Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[Shyvioletisme]

Just wanted to say ADIOS to you all!!!

I am leaving at 4:30 am on Sunday- not sure if I will be checking in tomorrow! Be back on Friday- however, we will be heading down the shore for Labor Day weekend! Never a moments rest!

I am all packed and my house is almost all clean and DH thinks that means- SAILING tomorrow!- I told him maybe!

have a great trip!!! and enjoy your weekend at the shore as well!!

 

[karebear06]

We have been married for two years. I have always wanted to have kids in the past, and I really didn't know anyone married that did not have kids. But now, we are not sure if we want to have kids. I would hate to have a kid, take him or her to Disney and he or she not like it. We would then be the most horrible parents in the world going to disney and leaving the kids at home.

 

[TKDisneylover]

We have been married for two years. I have always wanted to have kids in the past, and I really didn't know anyone married that did not have kids. But now, we are not sure if we want to have kids. I would hate to have a kid, take him or her to Disney and he or she not like it. We would then be the most horrible parents in the world going to disney and leaving the kids at home.

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[zima-cheryl]

So I know folks here might relate to this. I'm sure others of you have been in this boat probably.

We went out w/friends last night & another couple they know. At one point the 3 of us ladies headed to the bathroom. Once away from the boys I heard a litany of reasons their hubbys were jerks. And then was promptly told how lucky we were we didn't have kids. I kept quiet... since we are friends w/both him & her I didn't want to get in the middle of that. And I didn't even know the other couple at all...

Wow! I feel bad that things are that rough for them. I'm glad we were able to drag them out for a few hours to toss back a few & watch the game.
But it is times like that I really know we made the right choice.

 

[MistyMoss]

So I know folks here might relate to this. I'm sure others of you have been in this boat probably.

We went out w/friends last night & another couple they know. At one point the 3 of us ladies headed to the bathroom. Once away from the boys I heard a litany of reasons their hubbys were jerks. And then was promptly told how lucky we were we didn't have kids. I kept quiet... since we are friends w/both him & her I didn't want to get in the middle of that. And I didn't even know the other couple at all...

Wow! I feel bad that things are that rough for them. I'm glad we were able to drag them out for a few hours to toss back a few & watch the game.
But it is times like that I really know we made the right choice.

We have heard some of the same things. I know where you are coming from. I read somewhere that too many women today are picking a father for their unborn children (as in a wallet) and not picking a husband first. They might figure out the guy is a jerk if they got to know the person first and not just thinking of him as a potential father. At least none of us have to worry about that aspect.

Got a story here.....we got a thank you card the other day from a younger friend of ours that just got married. They are both 29. He said thanks for the gift card, and sharing our special day, and such. The last line I thought was sweet. He said that he hopes they are as happy as we have always been. Can you say "Awwwww"????

I know DH and I would have a heck of a lot more stress on our marriage with kids. As it is, we just go with the flow.

 

[Mayhem2008]

Hi Everyone! Still here just been busy because it's vet season here...that time of year when I have to take everyone to the vet for shots and check ups. Kinda like a "back to school" ritual
Haven't been well since I came back from my trip to Boston and the doctor decided to put me on new meds for my fibro. Right now they are knocking the hell out of me but he said it should only last about 2 weeks so I'll tough it out. I only have 4 weeks until I leave for Disney so I have to be on my feet by then.
I missed saying "Have a good trip!" to Madd!! But I know she will! LOL Can't wait to hear all about it when she gets back!
Have a good day everyone!

 

[zima-cheryl]

Hi Everyone! Still here just been busy because it's vet season here...that time of year when I have to take everyone to the vet for shots and check ups. Kinda like a "back to school" ritual
Haven't been well since I came back from my trip to Boston and the doctor decided to put me on new meds for my fibro. Right now they are knocking the hell out of me but he said it should only last about 2 weeks so I'll tough it out. I only have 4 weeks until I leave for Disney so I have to be on my feet by then.
I missed saying "Have a good trip!" to Madd!! But I know she will! LOL Can't wait to hear all about it when she gets back!
Have a good day everyone!

