Man fakes death to avoid child support

[poohandwendy]

Why not just save the drama and the trouble and sign over your parental rights?? If you obviously want nothing to with the child, why not go that route?

You cannot just sign away your financial responsibility unless the other parent is willing to agree to it. If the other parent is on govt assistance, they will not allow the man to do that.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I heard this on the radio today. All I can say is MORON.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I've always wondered, are women ever required to pay child support if the man gets custody of the kids?

Yes they do.

 

[mickeyfan2]

Dh's decree requires 14% of his take home income to be paid in child support per pay period. Sometimes it really hurts and I wish I didn't have to write that check but I do because she's his child and she's a responsibility he took on 18 years ago. Who do these men think will feed and clothe their children if they don't??? Do they really think that making their child go without is a fun way to get back at their ex?? I always write the check for 14% of the total household income, mine included although the court considers only his income. I figure when I married him I took on the responsibility of supporting her too. Her lifestyle should be in keeping with ours at the very least. My father rarely paid a dime but that was back in the days before anyone really enforced child support. I went to bed hungry too many times to do that to her.

I applaude you. You are a great step-mom.

 

[Shugardrawers]

Why not just save the drama and the trouble and sign over your parental rights?? If you obviously want nothing to with the child, why not go that route?

My cousin did this. He allowed his son's stepfather to adopt him. BUT, it doesn't erase any back child support you may owe. Only stops having to keep paying. I personally thought money was a lousy reason to sign away your child. Explain to your 13 year old boy that you gave up your role as his father simply because he was too expensive. My bio father had his faults, plenty of them. He rarely paid support. He also let my step dad take over because he knew he could do a much better job. I never doubted that he did that because he loved us and knew it was best for us.

ETA: Thanks for the compliment but I think it's just what you do when you marry a person with children. My "step" dad did exactly that (I hate that word, there's no step about it he's my dad). Parents and children are a package deal even after they are adults.

 

[barkley]

You cannot just sign away your financial responsibility unless the other parent is willing to agree to it. If the other parent is on govt assistance, they will not allow the man to do that.

yup, and what alot of folks don't realize is if your child is voluntarily or involuntarily (as in the the court takes the child from you) placed in foster care the parent is still financialy responsible (unless they were on or would have been eligible to afdc on the date the child was removed).

i thought about social security too-but the mom may have gone in to start the paperwork and learned that the dad did'nt have enuf quarters for the "surviving" child to draw so she did'nt pursue it any further. the only way a kid draws is if the deceased parent is alive and drawing retirement/disability or if the parent is deceased-if the parent had enuf quarters.

i lay as much if not more on his family who obviously knew he was alive-they're no better than parents of kids who aide them in fleeing the country to prevent crime prosecutions.

 

[Dismom+two]

I have a deadbeat Ex.....as far as I am concerned he is the scum of the earth!! Thank God for my husband. My ds15 doesn't even ASK or refer to his "father" or what I like to call him...."the sperm donor", ds always called my now husband by his first name until the day we got married (4 years ago) and now calls him dad.

Anyone can be a father....but it takes a true man to be a dad!!!!

 

[Art Vandalay]

I've always wondered, are women ever required to pay child support if the man gets custody of the kids?

Speaking from experience, yes. Had I not agreed to waive child support (and provide ample justification for waiving it to the judge), my ex would have been required to pay child support.

 

[SillyMe]

Dh's decree requires 14% of his take home income to be paid in child support per pay period. Sometimes it really hurts and I wish I didn't have to write that check but I do because she's his child and she's a responsibility he took on 18 years ago. Who do these men think will feed and clothe their children if they don't??? Do they really think that making their child go without is a fun way to get back at their ex?? I always write the check for 14% of the total household income, mine included although the court considers only his income. I figure when I married him I took on the responsibility of supporting her too. Her lifestyle should be in keeping with ours at the very least. My father rarely paid a dime but that was back in the days before anyone really enforced child support. I went to bed hungry too many times to do that to her.

You are a wonderful woman. I don't understand why more people do not look out for the child, instead of themselves.

My oldest dd's "donor" owes about $8,000 in arrears. Pathetic. He played the quit job, move across state, lose job, move back across state again for many years until he settled his butt in one place. Maybe I shouldn't speak too soon.

 

[dcentity2000]

That's well dodgy



Rich::

 

[poohandwendy]

hey rich, don't you have work to do?