LuvLuvLuv's Memories TR Starts Pg 73 - Honeymoon Day 6.1

[Deb loves Disney]

I agree with the above poster. You have to be sane and look out for yourself and your DF's happiness which includes finances. I had an escape wedding which is way less than a wishes and I still felt like we were spending too much money.

I also agree that just being at Disney for your wedding is magical and no matter how big or small your wedding is, they will make you feel like a princess that day.

Working at a job you hate for so long is not good either. I've been there and don't ever want to feel that way again. It can do some serious damage to your self esteem and happiness overall.

Here is a hug . I get the same way when pms'ing and chocolate does help.

It will all work out in the end. Just do what you know is right.

 

[Bewitch324]

I totally understand where you are coming from. Working all those hourse is very wearing and can bring you to despair for sure. Everything in life is about tradeoffs, right ? There is nothing wrong with choosing to put your health and emotional well being over the long haul ahead of the "dream" wedding--especially, if your dreams have changed, and something smaller and more intimate will be just as satisfying for you.

Not to mention you have the added stress of the whole baby thing--while I love all the plans you've described for the wishes wedding, I think you would enjoy something smaller, more intimate and easier just as much. When push comes to shove, it's you and Dave that are important, what you guys both want. And I suspect that he loves you and doesn't want you to keep working a job that is making you miserable just to pay for that one big day.

Whatever you guys decide, everyone here will continue to love reading about it, and offering whatever support we can. Hang in there!

Brooke

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

I definitely don't think you're giving up your dreams! Do whatever feels right--- and if just have you and your DF (and 4 family members) there feels right, then do that.

I think it's really easy to get caught up in all of this wedding stuff that we "need"--- when, really, all we NEED is a piece of paper saying that we're married! The rest of the stuff is just extra, right?

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Aw girl, take a deep breathe and just think everything over again at a later time. I know exactly how PMS can kinda alter your plans. ha. I've done it MULTIPLE times. Do whatever you feels best and works best for you. It's YOUR day, it's what YOU want. Even when it comes to the dress... I feel no matter where you are or how formal or unformal your wedding is the BRIDE should always wear WHATEVER she wants. I'm having a beach wedding and everyone's like oh well you should wear something like this.. and I was like well NO I'm wearing whatever I want. It's my day. I'm getting married ONCE. Therefor I'm wearing whatever gown I decide to wear.


I really hope everything works out for you luv. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Here's some pixie dust...

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

((second, shorter attempt--the first version poofed into the abyss))

First of all

I have to thank all of you ladies for your kind words. They have meant so much to me and put what's important in perspective for me. For those of you that have been there... it definately takes a toll on you, and I appreciate all of your understanding.

With that being said... he still has until midnight tonight to decide. I feel like if it was a yes... he would have just said it already, but since it's probably a no, he's putting off a possible fight till the end. I don't want to fight with him, but it truly is my money, and my energy working extra for this and I know in the back of my mind I will be upset. I may unintentionally say the wrong things when the answer traps me in a good paying job that I hate, but have to have to pay for the wedding. Lord give me the strength not to cry if I don't get my way.

I can't wait to update everyone tomorrow with the details!

My to-do list is getting longer by the minute for stuff to get done before I leave on March 18. I work every single day until then, with only 4 nights off to get everything accomplished. Hopefully works stay busy and it goes fast. We find out today if we won a $250 contest from last week for store credit. I could use another pair of sketcher's tone up flip flops for the parks. They are amazing!! Okay, I'm rambling now... Catch up with everyone in the morning!! Wish me luck!!

 

[tnkr mom]

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Oooookay. So last night was his deadline for the Memories decision. I figured the way to a man's heart is chicken wings... so I ordered some to-go and had them waiting when he got home from work.

From there, it's kind of hard to put in words what the answer was. He said if we did do this in November, it would be just us--and we wouldn't invite 4 people. He said this would hurt my stepmom and my aunt which it would tremendously. He said he wouldn't be able to choose between his grandfather or brother for his side to be along with his mother... so we would invite no one. Stress. He asked why I was going to the showcase if I all of a sudden wanted a plain, quick little deal. Well Sir, when I booked the trip for the showcase I was planning a fancy pants, bling bling, I'm going to sparkle like a disco ball wedding. Now that I have my stepmom going, she's more excited than a 3 year old little girl getting to meet Cinderella for the first time. I have to at least go thru the motions.

