Wow, you really do have a lot of things on your plate!!! Try to stay positive! And try to enjoy these next 6 weeks!!!
As far as your question about the marriage license, it didn't take very long for ours to come in. Just a couple weeks after we sent everything in.
Good
I don't like waiting
When I have it back in my hands, I'll be so much less stressed!
Oh, Deena!
So sorry that you are having even more stress than usual. That stinks. Hope that it calms down soon.
On the bright side, 6 weeks from today you will be married!!! Just wish it was early enough in the day for me to stalk it before my cruise.
Hope everything is smooth sailing from here on out.
OOOhhh you're getting ready for your trip too!! Exciting!! I think it'll get worse before it gets better, lol---but it'll all be great!! Where are you eating the 9th?? We'll be at Narcoossee's--then hanging at the resort!!
I just wanted to give you some piece of mind over the press on nails... I had them for our e-pics to save some money and in the pictures they looked great! I had the same feelings as you, they didn't look so thick. Just be sure to put an extra for each finger in your clutch and your nail glue!
I bought 3 boxes
That should do it! Thanks for the peace of mind!
Wow! You cut a lot out. Here are my thoughts:
*Good plan for dropping YC for just one night. (I mean, it's just one night, right?!) If you need to cut a bit more too, you could always get a OKW Studio--- their studios are HUGE, and it's just one night anyway.
*I think the nails sound good too. I really don't think the packaged fake nails look bad at ALL, and they're just for pictures anyway!
*I REALLY think cancelling the cake was a fabulous idea. It sucks that you don't get to have wedding cake, but the cake lady just didn't know what she was doing. And Carrie says the slipper dessert is gross!
*Don't worry about losing weight! You will be a beautiful bride no matter what.
*And... OMG I HOPE YOUR DRESS COMES SOOOOONNNN
Thanks! The dress thing is creeping me out. I want it now.
I also want to see the OKW rooms because I've been watching re-sale and would like to buy in and theirs are cheap!
Just keep swimming Deena sweetie!!! You are doing an amazing job on keeping this wedding on track and it is going to be beautiful!!!
I just keep saying that!! Just keep swimming!! It's only for 5 more weeks!! Trust me--when I get to WDW... my good friend Rosa Regale and I are going to catch up!!
Keep on, you will be married before you know it! And in Disney!
And those are some good budget cuts, every little bit helps! Fingers crossed that your dress comes earlier than they say!
Funny how just $30 here and $50 there help a lot!!
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Weekend Madness.
Rewind to when this party was forming. I said that I couldn't put any money out for it and I didn't have time to do anything for it.
Well I'm $250 in--and lots of man-hours too. I had to get everything and she said she's paying me back. Well she doesn't pay back in the method you got it in--cash. She pays back in AMEX gift cards which don't pay your car payment, or your car insurance or the debt consolidation payment. Very aggrevating--and I'm wondering if/when I'll see any of it back. I made the list of food to order and told DF to give it to her tonight. He said--well your ordering it. I was like--um they're gonna want a card number. He said to pay and she'll pay us back
NO. Wanna know how bad this week sucks--because our families suck so freaking bad-- on Friday I will have 1517.86 (providing I don't spend one cent until then--and I know I'll need gas) and my Disney Payment due this week is 1506.97. No help--all me. I can't just pay for this stuff, I just can't. I don't want to call and order--why can't she? She wanted this. I spent hours yesterday stuffing favors, tying ribbon--ran out of ribbon--had to go get more, etc. Then there were the stuffing of announcements, etc. On Saturday I had DF pinky swear (lame, but I was for real) that if he did nothing else on Sunday---to PLEASE shampoo the carpets. He promise up and down. Nope. It was couch, pizza, football and arguing. His one task of music isn't even started. I was up at 8:30am yesterday and I did 5 loads of laundry, cleaned the kitchen, organized the supplies, got suitcases out, went to the grocery--etc etc. He did--nothing. Why is it that I am working all these hours, making every single payment by myself, doing every bit of housework, every bit of wedding work---and he can't do anything
