I have to admit I'm surprised (pleasantly) by the level of compassion and understanding in this thread. And Ripleysmom, hat's off to you!!!! I used to work professionally as a special ed law trainer-- you are awesome.
Personally, I'm very in favor of inclusion (not mainstreaming, but full inclusion) for MOST students. I also believe that each district must offer a full spectrum of educational options to meet the needs of a variety of kids. Not every child can have their needs met in a regular classroom.
That said, I think that especially in elementary school many students can have their needs met--- if the school commits to doing inclusion appropriately. Almost all of the educational research shows that inclusion has huge academic and social/emotional benefits for children with disabilities AND typical learners. The research is very cool and promising.
The difficulty is that most schools do not really do inclusion the right way. Inclusion isn't "dumping" a child in a regular class and patting oneself on the back for being inclusive. Inclusion involves placing a child in a classroom, working with the teacher to make appropriate accomodations and provide specially designed instruction, and provided the needed supports both to the teacher and the student--- and the other students if needed. In some cases this may involve an educational assistant for the teacher in the classroom. In others, it may involve special equipment or technology, supportive services, or professional development opportunities for the teacher.
In a truly inclusive school environment, the educational assistant isn't assigned to the child, but to the teacher. The child remains a student of the main teacher, but the teacher has the support of the extra, specially trained adult. During parts of the day, that assistant my be helping the "target" student. During other parts of the day she may be assisting other students, running reading groups, or supervising the science projects of other students--- doing whatever that teacher does.
In a truly inclusive school, teachers are trained and embrace the idea of differentiated instruction. This means that the same concepts are taught in a mult-sensorial way, with multiple opportunities and avenues for expressing newly acquired skills and knowledge at different ability levels. This is good not jsut for kids with disabilities, but for all kids--- no two of whom learn the same way. If there is a differentiation in assignments and learning style, the same classroom can touch effectively the gifted, the average, the second language learner, the mildly disabled and even the severley disabled individual.
Why do I believe in inclusive educaiton (done the right way)? Because, in addition to the proven educational and social benefits, it prepares everyone better for adult life. Kids don't grow up to live in a segregated world. Kids are smart. When they learn in kindergarten that certain kinds of kids are "special friends" who need separate lunch breaks, play breaks, and bathroom breaks, they believe they are very different and shouldn't associate with them. However, when they learn in a school community that embraces all students they learn early on how to accomodate toa variety of communication techniques, behaviors and physical differences. This is essential because the "typical" students are going to grow up to live in the same community as their disabled peers--- only they will be their neighbors, employers, judges, police officers, and social workers. It is essential that all of our children know each other and know that each person is of value and has the potential to learn.
That said, I think it is wrong to mandate that ALL children be fully included if that is not what best meets their learning needs. IDEA doesn't mandate full inclusion--- it simply requires least restrictive environment. That phrase in itself suggests that some students have needs which are more "restrictive" than others. As well, too many school systems practice the dumping form of inclusion to save money. They stick kids here and there, write an ineffective IEP, and don't invest in special educaiton professionals or qualified classified staff support. This harms the student with the disability who is robbed of an education, the teacher who is saddled with the responsibility but no training/support, and the rest of the students in the classroom. That doesn't work.
What is the challenge is to figure out how to get rid of "dumping" --- which is what most school districts do--- and move towards true, supported and effective inclusion. If inclusion was implemented properly, I believe it would be more suitable for more kids, and more parents and teachers would support and even advocate it.