LuvLuvLuv's Memories TR Starts Pg 73 - Honeymoon Day 6.1

[pinkmiss3]

I really like the last two dresses. I hope everything works out how you want it to. This is your special day so you should do whatever makes you happy.

 

[princess_ariel_85]

I love that last dress.... it's very beautiful.

There's always one person to rock the boat, so I agree with lilsqueakrr. Give her the wrong info lol It's your wedding it should be how you want it - as others have said a lot can happen in a year, so take a deep breath and relax.

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

DEENA! NO!!!! You will NOT let your stepmom push you around again! You need to lay down the LAW!!!! I command it!!!

 

[Jilian]

I like the second dress and the last dress.

I'm in FL and siesta key is the best beach ever, it just got voted top beach in the US http://travel.yahoo.com/p-interests-40179998 I live about 40 mins from it and have been quite a few times. I'm pretty positive you can get a wedding package there and there is a lot to do in the area (really touristy). Orrr there is Anna Maria Island. My sister got married there 2 years ago, it was really nice and we rented a fabulous beach house to stay in.

That really sucks about your stepmom. I think you need to set some boundaries. Seriously change the date and make it clear that no one is invited. If she says she is still going end the conversation. DO NOT look up room rates for her, you are enabling her to control you. I'd just come out and say that no one is invited and you cannot wait to see her at the home reception. Be firm!

 

[KristiLyn]

My sister had a beach wedding in Destin and it was gorgeous
We actually just took a little weekend trip there last weekend and the beach was still gorgeous.
As far as your stepmom, ugh. I'd have to agree, give her the wrong date That's what I would do....

 

[librarygeek]

Soooo I basically just read all of your PJ in the last few days. I was really, really glad you decided to go with a private wedding, just the two of you - it's clear that everyone else would probably ruin your day!! So don't back down now! I'm kind of with Jen on this one - change your date and don't tell her! But seriously, good luck with everything. I'm sorry to read about all the issues you've been having, both relating to the wedding and not.

 

[Pinkgirl]

Shhhheeeessshhhh - send your Stepmum a copy of Cinderella and tell her to go find her own glass slipper

 

[tnkr mom]

Geez Lousie now I am all caught up on your PJ...no I haven't dropped off the earth just not on the DISboards lately and trying to plan a camping trip for scouts & their families for 99 people this weekend and no one else is stepping up to help...even after emails saying I sliced my finger and have stiches I need some help shopping for food & setting up
...crickets...still no one! Anyhow thats my problem of the week.

I LOVE the last dress - have you thought if you would regret not wearing white on your wedding day? After all this mess I truely want you to be so happy and put this family induced stress crap behind you! Don't let 'em suck your joy!

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

OMG, seriously!? I'd change the date and literally give her all of the wrong information. =] Talk about totally not giving a POOP about what YOU AND DAVE want. Ridiculous. I have anxiety for you. Talk to your aunt. Tell her your situation and what YOU guys want. And maybe she'll be on your side and convince crazy step mommy to get a life. ;D That's just crazy.

And I'm dead serious about giving the wrong information. ;D I'd do that for my own family if they were going against my wishes.

Oh my gosh, your step mom sounds like a nightmare to deal with!! On the other hand, it sounds like she forgets everything you tell her five minutes later, so I would just ignore her for right now, don't provide the information she wants you to research for her (if she wants to go that bad, let her exert some freaking effort!!!) and stick to your guns. It sounds like she doesn't listen, but you've got 16 months to get it through her thick skull!! Maddening, but don't let it bring you down!

A lot can happen in a year. Maybe over time, she'll decide she doesn't really want to be there, or that she'll be satisfied with the after party. From what you've described previously, she sounds like someone who changes her mind and gets sidetracked and forgetful anyway....I would just leave her out of the equation for a while and go forward with your planning the way you want and say in 4 -5 months, maybe revisit the topic again. Or not. I just wouldn't share about the wedding. Just don't discuss it with her, it doesn't involve her, it's not about her, it's about you and Dave.

Easier said than done, but you got buy-in from the other two, I don't want to see you backslide on your dream when she has proven herself fickle in the past....

Hang in there, and stay focused on what you want and what is important to you and Dave. Just ignore her craziness for awhile. Maybe the wind will blow and she'll decide your idea is the better one...

Brooke

I really like the last two dresses. I hope everything works out how you want it to. This is your special day so you should do whatever makes you happy.

I love that last dress.... it's very beautiful.

There's always one person to rock the boat, so I agree with lilsqueakrr. Give her the wrong info lol It's your wedding it should be how you want it - as others have said a lot can happen in a year, so take a deep breath and relax.

DEENA! NO!!!! You will NOT let your stepmom push you around again! You need to lay down the LAW!!!! I command it!!!