Be proud that I didn't cry. My emotions were so confused I wasn't sure how to react. I asked if he would be able to contribute and he said he just can't. His was expecting a raise in February and his company sent a notice that no raises would be given this year. So it's back to being all on me, and whatever I can scrape from here and there.

So last night I tossed and turned trying to come up with a solution. Being the problem solver I am, I knew I needed to wait until I had an excel spreadsheet in front of me. This spreadsheet has everything from spending money for the airport, to paying the dogsitter, to Mousekeeping tips, etc etc. I made one for Memories, Escape and Wishes.

Memories: 12,000
Escape: 30,000
Wishes: 42,000

Really the only difference between the Escape and Wishes was that I had budgeted for a 13 night stay for the Wishes wedding instead of an 8 day stay I switched to for the Escape. Also, the decor and linens for the Wishes reception moved the price up. Plus the planning session is budgeted in there--which we wouldn't need for Escape. For the Escape Reception... we would just grab an ADR at the Cali Grill so everyone could just order what they want.

The Escape pricing includes all the original blingy floral, Mickey and Minnie, 6 hours of Photography, MK Shoot (still on the fence, but wanted to budget), petal cannon, cake/floral upgrades... etc etc---I made it everything I wanted. It's still a giant chunk of cash if I have to come up with it on my own AND move the date up.

I was looking at May 7, 2012. It's a Monday--it's exactly half way between both of our birthdays. Mine is May 1 and his is May 13. Thought that was kind of neat. Plus it'll be warm. But, oh yeah--- where are you getting 30 grand??

I haven't completely given up on the Memories collection. I'm going to check out the showcase, lay it all out for my stepmom and see what her opinions are. If she wouldn't mind us "eloping" then it may just be the best for everyone. For all I know, the family may not really want to travel, but doesn't want to hurt my feelings. So I'm going to lay it all out there and see what happens.

Honestly, seeing that I could have almost everything I want for 12,000 less is very attractive to me. It's an option as well. I could also have my cake cutting on Commander's Terrace which I love... and I could have Mickey and Minnie there That is one part I wished I could have with Wishes, but couldn't.

So we're back to square one. Still don't know what we're doing... but for sure knowing that it will be at Disney. That's the one part we know is set in stone. I'm going to attempt to keep my mind off of it until the showcase and until I talk it thru with my stepmom and maybe my aunt. I have packing to do, hair to color and cut, nails to be done, cleaning, work... I won't have trouble staying busy. So for now, stay tuned to see what whirlwind I end up in next.

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

Hmmm. I think I'm on the fence about his answer, just like you are!!!

Really, just do whatever will give YOU the least amount of stress. $30-42,000 is SO much money for you to come up with this year! (Really, even the $12,000 number is making me a little faint for you.) I know it shouldn't be all about the money, but, really, money is a bit stressful. (Understatement of the year, right?)

If you can have EVERYTHING you want for $12,000, then that's what I would do. I know you'd be hurting your stepmom, but why not plan a trip with her at some point? (Just an idea. Or did you do that already? I forget!)

Anyway, good luck! <3

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Oooookay. So last night was his deadline for the Memories decision. I figured the way to a man's heart is chicken wings... so I ordered some to-go and had them waiting when he got home from work.

From there, it's kind of hard to put in words what the answer was. He said if we did do this in November, it would be just us--and we wouldn't invite 4 people. He said this would hurt my stepmom and my aunt which it would tremendously. He said he wouldn't be able to choose between his grandfather or brother for his side to be along with his mother... so we would invite no one. Stress. He asked why I was going to the showcase if I all of a sudden wanted a plain, quick little deal. Well Sir, when I booked the trip for the showcase I was planning a fancy pants, bling bling, I'm going to sparkle like a disco ball wedding. Now that I have my stepmom going, she's more excited than a 3 year old little girl getting to meet Cinderella for the first time. I have to at least go thru the motions.

Be proud that I didn't cry. My emotions were so confused I wasn't sure how to react. I asked if he would be able to contribute and he said he just can't. His was expecting a raise in February and his company sent a notice that no raises would be given this year. So it's back to being all on me, and whatever I can scrape from here and there.

