Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[dolcezena]

Seriously though, I HAVE said that before!!!

I am one of those women that if I did come up pregnant, I would be crying my eyes out with an EPT in one hand screaming, "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!"

Love that!! Always wondered what it's be like if those companies put people in their ads who DIDN'T want to get pregnant!

Anyway, I've read a lot of these posts, but not all, so here's my 2 cents.

I have never, ever, ever wanted children. When I discovered I had an "untimely" pregnancy, my BF & I at the time took the adoption route. You think it's bad being asked why you're not having kids? Try being 8 months pregnant & seeing people's faces when you tell them that you're placing the baby for adoption! You get this "What kind of unnatural woman can you be to be carrying a child & not want to keep it??" look.

I'll admit, I consider myself fortunate to have had the experience of carrying a child (not so fortunate on the whole labour thing ), that it's something a lot of women will never experience, but each day I'm happy with my decision to place him. 1) He got parents who truly, desperately wanted a child to raise, 2) I loved him on sight, but can't imagine how much I would have had to change my life & my goals to raise him as I think every child deserves to be raised!

As for the "When will you have kids" question - I guess choosing to place him when he was born finally convinced my extended family (8 out of 9 aunts pregnant before marriage, plus my own mother) that I didn't want kids!! DF & I have been together 4 years, we're 35 & nary a word! (However, my way's a bit extreme to get the questions to stop! )

 

[Hixski]

Welcome back- glad to hear you had a good time.

I am very surprised the FA would be able to say something like w/o being worried someone may complain. You know how "they" get.

I guess she took a chance since no one had any kids with them. If anyone thought of complaining they would have to do it in writing. The laughter was too loud. Just remember if "they" go to Las Vegas "they" will have the little rug rats with them.

 

[emmismom05]

Love that!! Always wondered what it's be like if those companies put people in their ads who DIDN'T want to get pregnant!

Anyway, I've read a lot of these posts, but not all, so here's my 2 cents.

I have never, ever, ever wanted children. When I discovered I had an "untimely" pregnancy, my BF & I at the time took the adoption route. You think it's bad being asked why you're not having kids? Try being 8 months pregnant & seeing people's faces when you tell them that you're placing the baby for adoption! You get this "What kind of unnatural woman can you be to be carrying a child & not want to keep it??" look.

I'll admit, I consider myself fortunate to have had the experience of carrying a child (not so fortunate on the whole labour thing ), that it's something a lot of women will never experience, but each day I'm happy with my decision to place him. 1) He got parents who truly, desperately wanted a child to raise, 2) I loved him on sight, but can't imagine how much I would have had to change my life & my goals to raise him as I think every child deserves to be raised!

As for the "When will you have kids" question - I guess choosing to place him when he was born finally convinced my extended family (8 out of 9 aunts pregnant before marriage, plus my own mother) that I didn't want kids!! DF & I have been together 4 years, we're 35 & nary a word! (However, my way's a bit extreme to get the questions to stop! )

Sorry, I'm an imposter on this thread but just had to say that I am adoptive parent to a gorgeous 2 1/2 year old daughter. I will always be so grateful to her birthmother for placing her with DH and I. Without women like you, women like me would never have children (I cannot have bio kids). Kudos to you! And I hate how people tend to scrutinize birthmothers making them think what a bad choice they're making. They're only doing what they feel is best for the child!

 

[plgrn]

How is everyone spending their childfree weekend??
DH and are aren't doing anything grand and glorious, but it will be quiet, peaceful, and spent doing WHATEVER THE HECK WE WANT!

Think I might do a litle scrapbooking!

 

[LoveStitch626]

How is everyone spending their childfree weekend??
DH and are aren't doing anything grand and glorious, but it will be quiet, peaceful, and spent doing WHATEVER THE HECK WE WANT!

Think I might do a litle scrapbooking!

cleaning/organizing the house.. busting out the Wii and also animal crossing (my new obsession).. if all goes well, we're gonna have a shut in weekend where we hang out & reconnect and don't bother w/ anyone else.

 

[maddhatir]

Love that!! Always wondered what it's be like if those companies put people in their ads who DIDN'T want to get pregnant!

Anyway, I've read a lot of these posts, but not all, so here's my 2 cents.

I have never, ever, ever wanted children. When I discovered I had an "untimely" pregnancy, my BF & I at the time took the adoption route. You think it's bad being asked why you're not having kids? Try being 8 months pregnant & seeing people's faces when you tell them that you're placing the baby for adoption! You get this "What kind of unnatural woman can you be to be carrying a child & not want to keep it??" look.