Hope you are feeling better soon. Definately need to be better before heading to the World! When are you going to be there? I think you may be a week or 2 before we go if I'm counting correctly.

How many "kids" going to the vets? We spread ours out during the year -- otherwise it hurts the wallet too much! $$ They are expensive little things, aren't they? But worth every cent!!

 

[Mayhem2008]

Hope you are feeling better soon. Definately need to be better before heading to the World! When are you going to be there? I think you may be a week or 2 before we go if I'm counting correctly.

How many "kids" going to the vets? We spread ours out during the year -- otherwise it hurts the wallet too much! $$ They are expensive little things, aren't they? But worth every cent!!

We are leaving in 4 weeks...we'll be there from 9/27 - 10/4 and I'm really looking forward to this. It's the first vaca we have ever taken and we've been together for 12 years! (I don't count trips to visit my family back home as "vacation" ) When are you going to be there? You must be excited to be so close to it!! I'm kind of numb right now because I have so much I need to get ready and just not feeling up to any of it.

I have a cat and 2 dogs. All I have left is the little dog to take in in a couple of weeks. She will be the least antsy one, although the cat wasn't that bad. He had some knots on his back and he let them remove them with no problem whatsoever. Maggie, my big dog, just wanted to be back in the car with her head hanging out the window, catching the breeze. She "talked" the entire time we were there. Not barking, just making alot of mooing sounds .
This is DH's busy season at work, they work the entire month of August, no days off, anywhere from 14-16 hours a day so I take all the pets to the vet while the money is a bit more plentiful. One thing I love about our vet is that she never has a packed waiting room. They schedule one person at a time and the next person usually arrives just as the prior one is leaving. The last vet I had used to double book plus allow walkins and the waiting room would be a zoo!

We may go to the fair this Sunday, if DH has it off and it doesn't rain. I've never been so this will be a new one for me!
Have a good Friday everyone!

 

[TKDisneylover]

Happy Friday Everyone!!! ​

Mayhem & Zima-cheryl, you guys are so lucky your trips are coming up quickly!! Have either of you started packing yet? I don't have the suitcases out, but I do have little piles of things to be packed starting to form. Which resorts are you each staying at?

May, hope your feeling good for your trip. I know a couple people with fibro and it sounds like it can get pretty painful at times.

I've been dealing with a bad foot, it's pronated (fallen arch), which puts pressure on my ankle. I've gained some weight in last year and that's starting to affect the ankle more. The doc took an x-ray and found out I have a broken bone in my ankle, it's an old injury that was never taken care of and is now agitated by the weight gain. Now I'm doing a crash Atkin's diet to try to drop some weight so I do not become a part of the scooter brigade at Disney. And I will also be going in to have new orthotics made for my shoes to lift the arch and take the pressure of the ankle bone. Wish me luck, please!

On a lighter topic, did anyone see the news about David Duchovny (x-files, CALIFORNICATION), is being treated for a sex addiction? He's actually gone into treatment for it. I think his Showtime series has become more reality than just acting. Just thought that was interesting.

Have a great day everyone!

 

[zima-cheryl]

Mayhem & Zima-cheryl, you guys are so lucky your trips are coming up quickly!! Have either of you started packing yet? I don't have the suitcases out, but I do have little piles of things to be packed starting to form. Which resorts are you each staying at?

I'm getting very excited! I keep checking the menu for F&W and day dreaming about all the great food to sample. Got our PFTS reservation Monday. I'm thinking we should buy a 3rd seat for the flight home - we are going to eat so much we may need it!

We are going to be at the Dolphin - neither DH nor I have ever stayed there & since we are focusing on Epcot it seemed as good a time as any other to try it out! I wanted to be close, so after park close we could just stumble back w/out having to worry about driving or a bus.