So last night I tossed and turned trying to come up with a solution. Being the problem solver I am, I knew I needed to wait until I had an excel spreadsheet in front of me. This spreadsheet has everything from spending money for the airport, to paying the dogsitter, to Mousekeeping tips, etc etc. I made one for Memories, Escape and Wishes.

Memories: 12,000
Escape: 30,000
Wishes: 42,000

Really the only difference between the Escape and Wishes was that I had budgeted for a 13 night stay for the Wishes wedding instead of an 8 day stay I switched to for the Escape. Also, the decor and linens for the Wishes reception moved the price up. Plus the planning session is budgeted in there--which we wouldn't need for Escape. For the Escape Reception... we would just grab an ADR at the Cali Grill so everyone could just order what they want.

The Escape pricing includes all the original blingy floral, Mickey and Minnie, 6 hours of Photography, MK Shoot (still on the fence, but wanted to budget), petal cannon, cake/floral upgrades... etc etc---I made it everything I wanted. It's still a giant chunk of cash if I have to come up with it on my own AND move the date up.

I was looking at May 7, 2012. It's a Monday--it's exactly half way between both of our birthdays. Mine is May 1 and his is May 13. Thought that was kind of neat. Plus it'll be warm. But, oh yeah--- where are you getting 30 grand??

I haven't completely given up on the Memories collection. I'm going to check out the showcase, lay it all out for my stepmom and see what her opinions are. If she wouldn't mind us "eloping" then it may just be the best for everyone. For all I know, the family may not really want to travel, but doesn't want to hurt my feelings. So I'm going to lay it all out there and see what happens.

Honestly, seeing that I could have almost everything I want for 12,000 less is very attractive to me. It's an option as well. I could also have my cake cutting on Commander's Terrace which I love... and I could have Mickey and Minnie there That is one part I wished I could have with Wishes, but couldn't.

So we're back to square one. Still don't know what we're doing... but for sure knowing that it will be at Disney. That's the one part we know is set in stone. I'm going to attempt to keep my mind off of it until the showcase and until I talk it thru with my stepmom and maybe my aunt. I have packing to do, hair to color and cut, nails to be done, cleaning, work... I won't have trouble staying busy. So for now, stay tuned to see what whirlwind I end up in next.

Wow girl. I can see why you're stressed heh. But I will say, with the Memories package it's unsure as to whether or not it will be available in 2012? So you'd have to do it sometime this year, meaning crunch time to get that money. DF & I were gunna do Memories in Oct 2012 after our actual wedding, but they're unsure if it will be available..

So, with Escape you can get ALMOST everything that you wanted. Especially the Mickey & Minnie part! heh. I understand how money is tough, trust me. But if I were you, I'd probably go with the Escape package in May which would just be BEAUTIFUL! You really gotta think everything out. But I honestly think that Escape would be the best bet and would make you and the DF happy.. hope I helped at least a little bit??

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Hmmm. I think I'm on the fence about his answer, just like you are!!!

If you can have EVERYTHING you want for $12,000, then that's what I would do. I know you'd be hurting your stepmom, but why not plan a trip with her at some point? (Just an idea. Or did you do that already? I forget!)

Anyway, good luck! <3

Lol, me and my stepmom leave for Disney in 2 1/2 weeks We're going for the showcase, but I know she wants to be involved in the wedding. She's been really lonely since my father passed and I know she feels like she's part of this--I would hate to just tell her to stay home and I'll send ya pictures. We shall see how this all works out. Maybe I'll hit the powerball?? Thanks for your help!

Wow girl. I can see why you're stressed heh. But I will say, with the Memories package it's unsure as to whether or not it will be available in 2012? So you'd have to do it sometime this year, meaning crunch time to get that money. DF & I were gunna do Memories in Oct 2012 after our actual wedding, but they're unsure if it will be available..

So, with Escape you can get ALMOST everything that you wanted. Especially the Mickey & Minnie part! heh. I understand how money is tough, trust me. But if I were you, I'd probably go with the Escape package in May which would just be BEAUTIFUL! You really gotta think everything out. But I honestly think that Escape would be the best bet and would make you and the DF happy.. hope I helped at least a little bit??

