Marriage - how old where you?

[mommaU4]

I was 13 yrs old when I first met my future hubby. He was a few months older than me. We stayed "just friends" until age 16 when we started dating. I was 21 when we married and shortly after I turned 23 we had our first baby. We are still happily married today and this June will be our 13th wedding anniversary.

We have been through problems in our marriage with finances, family, kids, rough pregnancies, you name it. And so far we have managed to stay together.

But we have this little thing we always say to each other which is that we are only staying together until our 50th anniversary and then were outta there.

 

[MamaLema]

I was 20. EVERYONE said it wouldn't work. 11 years later I am the only one not divorced in my family

 

[llij]

My DH and I started dating in college when we were 20 (had known each other for at least and year and were friends before dating.) We got married when we were 25 and will celebrate our 13th wedding anniversary this year!

 

[Caropooh]

I was 3 weeks shy of 23 and DH was 24. We had dated for 5 years(with a 5 month break-up) before we got married. We will have been married 22 years this May. We met while both working at Disneyland the week before I graduated from High School.
Family History- My parents divorced when I was in 9th grade. Dh's parents had both previously been divorced but now have been married to each other for almost 50 years.

 

[bigolive9]

I was 23, DH was 25. We will have been married for 2 years in May. we dated for about a year before we got engaged, then we were engaged for 2 years while he was trying to find a job.
We bicker, but we don't have very many full on fights. We also went into the marriage with the expectation that divorce and cheating are not options, end of discussion. I don't like the "don't go to bed angry" rule. I think it works in theory but not really in practice. So, our rule is that no one, no matter what the fight, can sleep on the couch. We both have to be in bed, together. It is hard to be mad at someone all night when they are sleeping next to you.
Also, we still make some time to spend alone, as well as together. I have nights when I go out with my sister or friend, and he doesn't complain, just like I don't complain when he spends time with his family and friends. A lot of people think that once you are married, you should only be around each other, and that everything has to be run by the other person. One thing I think is important to remember is that we were separate people before the wedding, and we still have different interests. As long as our family that we have made is the most important thing, we can still be individuals.

 

[CamColt]

I was 23 and DH was 2 days away from turning 27 when we got married. We had dated for about 11 months then were engaged for another 7. We celebrated out 10th anniversay last summer.

 

[cdrn1]

I was 18, DH was 25. We will celebrate 31 years of marriage next week.
If one of my daughters had wanted to even date a man of 25 at the age of 18, I would have had a fit. My poor parents!!!

 

[dismom9761]

I was 19 yrs old and DH was 26 yrs old.Ten years and four kids later we are still going strong.

 

[kydisneyfans]

She was 24, I was 23-had dated for 4 years-we knew we would get married, just wanted to wait until college graduation. Graduated the weekend before our wedding-which was 4 days before Christmas.

We will be married 10 years this year. Her 3 younger sisters and my brother all have at least 1 divorce under their belt-some more than 1. It is a logistical nightmare at Christmas as the family has spread out and everything is arranged around "the father has the kids this weekend". Our of 11 nieces and nephews, my mother and father in law have had all grandkids together 1 time, how sad.

The secret to strong marriage is communication-no doubt about it.

 

[DisneyJen0504]

Dh and I were both 25.

 

[JVL1018]

I started dating my husband when I was 18 and he was 22.
We got engaged when I was 19 and he was 23, like you no extenuating circumstances, no rush, we were engaged for over a year and a half and got married when I was 21 and he was 25.

My parenst were married 40 years when my Mom died, and my hsubands parents were married for 49 years when my MIL died.

My brothers and I have not been divorced form our spouses, but DH's oldest brother is divorced twice and his middle brother has been divorced once(now remarried).

 

[Micca]

I was 19 and DW had turned 20 9 days before our wedding. We've been married 31 years.