I'll admit, I consider myself fortunate to have had the experience of carrying a child (not so fortunate on the whole labour thing ), that it's something a lot of women will never experience, but each day I'm happy with my decision to place him. 1) He got parents who truly, desperately wanted a child to raise, 2) I loved him on sight, but can't imagine how much I would have had to change my life & my goals to raise him as I think every child deserves to be raised!

As for the "When will you have kids" question - I guess choosing to place him when he was born finally convinced my extended family (8 out of 9 aunts pregnant before marriage, plus my own mother) that I didn't want kids!! DF & I have been together 4 years, we're 35 & nary a word! (However, my way's a bit extreme to get the questions to stop! )

Thank you for sharing your story- and welcome to the board!

 

[maddhatir]

cleaning/organizing the house.. busting out the Wii and also animal crossing (my new obsession).. if all goes well, we're gonna have a shut in weekend where we hang out & reconnect and don't bother w/ anyone else.

What is "animal crossing"

 

[maddhatir]

How is everyone spending their childfree weekend??
DH and are aren't doing anything grand and glorious, but it will be quiet, peaceful, and spent doing WHATEVER THE HECK WE WANT!

Think I might do a litle scrapbooking!

hmmm? A "childfree weekend" it is NOT going to be. Last weekend I had my 2 BILs and SILs over- the one couple have kids- and when I asked them if they wanted to come over and party- I said.. maybe you can get a babysitter I just feel bad for SIL- the kids always want something- and my nephew-- AKA "the tumor", you cant pry him off of her leg- I just wanted adult time to hang out- thats why I suggested a babysitter- and just to let you know- she got ripped that night, I am sure she was glad to get a babysitter too!

Well she calls me during the week and wants us to get together at her house this Saturday....so we can see the kids! I love my niece and nephew to death, but I try and wiggle away sometimes and tell my niece I want to go talk to the big people- she is so darn cute though. But the big people are having "all kinds a fun"

So- thats what we are doing on Saturday anyway. We have to make appetizers- so I will make some PB & J pinwheels for the kiddies and something else for us big people.

I WANT to see ZODIAC tonight (lovin' Jake Gyllenhaal altely for some reason ) But its probably going to be nuts!

 

[LoveStitch626]

What is "animal crossing"

It's a game for the Gamecube (or Wii.. it plays both Wii & GC discs) that's HIGHLY addictive. My BIL gave it to me for Xmas. It's a real time game meaning if it's March 2nd @ 1pm HERE, it's the same there. If you play in the middle of the night, most of the villagers are all asleep & the store's closed. You have your house and can continue to make it bigger and add furniture & stuff. Ok.. my explanation is REALLY making it sound dumb LMAO.. Let me see if I can't find something to explain it in all it's glory.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Animal_Crossing_(GameCube)

That's a little bit better explanation. I guess it's like The Sims but MUCH more fun since your time is yours and you can do what you want (that was the thing I hated about The Sims.. it seemed like I was always cleaning, working or pottying!). Right now, I've been fishing rabidly and I've nearly caught all the fish possible. The rest I have to wait for Summer for those fish to be in season. It's HIGHLY addictive. Last week, DH & I woke up at the same time except I laid there and played possum while he went to potty. I threw the covers off and ran downstairs to beat him to the game first!!

 

[plgrn]

What is "animal crossing"

I was wondering the same thing.

hmmm? A "childfree weekend" it is NOT going to be. Sorry.

I WANT to see ZODIAC tonight (lovin' Jake Gyllenhaal altely for some reason ) But its probably going to be nuts!

I hate scary movies, but have been in the mood for one for the past several months for some odd reason. DH won't watch one with me though 'cuz he gets scared too. Let me know how Zodiac is! I've been wanting to rent the "Exorcism of Emily Rose." Anyone seen it?

 

[plgrn]

(that was the thing I hated about The Sims.. it seemed like I was always cleaning, working or pottying!).

Just like real life! I love the Sims though, so this sounds AWESOME.

 

[LoveStitch626]

I hate scary movies, but have been in the mood for one for the past several months for some odd reason. DH won't watch one with me though 'cuz he gets scared too. Let me know how Zodiac is! I've been wanting to rent the "Exorcism of Emily Rose." Anyone seen it?

I've been dying to see Zodiac. Whenever there's a show on tv about him I always watch it. I've slowly been getting into true crime books.

If yall hate scary movies, Emily Rose is probably NOT for you. It's a bit scary in parts. The one part where her friend wakes up in the dorm room... YIKES! DH doesn't normally freak out easily but that scene FREAKED HIM OUT!!! It's a good movie though. I enjoyed it.

 

[plgrn]

I've been dying to see Zodiac. Whenever there's a show on tv about him I always watch it. I've slowly been getting into true crime books.

If yall hate scary movies, Emily Rose is probably NOT for you. It's a bit scary in parts. The one part where her friend wakes up in the dorm room... YIKES! DH doesn't normally freak out easily but that scene FREAKED HIM OUT!!! It's a good movie though. I enjoyed it.

