Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[Muushka]

Does anyone read the "Dear Abby" type articles in the paper?
Today was priceless.

A husband and wife with 5 children was waiting to be seated in a restaurant. The kids were antsy while waiting(because they are, after all, children). They were finally being seated. As the rather large family passed by a couple, the couple asked the hostess not to seat the family by them. The father is insulted by this and exchanges words with them about why don't they want his family to sit by them. He asked "Abby" or whoever it was if he was out of place.

Abby answered she would not want to sit by his kids either!

Yes parents, trust me, not everyone is in love with your child/children!

 

[Liisa]

I personally (and I think most here would agree) don't have any problem with good parents who raise their children to be polite, respectful members of society. Unfortunately, there are all too many people who do not - hence my previous use of the word "inflict".

Well said and I agree completely!!!

There are far too many children who feel entitled because their families are afraid to discipline - heaven forbid we upset junior by making him / her behave!

 

[Princess Bella Luna]

Also, any sentence that begins "I don't mean to... but..." should just leave out the first part of the sentence and say what they actually mean, which is, evil kid-free folk should LOVE kids and WANT kids and oh isn't my 2-yr old CUTE.

All the while Jr. is screaming his lungs off while banging his sippy cup into the table ...

PS this has got to be the best thread here!

 

[Hixski]

Does anyone read the "Dear Abby" type articles in the paper?
Today was priceless.

A husband and wife with 5 children was waiting to be seated in a restaurant. The kids were antsy while waiting(because they are, after all, children). They were finally being seated. As the rather large family passed by a couple, the couple asked the hostess not to seat the family by them. The father is insulted by this and exchanges words with them about why don't they want his family to sit by them. He asked "Abby" or whoever it was if he was out of place.

Abby answered she would not want to sit by his kids either!

Yes parents, trust me, not everyone is in love with your child/children!

I have said numerous times that is why DH and I sit at the bar when we go out. Amen, Dear Abby.

 

[QueenGoblin]

These posts make me but I do feel a bit like an interloper because I do have children. I work as a children's librarian and I see bad parenting everyday. My personal favorite is when a child is doing something obviously dangerous in front of a parent and that parent says nothing until I step in...then its "Jimmy, the LIBRARIAN says you shouldn't stick the paperclip into your nose while jumping off the chair."

That being said, it is getting increasingly difficult for good parents to dicipline in public. I know of several instances where parents have had the cops called on them because someone in a public place thought that the parent's form of discipline was abusive. The examples I know of personally involved open handed swatting of a child's clothed behind. In a climate right now where a legislator in California is trying to make it ILLEGAL to physically discipline a child in any way (including spanking), is it any wonder that parents think twice about disciplining their child in public, even if it doesn't involve any physical contact?

I am the parent of a very strong willed child (aka stubborn as a mule). It is her personality and we have spoken with her teachers and her pediatrician about her bevavior and they all have said that this is her personality and we just have to continue to be firm until she gets out of this phase where she "tests" us. So she has privledges taken away, she gets removed, screaming, from situations when she is not behaving, and in certain circumstances, she even gets spanked. But have there been instances where, out of context, she would look like a child who was just out of control? Of course!

I guess my point is...I think families with kids should respectfully share the World with those who do not. And yes, there are too many bad parents out there, but I hope that you will give me and others like me, the benefit of the doubt when you see us lugging a screaming 4 year old across a parking lot. Some of us are trying very hard to raise the doctors, lawyers, postal workers, whatever, who will serve you 20-30 years from now.

 

[myladyisatramp]

Its really nobody's business whether you have children or not, tell them to mind their own business, its your life and you will do as you see fit. As someone else on this board said who knows in 10 years from now as your life progress's you may change your mind. I for one could not imagine my life without my 3 children who are now all beautiful adults. I think in my life right now I would be so different without them. But as I said everyone is different
I hope you tell them to lay off.

 

[Hixski]

Its really nobody's business whether you have children or not, tell them to mind their own business, its your life and you will do as you see fit. As someone else on this board said who knows in 10 years from now as your life progress's you may change your mind. I for one could not imagine my life without my 3 children who are now all beautiful adults. I think in my life right now I would be so different without them. But as I said everyone is different
I hope you tell them to lay off.