You always help
I keep thinking the same. I keep looking at the numbers thinking how much more possible it is. Now tonight when I go home and my ice machine is growling and I go to unload the dishwasher full of still dirty dishes... my priorities will change I keep thinking if we put our taxes together for next year I can have clean dishes without doing them by hand But seriously, I worry if I'll regret just doing the memories collection and feel like I can at least meet my dreams in the middle. With everything I have on the spreadsheet, I actually meet the Wishes minimum... but then I can't have Commander's Terrace, and I'll need a F/B minimum---screw all that--I'll spend my money and eat my cake where I want to I always value you're opinions!! You're so helpful!!

 

[Deb loves Disney]

I loved the Commander's Terrace during our Escape Wedding. The view of the water is just so beautiful and it is actually a pretty big area. There was plenty of room for us to do our first dance, we had a violinist playing our song choice (he also entertained our guests before we showed up) we had the cake cutting and toast. It felt really special! Then we still had a short lunch reception at the Napa Room and kept it under $10,000. It is so doable! I don't think you should omit your family though. It really is special for them as well and will be such a great memory for everybody.

Whatever you do just make sure you are happy!!! That is all that matters really.

 

[lilsqueakrr]

You always help
I keep thinking the same. I keep looking at the numbers thinking how much more possible it is. Now tonight when I go home and my ice machine is growling and I go to unload the dishwasher full of still dirty dishes... my priorities will change I keep thinking if we put our taxes together for next year I can have clean dishes without doing them by hand But seriously, I worry if I'll regret just doing the memories collection and feel like I can at least meet my dreams in the middle. With everything I have on the spreadsheet, I actually meet the Wishes minimum... but then I can't have Commander's Terrace, and I'll need a F/B minimum---screw all that--I'll spend my money and eat my cake where I want to I always value you're opinions!! You're so helpful!!

Well I'm glad I can help then! I try!

If I were you I would definitely go for the Escapes or whatever makes you happiest! I'd make sure I'd have the Disney wedding with Mickey and Minnie! Haha, but that's just me. The Escape seems like the best way to do it all and not spend a ridiculous amount of money while doing so. heh.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you and can't wait to see what you pick!

 

[princesswendy720]

Weddings are definitely very expensive, but I do think it is important to have family there to share the day with you. It seems like you can get everything you want with an Escape wedding - the WP, Commander's Terrace, and even a short reception in the Napa Room if you want. Plus, you have a year to go back and do the castle shoot if you decide you want to later.

Would moving the wedding up cause you more or less money stress? I know you'd be able to leave your other job sooner, but would you feel super pressured to get that money together sooner?

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Weddings are definitely very expensive, but I do think it is important to have family there to share the day with you. It seems like you can get everything you want with an Escape wedding - the WP, Commander's Terrace, and even a short reception in the Napa Room if you want. Plus, you have a year to go back and do the castle shoot if you decide you want to later.

Would moving the wedding up cause you more or less money stress? I know you'd be able to leave your other job sooner, but would you feel super pressured to get that money together sooner?

Yeah, moving things up would be stressful, it would be a mad dash to get all the funding together. You're right. I think I was in the wrong hormonal state of mind last week

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So. Of course I said I wasn't going to think about any of this until after the showcase... but I'm failing at that attempt. I have a few new ideas, a few new realizations, and I'm feeling a little better-which makes my thoughts way more rational. With the Escape budget I have, I'm still over the Wishes minimum, and I hate to lose that status. I REALLY REALLY want the Commander's Terrace, so if they tell me I can't have that as a Wishes bride.... then I'll have to drop down. I was reading around other Escape threads and found were a few had extended their time at CT and had a few appetizers there as well. I fell in love with this idea. Some had a little dance while Mickey and Minnie were there with the violinist playing. I wasn't planning on dancing.... but how FUN would that be?? I've also been considering Citricos along with the California Grill. I think depending on how times fell, would make my decision for me. If the times fell where we could see Wishes at dinner--it would be California Grill. If we ate early.... it would be Citricos. Or I'll change my mind again next week. This is the problem with planning way in advance.

As far as the date goes... I guess we'll keep it. The past week has been really busy with our event at work and a rather successful one I might add. Those are the weeks that I don't mind what I do. I also talked with a few of my good clients who could see that I've been stressed lately. One of them told me I have a gift, and not to let a store ruin doing something I clearly have a passion for. This hit me pretty hard. I will continue to try to make the best of it there for now.

