Life does not hand out trophies to everyone just for playing. I wish it did. (I also wish it handed out new cars, but that ain't gonna happen either.) Does this do a dis-service to kids? Maybe if they didn't come in first this year, they would try harder so that they came in first NEXT year...

I dunno. Maybe I'm bitter because the only trophy I have is for "Most Improved Bowler" from junior high. Which is code for - "You sucked the worst at the beginning of the season"!

What about everyone else - since we have no kids to brag on, let's brag on ourselves! What trophies do you have hiding in your basement, or up on your mantle?

Did not!! You take that back! Sorry Lisa. I just couldn't resist! (Actually that's probably why I never played soccer!!) But you can put me into the "Most Improved Bowler Trophy Club". Of course when you start out the season being the Gutterball Queen (No Madd, not the Gutter Queen, I said GutterBALL) there's no where to go but up.
How's everyone else doing today?
Sam, I hope that things calm down for you. You've certainly had a truckload of crap lately haven't you?
Nothing much new on my end. My internet finally straightened itself out so I don't get booted offline every 3 minutes. Must be all the swearing and threats I made to the computer finally sunk in. Sometimes my potty mouth is a good thing! (Although my mother might disagree)
I spent a ton of time last night on the budget board going over the freebies for the week. I had never even seen that whole section before! Hubby has to go in for minor surgery next Friday (21st) and then he will be home for 3 weeks recovering. During this time he will come to realize why we need a second computer because I know he's going to want it while I'm on it. I've been wanting a laptop forever and I bet that when this is over I get one. I also predict I will be drinking large amounts of alcohol during this time as well....
It looks like it's going to be a beautiful day here. The sun is up, the seagulls are out there flying around and screaming and all is right with the world. Makes up for the fact that we had bloody snow again yesterday!
Hope everyone has a great day!

 

[Hixski]

I was and still am athletic. I set 2 records in grade school intramurals against 10 other schools in the 50yd dash. I have 6 Presidential awards (the most you could get back in the 60's-70's). I have 20 or so blue ribbons (firstplace) and red ribbons (second place) for numerous sporting events. I even won a Bronze Medal for downhill snow skiing at 35.

But the one thing I don't have is NOT ONE BLOODY TROPHY. Back then the world was still so sexist that only the boys got trophies. The best a girl could hope for was a ribbon. I didn't understand it back then and I still don't understand it now. I would be banned forever from the DIS if I wrote what I REALLY thought about kids getting trophies for everything. Especially last place.

Sorry for the vent!! Can you tell I still get ticked off!!??? We have a neighbor whose daughter by her own admission is terrible at sports but yet she has a whole dresser top full of sports trophies.

 

[Liisa]

No trophies for me... I got enrolled in Piano lessons and painting classes. I finally tried raquetball in college. But I was more interested in chatting with my opponent than being competitive. Thankfully, the women in my family tend to be thinner or I would have been in trouble. I only started a serious work out program 2 years ago - and only then because DH is an avid athlete, peer pressure, you know?!!

So if we all get in a fight, I'll be right behind the rest of you athletes, cheering you on. Oh, and I can bake some nice snacks for the "after the fight party". Cocktails anyone?!!

 

[PhotobearSam]

I have 2 small and 1 larger trophies for.....Wait for it.....BATON TWIRLING!!!!


I was only in it for a short time as they moved 30 minutes away and my parents could not drive me there 2 times a week.... I actually chucked out the 2 small trophies when my parents sold their house and I did not want to clutter my new home.


I also have a few Basketball and Volleyball medals from Junior High but my best ones were the certificates for Math Challenges...I USED to be good in math.


That's all...and I am no worse for wear. I think it's awful to give trophies to everyone.


My niece is in Ringette,http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ringette, and is just starting in the Bunnies category...It's just to learn the basics and they don't keep score, they all get a participation medal at their tournaments and all celebrate HARD WORK. That's ok with me as next year she will be in Novice and that all changes. They will keep score, play positions, and get trophies for 1st, 2nd and 3rd only...the rest will get participation certificates...