In 10 yrs from now as my life progresses I won't be changing my mind. In 10 yrs I will be 57.
Some of us on this board are definately not 20 somethings.

 

[Muushka]

In 10 yrs from now as my life progresses I won't be changing my mind. In 10 yrs I will be 57.
Some of us on this board are definately not 20 somethings.

I will be 2 years short of qualifying for Medicare in 10 years

 

[Liisa]

As someone else on this board said who knows in 10 years from now as your life progress's you may change your mind.

Likewise, I'm sure that there are more than a few parents out there who, when there darling infant reaches ten years old, may also change their mind...

 

[myladyisatramp]

Its really nobody's business whether you have children or not, tell them to mind their own business, its your life and you will do as you see fit. As someone else on this board said who knows in 10 years from now as your life progress's you may change your mind. I for one could not imagine my life without my 3 children who are now all beautiful adults. I think in my life right now I would be so different without them. But as I said everyone is different
I hope you tell them to lay off.

 

[maddhatir]

In 10 yrs from now as my life progresses I won't be changing my mind. In 10 yrs I will be 57.
Some of us on this board are definately not 20 somethings.

I find it funny when people comment on us changing our minds- as HIX said- we WON"T be changing our minds, ever. I have ALWAYS known I didn't want kids. Even when I was a child- sure, I played with baby dolls- but I can't ever remember saying "When I have kids" or "I want a baby when I grow up" It is just something "in" us.....you just KNOW it will never happen, BECASUE WE DO NOT WANT IT TO-- there is no changing your mind.

I may have mentioned this before, but when DH and I went to Disney in Nov/Dec 2006 with BIL and SIL and their 2 kids-- I could CLEARLY see the "oblivious parents" thing going on. I was VERY aware of how the kids acted every minute and there were MANY times I corrected my 5 yr old niece for things that her mother was just letting go. I think it is b/c I don't have kids- and when I see other kids doing what she was doing- it would annoy me! So why would I let HER annoy other people!?? I love her to death, but there were times when she was a bit rude or impatient and I explained to her that she is not the only one in the park!

Her mother wasn't doing it

I think parents need to realize just what I told a 5 YR OLD! and practice it themselves and teach it to their kids- "there are other people around you, respect them as you would want them to respect you"

.........and stop being annoying

 

[MomNeedsVacay]

I've never seen such a bitter group of people before.... how sad.... keep it up. Its interesting.

 

[maddhatir]

I've never seen such a bitter group of people before.... how sad.... keep it up. Its interesting.

hmmm- WE are the one's that are biiter however your DIS name pretty much sums up the fact that you need a vacay from the kids.......OKaaaaayyyy?

keep it up

 

[MomNeedsVacay]

 

[maddhatir]

Hmmmm- It seems we have a little troll---

I am sure the MODS- would be interesting in your

Keep eating your popcorn!

 

[Muushka]

Not meaning to flame the new visitors, but I guess the question I have is:
Why would someone with children even bother visiting this thread?

Surely there must be better ways to waste time.

 

[maddhatir]

Not meaning to flame the new visitors, but I guess the question I have is:
Why would someone with children even bother visiting this thread?

Surely there must be better ways to waste time.

We have asked this of many of our trolls in the past- they are the ones with no lives that need to invade our happy thread! They come and go- as you can see by her # of posts, she is new at this.

She will go away.

As we said in the past- we CF people do not go over the the family boards and stir the pot.

 

[WDWguru]

MomNeedsVacay - it may very well appear that way from the most recent few pages of this thread, but I encourage you -- if you truly are here to gain some knowledge and not just troll -- to go back and read the first few pages. It's an eye-opener, and I think you'll gain a whole new understanding and empathy for this often maligned and misunderstood group.

 

[maddhatir]

MomNeedsVacay - it may very well appear that way from the most recent few pages of this thread,

Hold on- I do not believe any of our posts sound like we are "bitter" people.

....just a bit "fed up" and venting. But what I was getting from her is that we are bitter b/c we do not have kids.

Either way- no bitterness here!

 

[Muushka]

Nope, I'm not bitter either!

Happy Saturday!