We normally go every May and every November. In the interest of saving the budget, I was going to cancel both...but then that means no Disney for a year and a half--that won't do. So I asked which he preferred.... Osborne Lights or Typhoon Lagoon He can't decide. ((I vote Osborne Lights)), but we'll see if we stay Wishes, we'll have to go in May for the planning session. This also impacts if I need to get him an AP in May or not.

So I leave 2 weeks from tomorrow! I can't believe it's here already!! I'm going to put all my ideas down on paper, take lots of pictures, bring some inspiration pictures, and hopefully get some of my questions answered. Maybe my stepmom will have an idea I haven't thought of?? I am getting the 2 week jitters. Do I have everything I need? Am I covered at work? I'm so excited! Do I need to do anything in the house before I leave?? Will he have food to eat and clean clothes?? ((lord knows i'll come back to a garbage can full of mcdonalds and burger king bags)) My stepmom has been sending me a countdown every morning. It's cute. I've been thinking a lot and I don't think she realizes what she's in for the first time she goes without my father. I had a really rough time doing some of the things we used to do as a family. I almost broke to pieces during the Electrical Parade, I had to get out of the Honey I Shrunk the Kids playground immediately, walking past the bench where I took my favorite picture of them together, and I had to go to Italy to get his favorite candy. These are things I don't think she's ready for. I know she has even more memories than me, because for so many trips I was too young to remember most of what we did. I'm glad we're taking this pre-wedding trip, so this doesn't happen the week of the wedding.

I always add a funny story: My friend/co-worker in my building (i think i've told you about her) who never listens to what I say, called me this morning. She said, "You leave soon right? What day?" I told her Friday the 18th. She said, "Well when do you want me to be there to watch Baxter?" I replied... "May 6th" She never retains a word of what I say to her. NEVER. It's so annoying I can't even put into words how annoying it is. I told her a million times, several times per week since December that I was meeting my stepmom down there in March. She proceded to ask if I wanted to have lunch today. This was 3 minutes after I told her I was an hour and a half late today since I forgot to set my alarm last night (whoopsie!) and that I had to stay in to make up the time. 3 minutes and she couldn't retain that?


Okay... well thanks for reading along to my tornado of weddingness, lol!

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Girlie, I'm so right along with you about this whole wedding chaos.. ha. I'm about to say screw it to having my at home wedding and paying for my own Disney wedding and I don't care who even comes, cause I'm just over it? ha. =]

But I hope that the trip helps you figure everything out and give you the answers that you need! I'm kinda jealous. I wanted to go down. But nobody wanted to go with me. Plus it would be just a tease.. since Disney is what I really want.. Fingers crossed! =]

 

[Princess SarahK]

Hi!! Sorry Ive been so MIA lately. Im so sorry to hear about all of your troubles. Seems like youve sort of figured most of it out to what feels right and best for you and Dave. Keep your chin up, and hopefully things will follow your lead!

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Happy Monday Everyone!

Today I'm feeling discouraged. I'm realizing I'm running out of time to get ready for our little trip. I've been throwing a few things here and there into my suitcase, but I'm nowhere near ready to go. Even though we're all paid and everything.... I've almost decided today to not even go to the showcase. I'm thinking of trashing the day and hitting the pool and the parks. I think that officially makes me the worst DisBride ever. I'm over it.

I hate to say this (it's kind of making me tear up).... but I'm not real sure I'll be writing anymore. Sure I'll follow everyone else, but I just don't think I'm cut out for the whole fancy bride thing. I don't want to be married anywhere but at Disney--and we will try our best to make it happen. All I ever have to update is how things aren't progressing. I'm not a DIY type girl, I'd rather buy new than make something myself or fix something that's broken or dirty. I won't have projects like other brides, I will probably purchase everything thru Disney to make my life easy. My family makes fun of me when I try to do something creative like a newsletter or a party program.... and I don't mean a cute make fun of... like they really think I'm stupid. So I won't be doing any of that, just to get made fun of on my wedding week. We'll all communicate thru text and no one will be where they're supposed to be--and we'll all fight. I'll cry. It's just how it goes.