Mabye I'd better stay away then. "The Ring" freaked me and DH out so bad we won't even watch the second one for closure.

 

[LoveStitch626]

Just like real life! I love the Sims though, so this sounds AWESOME.

It is a LOT like real life. If you love the Sims, you'd probably love this game. It appears to be so childish but it's REALLY not. Sometimes you can change the villagers ending catch phrase. One bear says "sweet pea" at the end of almost every sentence. We've turned one of our villagers (who's a natural grump) into the Red Foreman of the town. LOL We changed his saying to dumba--. You can buy OR design your outfits and umbrellas. You can cut down existing trees and plant new fruit trees or flowers. You can fish or catch bugs (you have a list for both things and MY goal is to catch them all.. nearly there w/ the fish). You can dig up fossils and either sell them for a pretty penny or donate them to the museum. DH likes running around and pestering the villagers until he either makes them mad or they give him something. It really is a lot of fun. They also have tons of cheat codes posted online. I've printed out about 84 pages of one set that includes money codes, turnip codes (every day the storekeeper buys turnips for a different price..depends on how good the deal is. last week he was buying for 162 a turnip)...furniture/wallpaper/carpet codes... clothing codes... It's HIGHLY addictive! Much better than Sims IMO

 

[LoveStitch626]

Mabye I'd better stay away then. "The Ring" freaked me and DH out so bad we won't even watch the second one for closure.

Personally, the Ring was LAME compared to Emily Rose. I love scary movies but nothing ever freaks me out so I'm always let down. Emily Rose definately made my pulse jump a couple of times.

 

[plgrn]

Do they have it for PS2?

 

[LoveStitch626]

Do they have it for PS2?

Just looked at Gamestop.com and they don't. They have it for Nintendo Gamecube and Nintendo DS. If you have or buy a Wii, you can play all Gamecube games on that as well, so that's what we did. We bought a Wii so we can do away with having tons of systems taking up our tv stand. We've got a PS2 also because as ya probably know, they make a ton of PS2 games that don't make it to GC and a lot of GC games that don't make it to PS2. I think Nintendo fiercly guard their Nintendo created games so you have to go w/ their systems if that makes sense.

 

[maddhatir]

Personally, the Ring was LAME compared to Emily Rose. I love scary movies but nothing ever freaks me out so I'm always let down. Emily Rose definately made my pulse jump a couple of times.

I agree- you cant find any good scary movies out there anymore. The ultimate is the Exorsist, but nothing else really comes close to scaring the $h%t out me-- And I love to be scared!

I do like disturbing movies though..... like Rob Zombie's movies-- Sheri Moon plays the ultimate WACK-O- She is great. He is supposed to be making a remake of Halloween.

PS- I dont know anything about Gamecubes, Wii, The Sims- I have one addiction (well ok, a few but the rest we dont need to talk about ) its the internet

 

[LoveStitch626]

I agree- you cant find any good scary movies out there anymore. The ultimate is the Exorsist, but nothing else really comes close to scaring the $h%t out me-- And I love to be scared!

I do like disturbing movies though..... like Rob Zombie's movies-- Sheri Moon plays the ultimate WACK-O- She is great. He is supposed to be making a remake of Halloween.

PS- I dont know anything about Gamecubes, Wii, The Sims- I have one addiction (well ok, a few but the rest we dont need to talk about ) its the internet

I love Rob Zombie's movies. Did you know Sheri's got her own clothing line now? Totalskull.com
Halloween is slated to come out Aug 07 according to comingsoon.net. http://www.comingsoon.net/films.php?id=14839

As far as the Gamecube thing goes, I forgot to mention that if you've got a gamestop nearby, you can get a refurbished GC pretty cheap. 1 controller, console and all the wiring. We're on our 2nd GC because the first one finally pooped out and we've had the refurbished one a lot longer than the NIB GC.

 

[maddhatir]

I love Rob Zombie's movies. Did you know Sheri's got her own clothing line now? Totalskull.com
Halloween is slated to come out Aug 07 according to comingsoon.net. http://www.comingsoon.net/films.php?id=14839

As far as the Gamecube thing goes, I forgot to mention that if you've got a gamestop nearby, you can get a refurbished GC pretty cheap. 1 controller, console and all the wiring. We're on our 2nd GC because the first one finally pooped out and we've had the refurbished one a lot longer than the NIB GC.

Went on Sheri's site and tried to order 2 Ts one for me and one for DH-- OMG- I kept adding the darn items to my cart and it kept saying it was empty-- I guess Sheri Baby doesnt need my money that badly. I will try later

As far as GC- I think I will skip on that- Neither DH or I are into games.