 

[Grendalynn]

Dear Husband and I going on our 8th year of marriage (we are now 29 and 31). I was 20 , he was 22. I had known who he was since we were kids (same town, different elementary school) and knew who he was in High School. Though we never hung out, we had mutual friends. We started dating after his first year of college and going into my Senior year of high school. We were engaged for 2 years and had dated for almost 2 before that. We knew that we would be married with in the first few months of our relationship. When we got married the church pastor had "counciled" us as part of the formality for using the church. She was astounded that there were NO divorces in either of our immediate familys or much of our extened family - both of our parents were together as well as our grandparents! My parents are going on being married for 38 years, DH parents - 31, and god only know how long our garnparents were/are married. After we were married, we moved away and lived our lives and young adults. We moved back home, and I got pregnant with DS now almost 7. That was in 1999, when I was 22 when he was born. DS#2 followed in 2003 and we are now FRESHLY expecting #3... (DH doesnt even know yet - found out today Cant wait to tell him tonight on our "date"). Some of the people who we know that were married around the same time as us have seperated, cheated, or are just plain miserable. That is not and option for us. We take the time, which we learned along the way after the kids came, that we needed Mommy and Daddy time. We have dates, send the kids to their granparents/Aunts house every now and again and get sitters...

I think Marriage is all what you make of it. A lot of people thought we were too young and said to wait and were afraid that we would want to sew our oats later down the road... I cant image it any other way... We are spending some of the best time of our lives together. No dating traumas, no emotional brerak ups, no hunting for Mr./Miss Right til were 35... We will be done having babies by the time I am 30 and will have the best years of our lives to spend as a family.

No one ever said it wouyld be easy. If you think that it will be -you are nuts. Marriage is hard work and is only as fun as you make it. Communication, understanding, faith (beit god or otherwise), and patience mixed whith a bunch of love and fun is what makes our marriage work. Its been a long road but we are very proud of where we are now! I woudlnt have it anyother way... But thats just my 2 cents! Everyone is different!

 

[slo]

I was 23

 

[LK03]

We started dating when I turned 17 and he turned 18. We lasted through being 4 hours apart while I was away at college, him in the ARMY and then later in Iraq. He proposed after we dated for four years, had a year long engagement and then married 5 days after I graduated college which was also 5 days after our 5 year anniversary. We've been going strong for 8 months (haha, that seems so little compared to most here).

 

[SleepyMom]

Way back in 1984 my younger brother and I got married just 3 weeks apart, I was 20 and marrying a guy who was 21, everyone said we were perfect for each other and would have a long marriage. My brother was just barely 18, his wife to be already had a baby and there was one on the way (she was 19). Her parents were divorced and re-married to others as were my DB and mine, only my future IL's were the ones still married. Everyone gave DB's marriage 6 months and I am happy to say that they are still going strong and share a wonderful marriage after almost 22 years. I on the other hand was divorced after less than 5 years and now have gotten re-married to a wonderful man whose parents were divorced as well, we just celebrated our 15th anniversary. So, I guess in our cases, having divorced parents had the opposite affect on us.

 

[kldmom2000]

DH and I were HS sweeties... We started dating when he was 17 and I was 15... got married 6 yrs later (he was 23 and I was 21) We just celebrated 11 blissful years last October The funny thing too is that when we first got married, so many people thought that I "MUST" be pregnant to marry so young but we didn't have our first child until I was 27 and DH was 29

 

[froglady]

Met DH at age 24/29, married at 25/30, will be celebrating 30 years in Nov.

Had DD at 32, DS at 42. DD is 22 and not even looking yet; she wants to graduate (May) and get established in her career before she marries.

 

[Pooh67_68]

We got married on my birthday, I turned 19 dh was 20

It will be 20yrs. this May.

 

[rhanditresmom]

I was 18 and he was 19 when we met. We dated for 4 years, were engaged for 1 year and married when he was 22 and I was 21. We celebrated our 15th anniversary this June and I love him more than we were married...and he feels the same way. Sometimes I can't believe that much time has passed....