As a visual... I'm sobbing at my desk, tears are dripping down my navy pinstriped pant suit as I'm realizing I suck as a bride. The only thing saving this situation is Diorshow Waterproof Mascara right now. I should be more excited than this, but when you don't have friends or family that are excited with you... it's really hard... and really all I have are you guys to listen to my plans. My stepmom was married at the JOP and I never saw 2 people more in love than her and my father. Her idea of a party is at an American Legion with plastic tablecloths and fold around bells while YMCA is playing in the background. I appreciate that she's the only one almost/kinda interested... but she has no idea. This is Dave's second wedding, so I almost excuse his lack of interest and his only requests are that we either do it at Disney or at the JOP. My friends still ask if Mickey and Minnie are the MOH/BM, if we're staying in the castle, and that they think Disney is only for children. Some members of my family suggested somewhere more tropical so they could drink on the beach and fish. I don't drink, I'm not a huge fan of sand, and I don't fish. My aunt recently said she's not getting on a plane. His mom said she might not be able to come because of her cats. Of course this is now, while they're all telling me it's too early to even think about solid plans. Then once we get closer they'll give me another story. I'm seriously done with people. I wish me, Dave and my little Baxter could just live in our own little world sometimes.

Maybe after it's all over I'll do a trip report. Maybe after things get rolling, I'll have a change of heart. All I want is to marry the person I love, progress on with my life, and above all--be happy. I appreciate everyone who has followed along and supported me. You've honestly been my only signs of support. If I do end up going to the showcase, I'll probably come back and dish about it. Who knows, it may give me a change or heart. It could also make me feel like I'm not good enough, or deserving to be in the presence of people who are all "bridal" or that may come from better off situations than myself. I'm nervous of the latter.

We'll see how it goes......

 

[Mindyjoy]

Whoa girl, whoa. I'm not sure what made you feel so down but whatever it is, it will get better. Here's a hug from me to you.

Have you read my PJ? I'm the anti-bride. I have zero creativity. My family hates pretty much everything I have planned for my wedding. It has not been easy.

These kinds of things happen to every bride. There are ups and downs. It sounds like you are really having a bad day and I'm not sure what to say to make you feel better. Sometimes, we just need someone, even if it's a stranger, to reach out and say "everything will be alright."

Please don't stop posting. I have enjoyed reading your journal. And journals are for posting the good and the bad. Everyone has a "vent" post as part of their journals.

As far as the showcase, how FORMAL do they expect you to be? I was supposed to wear FORMAL when I went to club 33 and I wore nice jeans and a sweater. They let me in because guess what?? As long as you pay and look nice they will probably let you in. I don't know anything about this showcase but I bet that as long as you look nice, they will let you in.

And as far as family making fun of your DIY, that's just rude. Don't listen to them and don't let them ruin your day. Do what you want to do for your wedding, as the only people you have to please are you and DF.

 

[princesswendy720]

Please don't stop posting! I love coming on here and seeing where you are in your planning and seeing your vision take shape. There's nothing wrong with not being the DIY type. I constantly feel overwhelmed with getting all these fabulous little details put together (I need to stop reading Style Me Pretty). And it's just not going to happen. I don't do this for a living. There's nothing wrong with not being the type of bride that the wedding industry/blogging community seems to think is the ideal. And no one is going to critique you on here for not having a fabulous DIY post or even just posting sporadically when you do have something to say. We are your sounding board. So when you think your family doesn't care about the details -we always do!

And as far as the bridal showcase - all I have to say is - it's Disney. People wear Mickey t-shirts and flip flops to fine dining locations. I don't think anyone will scoff if you wear jeans. It's not a job interview or anything - you have no one to try to impress there!

I'm hoping when you get back you'll choose to post about your observations and experience (I know you'll be honest if it was worth it or a total waste of time).

 

[DisneyShamrock]

I agree: you should keep posting. I have really enjoyed reading your PJ thus far, and I was looking forward to seeing everything come together.

I third the opinion about the showcase. Be comfy and look nice, and you should be just fine. I think it might be the thing to get you re-excited about getting married. Plus, your step-mom will be there, and she's excited, too.

As far as the family making fun of you, they might just be jealous that your wedding will be more fun than there's were/will be. A wedding id about you and your fiance making a life-long commitment to each other. If no one wants to be there, or be on time, forget about them. The most important thing is that you get married to the man you love.

Life goes up, and life goes down, but it all levels out eventually. You always have us DISbrides, and we don't judge you if you can't DIY. I would bet that most of us get lucky that a project works. There is absolutely nothing wrong with not being creative and using Disney to make you wedding easier. No one would argue with you for convenience.