If the everyone gets a trophy is only for the first year and only till the children learn the basics, I think that will encourage the kids to play sports (which is ALWAYS good) but it can't stay that way.

In Bunnies, they can hardly skate let alone keep score so I am ok with it...but after that, let them get the real deal.

 

[maddhatir]

Hubby has to go in for minor surgery next Friday (21st) and then he will be home for 3 weeks recovering.

Suzi- hope your DH makes out OK!!!

I was and still am athletic. I set 2 records in grade school intramurals against 10 other schools in the 50yd dash. I have 6 Presidential awards (the most you could get back in the 60's-70's). I have 20 or so blue ribbons (firstplace) and red ribbons (second place) for numerous sporting events. I even won a Bronze Medal for downhill snow skiing at 35.

WOW! You sure ARE the little athelete!

The only thing I remember winning was a 1st place ribbon in my first grade art show I think I got a few ribbons for a few science fair projects too.

I played some sports when I was younger and hated it. Was really good when playing with neighborhood kids- not on the actual field with other players that I did not know.

I was not into sports in high school........I was more

and

and just going through the motions waiting for FRIDAY to come!

 

[zima-cheryl]

....just going through the motions waiting for FRIDAY to come!

Well out of high school & I'm still just going through the motions waiting for Friday to come!

 

[Suzibrat]

Suzi- hope your DH makes out OK!!!
I was not into sports in high school........I was more

and

and just going through the motions waiting for FRIDAY to come!

Aww thanks Madd. I'll be glad for him to have it over with because he's in so much pain and I hate seeing him go thru that on a daily basis.
I found a new wine that I like. It's called "Lunetta". I thought it was like "Lunesta" the sleeping drug so I bought it thinking it would help me sleep. Yeah,um, that's why I bought it (Whew, you almost got me there!) Lovely stuff but the bottle is just too small....or is my wine glass too big??? I only got 2 glasses out of the entire bottle! And DH didn't have any because he doesn't like the bubbly stuff like I do.
Thru out alot of my high school years I had 3 day weekends. I rarely went to school on Fridays, saying it was for "religious" reasons. That's because I usually woke up on Friday morning saying "OMG, what did I do last night?" My poor parents!

 

[Hixski]

Suzi- hope your DH makes out OK!!!



WOW! You sure ARE the little athelete!

The only thing I remember winning was a 1st place ribbon in my first grade art show I think I got a few ribbons for a few science fair projects too.

I played some sports when I was younger and hated it. Was really good when playing with neighborhood kids- not on the actual field with other players that I did not know.

I was not into sports in high school........I was more

and

and just going through the motions waiting for FRIDAY to come!

After I wrote that I realized how bragging that sounded!! I was just good at sports and excelled at them. Except basketball. I couldn't play that worth a crap. 5ft 5in isn't exactly basketball material. I just worked hard at sports because I was good at them.

I don't think anyone that went to school with me grew up deficient because they weren't good at sports. They just encouraged everyone to try hard at everything they did. Whether it be sports or academics or sticking beans up your nose. But you didn't get a trophy for participating. If that was the case I should have about 1000.

All of the jocks in our high school were like your little dudes I bolded. Hey, it was the 70's.

 

[KirklandTutu]

Why, oh WHY do I go read and post on That Sea of Judgement, AKA The Community Board? Why? Sigh. Anyhoo...

I was reading Madd's post about how parents have screwed up sports for kids,

Go a few pages back and read the one about the middle schooler wanting to quit the Oboe. hehehe

Seriously, though, I lie somewhere between teacher and coach for my profession. The kids are easy to deal with, it's the parents who make me want to throw in the towel.

Hard to believe, but I'm missing all the kids while I'm laid up. It's only been two weeks and I can't wait to get back to saying things like 'oh wow, Susie, I love how excited you are to dance, but remember we need to take turns so that everyone can get a chance to dance!' *sigh*

I need a life.