Actually - before WDW we are headed over to Cooperstown NY for a weekend in September. DH is taking me to Howe's Cavern & the Baseball Hall of Fame. It will be nice to get away, even if it is just a quick overnight trip.

I've been dealing with a bad foot, it's pronated (fallen arch), which puts pressure on my ankle. I've gained some weight in last year and that's starting to affect the ankle more. The doc took an x-ray and found out I have a broken bone in my ankle, it's an old injury that was never taken care of and is now agitated by the weight gain. Now I'm doing a crash Atkin's diet to try to drop some weight so I do not become a part of the scooter brigade at Disney. And I will also be going in to have new orthotics made for my shoes to lift the arch and take the pressure of the ankle bone. Wish me luck, please!

Are they going to do surgery to repair the break? Or is it past the point of doing anything to fix/help it?

As far as the fallen arch - don't laugh - but have you considered yoga? A girl in my class swears it has helped her feet. I know it has done wonders for my bum hip! You just need to find a good instructor who will work w/you on any specific problems you have.

Good luck - hopefully the shoes will do the trick!

 

[TKDisneylover]

I'm getting very excited! I keep checking the menu for F&W and day dreaming about all the great food to sample. Got our PFTS reservation Monday. I'm thinking we should buy a 3rd seat for the flight home - we are going to eat so much we may need it!

We are going to be at the Dolphin - neither DH nor I have ever stayed there & since we are focusing on Epcot it seemed as good a time as any other to try it out! I wanted to be close, so after park close we could just stumble back w/out having to worry about driving or a bus.

I know what you mean about the F&W Fest, we really enjoyed it the last time we went. Unfortunately I could not believe how many people were there late with their kids! And I cannot tell you how many times we were clipped in the heels by strollers! I think we may have made the mistake of going during a weekend evening, so this time we are planning to go mid-week hoping it will not be so crazy. You will have to let us know how you liked the Dolphin.

Actually - before WDW we are headed over to Cooperstown NY for a weekend in September. DH is taking me to Howe's Cavern & the Baseball Hall of Fame. It will be nice to get away, even if it is just a quick overnight trip.

This definitely sounds like a nice little getaway.

Are they going to do surgery to repair the break? Or is it past the point of doing anything to fix/help it?

As far as the fallen arch - don't laugh - but have you considered yoga? A girl in my class swears it has helped her feet. I know it has done wonders for my bum hip! You just need to find a good instructor who will work w/you on any specific problems you have.

Good luck - hopefully the shoes will do the trick!

No surgery right now. The doc was not even sure that was an option because there are major nerves and ligaments around the bone. Removing the bone chunk could actually cause more harm, so he wants to see how these new orthotics work out.

No laughing at the yoga, I will definitely consider it. I've started doing regular morning stretching and I think that is really helping. Thankfully Atkin's is working for me, I've lost 2 1/2 pounds this week so I'm off to a great start and feeling really good about it. I'm hoping to lose 20 by the time the trip comes in October.

 

[zima-cheryl]

Thankfully Atkin's is working for me, I've lost 2 1/2 pounds this week so I'm off to a great start and feeling really good about it. I'm hoping to lose 20 by the time the trip comes in October.

CONGRATS! That is a great start.
I know several folks who've used Atkins & had great results. I'm sure you will too!

 

[maddhatir]

Hey everyone! I am back!

Got home yesterday about 4pm- was in bed and sleeping by 7pm! and did not wake up until 10am today!!

Speaking of some woman (and men) bad mouthing their spouses- I find that gross! I feel sorry for those people who do not know what it feels like to be happy! DH and I have been together for 28 years and I cherish every second we are together- I missed him SO much while I was away it was horrible!

I told him I do not think I could do it again! I love my neice and SIL but I am looking forward to our next adult Disney trip! Strollin' hand in hand in the parks is my favorite thing in the world!!!