I like the second dress and the last dress.

I'm in FL and siesta key is the best beach ever, it just got voted top beach in the US http://travel.yahoo.com/p-interests-40179998 I live about 40 mins from it and have been quite a few times. I'm pretty positive you can get a wedding package there and there is a lot to do in the area (really touristy). Orrr there is Anna Maria Island. My sister got married there 2 years ago, it was really nice and we rented a fabulous beach house to stay in.

That really sucks about your stepmom. I think you need to set some boundaries. Seriously change the date and make it clear that no one is invited. If she says she is still going end the conversation. DO NOT look up room rates for her, you are enabling her to control you. I'd just come out and say that no one is invited and you cannot wait to see her at the home reception. Be firm!

My sister had a beach wedding in Destin and it was gorgeous
We actually just took a little weekend trip there last weekend and the beach was still gorgeous.
As far as your stepmom, ugh. I'd have to agree, give her the wrong date That's what I would do....

Soooo I basically just read all of your PJ in the last few days. I was really, really glad you decided to go with a private wedding, just the two of you - it's clear that everyone else would probably ruin your day!! So don't back down now! I'm kind of with Jen on this one - change your date and don't tell her! But seriously, good luck with everything. I'm sorry to read about all the issues you've been having, both relating to the wedding and not.

Shhhheeeessshhhh - send your Stepmum a copy of Cinderella and tell her to go find her own glass slipper

Geez Lousie now I am all caught up on your PJ...no I haven't dropped off the earth just not on the DISboards lately and trying to plan a camping trip for scouts & their families for 99 people this weekend and no one else is stepping up to help...even after emails saying I sliced my finger and have stiches I need some help shopping for food & setting up
...crickets...still no one! Anyhow thats my problem of the week.

I LOVE the last dress - have you thought if you would regret not wearing white on your wedding day? After all this mess I truely want you to be so happy and put this family induced stress crap behind you! Don't let 'em suck your joy!

I'm in one of those blah moods today, but I feel like you lovelies need to be addressed, lol--especially since I've been all over everyone else's PJs today. Thank you EVERYONE for your kind words and concern. I'm going to address this all together since everyone has the same opinion ((oh and thank you to everyone who helped with Florida beaches... I passed them on to my friend and she's grateful!!))

This weekend was madness between our works, softball, parties and attempts to catch up on sleep. We did manage to eat a few meals together in between being busy and we talked about "the issue." He's not really happy about it, and I understand why. Barely 24 hours beforehand we threw his mom out of the wedding, a week before that, I threw out my aunt... they are the 2 difficult ones and we got their blessings?? It's all crazy. Sure, I think this is very disrespectful that we can't do what we want, but I feel helpless. If I could choose one person in the entire world to be there, it would be my aunt. She didn't want to travel in the family mob that was coming down and have to do everything they were doing--and knowing her age--I totally felt for her on that subject. If it were only her and my stepmom, I feel like she might have a better time--and might actually want to come. I think that's the only reason I haven't thrown a complete fit. I'm not sure she'll want to come or not, but I plan on calling her on her off day tomorrow. Maybe if my aunt talks to her she will let her know she's being unreasonable? Maybe as time passes, she'll get so involved in the shin-dig up there that she won't want to spend the money? We still have quite a bit of time for her to give up. I'm just going to continue planning for the 2 of us, and if we need to add them in to anything, we'll figure it out later--but I refuse to plan for it. I did provide her with figures for the Boardwalk and the Boardwalk Villas. If my aunt is traveling with her, then I want her to be comfortable and like where she is. If they don't like those figures, they can do it themselves. Plus (always thinking) since they're a little high, I was hoping they were undesirable

Oh well. I'm really sleepy and can't grab thoughts together today so forgive me if my writing seems a little off. It took me 3 hours to compose and respond to my coordinator about stuff we want and different ideas, etc. I just can't get the words out today. I have a feeling I'll be leaving my other job early tonight and will go home to pass out. Hopefully it's just the lag of a long weekend mixed with allergies.

As far as the dress thing goes... I'm just going to get whatever I want... whatever that might be. I'm going to start shopping more and we'll just have to see from there.

I hope everyone had a great weekend!! Bye for now!!

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Aw girlie. I totally feel you on your mood for today! I'm dragging and all over the place as well! I need to do a major update on my PJ but I'm just not with it enough? ha. ;D

Hopefully your stepmom will object to those prices! heh. Fingers crossed and pixie dust!

Plus, dress shopping's always fun.. wish I could help! Plus it's YOUR dresss.. get what YOU want regardless. =]

 

[pixiegirl]

I just read your entire PJ in the last couple of days and have to say that you crack me up!! I was literally laughing out loud about the flip flop with your step-mom. I woke the dogs up and they were barking like crazy and DF was staring at me like I was nuts.

