Marriage - how old where you?

[MinnyGranny62]

I was 18 and Dh was 21 when we were married. Have been married for 43 years and happy. I don't believe there were any divorce's in our families. We always worked through our troubles and never thought about a quick way out.

 

[GoofyDad869]

Cool!

 

[princesspumpkin]

I was 23, DH was 25. We will have been married for 2 years in May. we dated for about a year before we got engaged, then we were engaged for 2 years while he was trying to find a job.
We bicker, but we don't have very many full on fights. We also went into the marriage with the expectation that divorce and cheating are not options, end of discussion. I don't like the "don't go to bed angry" rule. I think it works in theory but not really in practice. So, our rule is that no one, no matter what the fight, can sleep on the couch. We both have to be in bed, together. It is hard to be mad at someone all night when they are sleeping next to you.
Also, we still make some time to spend alone, as well as together. I have nights when I go out with my sister or friend, and he doesn't complain, just like I don't complain when he spends time with his family and friends. A lot of people think that once you are married, you should only be around each other, and that everything has to be run by the other person. One thing I think is important to remember is that we were separate people before the wedding, and we still have different interests. As long as our family that we have made is the most important thing, we can still be individuals.

I believe we must be twins! I feel the exact same way. We've been married for 11 years and I love hime even more today. We have family time with DD, couple time and individual time either alone or with friends. People can't seem to understand how he would "allow" me to go off for a weekend with the girls, or how I don't go with him and the "boys" to a game. Doing things separately just gives us more to talk about when we get back together. Communication!

 

[tiggerlover]

I don't have a lot of time to read through all the pages of this thread, but I will post my experience and opinion.

I met my DH when I was 17 and he was 18 (I was a HS Jr., he a Sr.). We dated 2-1/2 years and was married when I was 19 and he was 20. We will celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary later this year.

No one on either side of our families is divorced. My parents were married for 56 years until my fathers death last year. My in-laws have been married 43 years to date. All of my siblings have been married for over 25 years and my DH's siblings (who are younger) have been married over 10 years.

A lot of my friends from HS have been married and divorced (some more than once) and I see that the friends who have come from a divorced home have ended up divorced themselves.

 

[DMickey28]

DH and I were 29 and 26. We have been married for a year and half and together for three and half. We too went into the marriage thinking that divorce and cheating are not options.

My parents have been married 35 years and DH's mom was married twice and is now alone. DH went through a rough childhood with his father and stepfather. He refuses to do that to his family.

We have our ups and downs but it is amazing how much we have grown together over just the last 8 months!!~

 

[Kitty 34]

I was 25 and mature....I think!

 

[5wdwfans]

I was 19, DH was 21. I was not pregnant and had been dateing for 3 years, had a 6 week engagement and in july it will be 19 years for us.

 

[GoofyDad869]

We moved back home, and I got pregnant with DS now almost 7. That was in 1999, when I was 22 when he was born. DS#2 followed in 2003 and we are now FRESHLY expecting #3... (DH doesnt even know yet - found out today Cant wait to tell him tonight on our "date").

We have dates, send the kids to their granparents/Aunts house every now and again and get sitters...

Congratulations, Grendalynn!

Date nights are probably the one aspect we don't indulge ourselves in very often for the benefit of our marriage. I mean, we do have date nights for special occasions like anniversary and birthday weekends - but I usually feel like we are imposing upon whomever lucky soul is attending to our "angelic children". We're lucky to get 3 or 4 date nights a year. The kids are well behaved enough, but you never know when they'll decide to 'Commenc La Revolucion'. They're getting old enough to be self-sufficient, so we'll probably start doing it more.

 

[transparant]

I was 17 when I was engaged. 18 when I was married. And 17 1/2 years and 6 kids later - we are still going strong!

 

[robinb]

If I married the boyfriend that I had in my teens or twenties, my marriage would have been over long ago. I was not ready and they were idiots. I was finally ready in my early 30's when I met the right guy. I was ready for a child in my late 30's. I now have a 6 year old when some of you younger-married are having grandchilren. I am 100% happy with my choices. I would be 100% unhappy (with a crappy ex-husband and father of my children) if I made your choice.

 

[EltonJohn]

GoofyDad,

I'm still single, but I guestimate that I will be married sometime in my 30s at the rate I am going. Yes, marriage is till "death do us part" in my book.

 

[Grendalynn]

Thanks GoofyDad869. I honestly think that Date are the best thing for a marriage! No chasingthe kids, breaking up fist fghts, fighting over crayons, picking french fries off the floor when you leave and so on and so forth.

If you dont want to impose on family and can afford an extra $20 or so, get a baby sitter. Our local Athletic Club offers baby Sitting/First Aide CPR course for pre/teens and have a list of names of the girls that have attended that course available. Its a good feeling to leave your Little angles in capable hands!

The worst that your family will say when you ask them to watch the kids is "NO" and then you go to plan B, a sitter. DH and I said to each other tonight that we need to do this (have a childless evening) more offen. Then I soon told him we were excpecting child #3 and he said, we will deffinatly have to di it more than we do now! LOL

 

[Tiggerlover91]

We were both 21 years old when we got married. We celebrate 18 years together on the 31st of this month and 15 years of marriage on the 22nd of May!

 

[Caradana]

Lots of credit to those on this board who got married at 18, 19, 20. That being said, I'm so glad I didn't. The extra years to focus on myself made it far easier to graduate from school, build a career, become financially self-sufficient, travel, grow, let the men mature and make their mistakes withough impacting me, date, live the ultra-fun single gal in NYC life, ... and most importantly, PICK THE RIGHT GUY.

 

[lulubelle]

I was 28 and DH was 37. Second marriages for both. We had one rule...no cheating. If you feel the need to be with another, just end the marriage. Period. Seventeen years later we are still very happy. It has been wonderful most of the time. Sorry, but I guess neither of us really knew what we wanted in our youth.

 

[Nutsy]

I was 26......all my freinds were married by the age of 21......I was left on the shelf so to speak for 5 years.

 

[kdibattista]

I was 23 and DH was 31... we've been happily married for almost 6 years.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

I was 25 and my hubby was 31.