May, you will have so much fun- just relax and do not try and see everything all at once- just remember, you can always go back. I finally chilled out this time- of course, The Boardwalk is a great place to chill and not worry about hurrying to the parks! We usually stay at the values and let me tell ya- No wonder we could never relax there- with all the families crawling around and the kids screaming and the food court echoing with the all yellin- you just can't wait to get as far away as possible from the resort!

I told DH our next trip- Boardwalk!

Me and SIL had our fill of champagne and chocolate martinis!!!!! Yeee haaa!

Here is a pick of us "gals" before dinner with Cinderella- oh, and yes, the Prince came up to me while I was alone at the table JUST to be sure I was enjoying myself! I had to rub that one in to my niece But she one up-ed me when the Prince came to the table just to come and get her to dance with him! (imagine me and a 6yr old fighting over the Prince)- that's OK- he was too clean cut for MY liking- she can have him!

(I am the blonde )

 

[TKDisneylover]

Hey everyone! I am back!

Welcome back Madd!!

I told him I do not think I could do it again! I love my neice and SIL but I am looking forward to our next adult Disney trip! Strollin' hand in hand in the parks is my favorite thing in the world!!!

May, you will have so much fun- just relax and do not try and see everything all at once- just remember, you can always go back. I finally chilled out this time- of course, The Boardwalk is a great place to chill and not worry about hurrying to the parks! We usually stay at the values and let me tell ya- No wonder we could never relax there- with all the families crawling around and the kids screaming and the food court echoing with the all yellin- you just can't wait to get as far away as possible from the resort!

I told DH our next trip- Boardwalk!

Me and SIL had our fill of champagne and chocolate martinis!!!!! Yeee haaa!

Here is a pick of us "gals" before dinner with Cinderella- oh, and yes, the Prince came up to me while I was alone at the table JUST to be sure I was enjoying myself! I had to rub that one in to my niece But she one up-ed me when the Prince came to the table just to come and get her to dance with him! (imagine me and a 6yr old fighting over the Prince)- that's OK- he was too clean cut for MY liking- she can have him!

(I am the blonde )

Cute pic of the 3 of you Madd, your niece is such a cutie patootie! Glad to hear you had a nice time with them but I'm totally understanding the WDW time with your DH only. And how sweet of the prince to come and check on you, too bad the are so clean cut. I say make 'em grow their hair long and put blue sunglasses on them. Yeah, that's it, they should all look like JD!

I have to say I am not looking forward to the loudness of a value resort, but this trip is a budget trip that my best friend and I planned with our DH's just to get together for the F&W fest. We definitely will not be at the resort that much and since we got our room for $54 a night we'll deal with it. DH wants to stay at the Poly or Boardwalk next time.

 

[Shyvioletisme]

welcome back Madd!!! Glad y'all had such a good time!

 

[Mayhem2008]

Welcome back Madd!!! I love the picture, even though I always had the mental image that you were a borderline goth girl like me! Sounds like you had an awesome time, which I knew you would. I would have been checking the Prince for piercings and tattoos before giving him my seal of approval.

TK - that foot of yours sounds like sheer agony. I hope that you'll get healed up enough to enjoy your trip. Good luck on Atkins! I know it's worked for so many people and I'm sure it'll work for you too. It sounds like you are off to a really good start.

Zima - I'm psyched about the F&W fest myself! So much booze and so little time! Oh yeah...there's food too huh? LOL I think I'll make a little sign that says "Please return to Coronado springs" on it and paste it to my shirt just in case I'm not speaking to clearly at the end of the day.

We had a great weekend. DH got all 3 days off and it seemed like I hadn't seen him in a month, which is pretty accurate. We went shopping on Saturday. Nothing spectacular to report there. Sunday we went to the fair and you'll never believe what I had! Deep fried Oreos! Yes they were good and the entire taste of the Oreo gets transformed by the batter and the frying but talk about feeling guilty after eating those babies! Thankfully I walked them off and didn't have anything else. Yesterday we bummed around the house, did the BBQ thing and DH got the idea that it would be fun to work on a puzzle together. We bought one with some cats on it and laid everything out...after about 2 hours I said to him "I thought you said this was supposed to be relaxing???" I was chain smoking and he was swearing so I guess the idea of relaxation went right out the window
Housework for me today. If anyone wants to come and rescue me from it I'll be waiting.......have a good day everyone!