Is it bad that I had a mental thought of asking myself if I was going to have to live like this for the rest of my life? I'm so frustrated at this point. I didn't want to stop working on the house and stuff--but at 7pm after my major meltdown--I went in the spare room with Chelsea Chelsea Bang Bang and read the entire thing for the rest of the night. I never read. For me to read--means that I'm having a crisis. Last book I read was when I had my tonsils out. I don't know if it's something about only children, lol---but we have conversations with ourselves
I was trying to reason with myself about the lack of effort he puts into anything and trying to come to peace with it. He has done the dishes one time since 2008--it was 3 months into him being out of work in the summer of 2010--which at 3 months in, he did zero--none-zilch housework although I was working both jobs/taking care of the house/and the grocery bill doubled because he was home and he was on the couch playing video games and watching tv. He did them once after I said I was leaving because they were his dishes and he was a lazy piece. I talked it over with a friend of mine--who also agreed to watch Baxter while we're gone--and she said that she thinks it's natural to have last minute thoughts before you make the plunge--and it's showing a sign of maturity to think such a big life change through. I'm probably just over stressed--and he's just being a guy. I should stay off the internet and quit reading about guys that help and support, lol.
This week I'm sure I'll hear more from FMIL than I'll ever want to. I can't wait for Sunday to be over. The stress is making me sick--which in a way makes me happy because I lost 4 lbs just this weekend
16 to go.
We still have a long way to go finanically and just looking at the spreadsheet puts me in tears. Besides the $20 that his mom put on the registry from the cats.... NOT ONE PERSON has used the registry. I have a feeling that we'll be getting a bunch of nonsense this weekend and nothing that we need. I keep getting, "is there anything else you want other than Disney?" Um, hello. If we only have one registry and that's what's published---don't you effing think that's what we want/need? My nerves are wearing thin because people could care less what we want or need. If I get a toaster I'm going to punt it. Yes, like a football.
As far as the promised $$ goes from family. There is nothing. I was told that we would get some after the wedding, that it just wasn't possible right now. Oh ok. Because we need it after the wedding? Sure it would pay for DL--but I already had that under control and didn't need help for that--I need help for this like I was promised. There is more behind it that infuriates me--but this isn't the place. If I wasn't so far invested--I would just cancel at this point. I know that's a terrible thing to say--but the stress that is on me is unbelievable and I'm ready to throw my hands up in the air and surrender. I've wanted to be married since I was 18 years old, and 10 years later--I'm finding out what a real nightmare it is. I hate to be this negative about something that should be so happy--but not all wedding planning and relationships are happy go lucky--and I'm here to document it.
What I am happy about--is that I am doing a Memories Wedding. I can't even imagine what would have happened if I was doing Wishes. With this--I can at least--almost pay for it. I would have be screwed so bad if I had a Wishes payment and they did this to me. Everything happens for a reason right? Parts of me wish I was doing Escape so I could have a cake and characters--but this is fine.
I'm also happy that my favorite meal is in the cafeteria today. Potato Crunch Tilapia. My luck they'll be out by the time I get up there. Sorry that I unleashed, but I kind of feel better getting my thoughts out. I know I can't be the only person in the world that's felt this way. It's Monday so it has to get better.
Have a great week everyone!
If it makes you feel better, I am too. And certain family members are driving me equally crazy as yours. I'm not saying this to whine on your board; I just want you to know that you're not the only one. And while it sucks super bad while we're going through it, many others in the past have done the same thing, and they made it through, usually quite happy in the end. When you ask people about their Weddings & planning after the fact, they generally forget all the bad and only remember the good. 
So think- in 38 days all the planning, stress, and general crap will be over. And only the good stuff will be left. 
and I am starting to get a handle on everything!! It's not just the wedding, and the party... my review just ended at my part time--I get the results Wednesday and I've been on eggshells for a month, and we're getting ready for a HUGE conference here at my other job in 2 weeks. Then there's my house, my dog, my laundry 
Either way, we need to schedule something while we're both there! 