I really am sorry that you are going through all of this drama to have your special day. I totally agree with what you are doing planning on your step mom not coming and then make changes if necessary later. Keep your head up!!!

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Aw girlie. I totally feel you on your mood for today! I'm dragging and all over the place as well! I need to do a major update on my PJ but I'm just not with it enough? ha. ;D

Hopefully your stepmom will object to those prices! heh. Fingers crossed and pixie dust!

Plus, dress shopping's always fun.. wish I could help! Plus it's YOUR dresss.. get what YOU want regardless. =]

I'm still not with it today Maybe by next week I'll be awake, lol!! You should update so I can read it

I just read your entire PJ in the last couple of days and have to say that you crack me up!! I was literally laughing out loud about the flip flop with your step-mom. I woke the dogs up and they were barking like crazy and DF was staring at me like I was nuts.

I really am sorry that you are going through all of this drama to have your special day. I totally agree with what you are doing planning on your step mom not coming and then make changes if necessary later. Keep your head up!!!

Welcome Thanks for understanding and following along. I just giggled myself thinking about the flip flop scene. That will go down in history for sure!! We'll just have to wait and see what happens next!!

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Well we went to dinner with FMIL again last night. We talked about the guest list, etc--but dinner was more focused on other things going on with the family that didn't involve us--thank goodness. Today I feel blah again, and I think I'm not sleeping well with my allergies so I'm just sleepy. I need to pick up some Zyrtec or something.

Today at work I scoured the internet for caterers, and reception locations. I need to take a trip down to my clubhouse, but I think it's just too little--but it's free... but I'd also have to clean it

Here's the 2 places I've narrowed it to. I need to call for more info, but both seem nice. I think I like one more than the other... but I want to see what you gals think

http://kycater.com/Banquethalls/thegardens/index.asp
(The Arbor Room)

http://www.whillmansion.com/Welcome.html
(With Vonderhaars Catering)

I actually had to resort to The Knot to find them. I really never messed with that site because there's just too much going on, and not too much pertains to a Disney Wedding. I felt out of place on that site, lol.

Well let me know what you think! We are looking to have about 60ish people and more like an open house style-buffet so since my friends work crazy shifts. Do you vote to get another cake or do Strawberry Shortcake and Brownies?? I think I vote the latter--or both. It looks like I'm paying for most of this bad-boy after last nights conversation so yeah, boo.

There's always the good ol' clubhouse... but it looks like they'll all cost about the same anyway.

Okay, need to wrap up here and get to my other job. I'd love to hear what you think!!

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

Oh, one more thing quickly... this was us on our way to Shula's.

See my nasty black filling that looks like I have spinich in my teeth?? I HATE IT!!! Would it be stupid to get a flipper (yeah, like on Toddlers and Tiaras) to cover it?? Will my photographer be able to edit it?? What about my MK shoot?? I could stand a good straightning too, but that would cost lots.

Ugh... it was on my mind. I gotta go... I'll be back later.

 

[Tonyandnate2013]

You are not along with doing the engagement without the official ring. I love our journal. I can't wait to read more.

 

[KristiLyn]

I like the second venue! And YUM for strawberry shortcake I love it!
That stinks that you have to pay for it. I know all about that...it isn't easy! So I say do what makes you happy and do something that won't put you in a bind.

 

[pixiegirl]

I vote for the second venue and definitely strawberry shortcake AND brownies.

What a bummer that you have to pay for that too. I know how it feels!!! It sucks but I guess to look on the bright side you don't have people telling you what to do or not to do. But then again that doesn't happen, does it!!!

 

[librarygeek]

I really like both of the reception venues, and their prices looked pretty reasonable too on the websites! And definitely strawberry shortcake

 

[lilsqueakrr]

Okay, I promise to work on an update for you for tomorrow! I'm super tired right now. SO I only have enough energy to reply to your posting cause I love you so!

First off, do whatever you want and can afford without being in a super duper tight spot. Money sucks. So I feel your pain.
However, I vote for number 2. The Mansion joint. So pretty! I love the look of it kinda reminds me of a medeivel castle. (Don't mind my WICKED spelling)

And I say... Brownie & Strawberry Shortcake tiered wedding cake.. DUH!

I didn't even notice your tooth girlie. Maybe they can edit it out? I'd talk to the photographer once booked. And go from there. I know how expensive dental work is.


Feel better gorgeous! <3

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

I really like the second venue--- the first one has a really busy carpet IMO. And I agree--- do a brownie and strawberry shortcake layered cake! I can see it already--- tiers of brownies and shortcake. Mmmmmmmmm.