 

[TKDisneylover]

TK - that foot of yours sounds like sheer agony. I hope that you'll get healed up enough to enjoy your trip. Good luck on Atkins! I know it's worked for so many people and I'm sure it'll work for you too. It sounds like you are off to a really good start.

Thanks!

We had a great weekend. DH got all 3 days off and it seemed like I hadn't seen him in a month, which is pretty accurate. We went shopping on Saturday. Nothing spectacular to report there. Sunday we went to the fair and you'll never believe what I had! Deep fried Oreos! Yes they were good and the entire taste of the Oreo gets transformed by the batter and the frying but talk about feeling guilty after eating those babies! Thankfully I walked them off and didn't have anything else. Yesterday we bummed around the house, did the BBQ thing and DH got the idea that it would be fun to work on a puzzle together. We bought one with some cats on it and laid everything out...after about 2 hours I said to him "I thought you said this was supposed to be relaxing???" I was chain smoking and he was swearing so I guess the idea of relaxation went right out the window
Housework for me today. If anyone wants to come and rescue me from it I'll be waiting.......have a good day everyone!

Glad to hear that your DH did not have to work this weekend, it's so nice to be able to just relax and enjoy each other's company.

This actually reminds me of a funny story from work that a fellow coworker told me. Someone had asked her when her & her DH were going to have kids, they've been married for 3 years now. She said they were happy without having kids and have pretty much decided they were not having any. The woman asks her, "but won't you get bored?" And she was totally serious! What is this woman going to do when the kids have grown and gotten a life of their own?

Deep fried Oreos? It amazes me how much stuff they have started deep frying! Our fair advertised deep fried Snickers candy bars, we did not go this year so I did not have one, but that just sounds like it would be a melted mess.

 

[Mayhem2008]

Thanks!



Glad to hear that your DH did not have to work this weekend, it's so nice to be able to just relax and enjoy each other's company.

This actually reminds me of a funny story from work that a fellow coworker told me. Someone had asked her when her & her DH were going to have kids, they've been married for 3 years now. She said they were happy without having kids and have pretty much decided they were not having any. The woman asks her, "but won't you get bored?" And she was totally serious! What is this woman going to do when the kids have grown and gotten a life of their own?

Deep fried Oreos? It amazes me how much stuff they have started deep frying! Our fair advertised deep fried Snickers candy bars, we did not go this year so I did not have one, but that just sounds like it would be a melted mess.

OMG "but won't you get bored?" Can you imagine???? We are never bored and because we have the freedom to come and go as we please, without worrying about childcare or having to go to primarily kid-friendly places, we are constantly on the go. It's also nice to just sit on the porch and talk for hours without any interruptions. It's probably the same for most of you as well.
As for the deep fried Oreos, all I could think of was Paula Deen when I was eating them, although she may have put some butter on them I once saw her deep fry a stuffed baked potato!
Doesn't Cooke's Of Dublin in DTD do deep fried Snickers? I'd try it but don't think I could get thru the sweetness overload....but if you all need someone to be a guinea pig I'll sacrifice myself in the name of science

 

[Shyvioletisme]

deep fried oreos...that's nothing...State Fair of Texas...we deep fry everything!!! lol...pretty much every candy bar, guacamole, deep friend lattes, sundaes, deep fried bacon will be new this year...lol...
but hey, what can you say...corny dogs were invented at our state fair...in Texas: "If you can dip it in batter, you can deep fry it!" lol

I do have to say though that the deep fried guacamole and deep fried latte are both divine!!! ok, now I can't wait for the state fair to start this month!!

 

[PhotobearSam]

Madd.....LOVE that pic. You guys look so happy.

I am glad you are back.