Love the "X(person,thing,whatever)" or the idea?

[Lotto]

This is my own personal opinion. I find that most people are more in love or love the idea rather then the thing.

Lets take an example,

I thought I was in love with somebody but I was really in love with the idea of being in love with this person, so I wasn't actually in love with the person but the idea of being in love with the person.

Am I making any sense at all? If I'm not I'll try to explain it better but for those who get the jist, do you agree or do you disagree.

Another example would be, say you wanted to be a professional golfer. Would you actually love to be a professional golfer or are you only in love with the idea of being a professional golfer. It's kinda confusing if you don't see things from the same point of view that I do but I'm confident that if you are confused at all you will figure it out!

So, I believe that most of the time people are in love with the idea and not, lets call it "X" because it could be anything. Do you agree or disagree?

 

[MagicalMom]

Nope. I'm truly in love with my DH, not just the idea of being in love with him.

 

[ChrisFL]

I think when we're younger that tends to happen a lot, but hopefully we outgrow it and find true love for the person and not the idea

 

[Blondy876]

No. I am madly in love with my dh. We have not by any means had a fairytale life and if I had only been in love with the idea of love then I would have taken off a long time ago.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I think when we're younger that tends to happen a lot, but hopefully we outgrow it and find true love for the person and not the idea

I agree.

 

[JunieJay]

Depends on the person. If you are a romantic or a dreamer, then yes, I think its possible you could really be in love with the idea of being in love more times than you are actually IN love.

I'm a realist, so when I love something, I pretty much truly love it. My sister was the dreamer in our family - often "falling in love" with people she really never should have had more than 1 date with....she was so in love with the idea of being in love, being part of a couple and truly belonging to someone that she couldn't discern between what was real and what was what she was hoping it to be. Fortunately for her she met a man who really showed her what true love is all about - love, commitment, devotion. Its way more than the butterflies you get when you first fall in love, even though hopefully that feeling remains throughout true love.

 

[mudnuri]

I'm in love with DBF, not in love with the idea of being in love with him.

I think it's pretty simple to figure out which way it is, but then again, I have OCD, so if I'm going to do something I'll do it 100%....no loving the idea here...

Brandy

 

[Barbossa]

I love my children more than life itself. I would give up my own life for them. No "idea" here.

 

[AKL_Megs]

I know that I truly "love" my DF. I love him and I don't know what I would do without him. I think about it every day. I am in no way in love with the "idea" of loving him because I am lucky enough to have someone that I actually "love".

 

[Cool-Beans]

The love I have for my DVR is real, I'll tell you that. It filled so many of my needs. Loving DH, the kids, my friends and their children is different, but no less real.

I agree that many people get swept up in the idea of love and don't realize until it is much too late that it wasn't the real thing. Women especially - and young women about 10 times more. They're usually the needy ones and end up getting dumped a lot because of it. They never seem to learn, which has always made me call them "dumb girls" even before the phrase was popular.

My friend's step-daughter proclaimed her love for her boyfriend. About 5 months after they met, they decided to marry. She was completely carried away and excited about having the wedding and planning the wedding. She'd talk your ear off about the wedding...but the being married part was something she never discussed. Her mom, dad and step-mom all attempted to talk her out of marrying so soon, but she plunged into it head-first.

...five weeks after getting married she realized that she was, and I quote, "not ready for all this." Dumb girl! She was thrilled with the idea of being in love, excited to GET married, but once the fun was over she realized her mistake. Oops, too late. Dumb, dumb, dumb.

 

[Lotto]

I have to admit that I am the complete opposite to nearly all of you!

I have been in love with the "idea of being in love" countless times!

I sorta, look at a girl, get this deep "feeling" that says
"She's the one" and "I'm in love with her" and I think I'm in love. Same happened when I thought I was "in love" with "Belle". And in truth when this happens, I don't even know the girl and I don't get to know her because I'm too shy around them. I don't know why but I think it's because I'm afraid I'll get "hurt" or "crushed". That's the reason I don't and never have had a girlfriend.

1) Wasn't really in love, it is the idea.

2) I'm too shy to go up and talk to them so I don't really "know" them so how can I expect to really be in love.


It's a real pain in the backside!! I hate being shy around girls! And I'm also afraid I'll mess up because "meeting" which is (french kissing, or making out, whatever you guys call it) is common here at our age, especially discos and this one asked my friend to ask me if I'd meet her but I was so afraid I'd mess up and wouldn't know how to you know, do it properly I said no. I suppose having no GF isn't so bad!

So yes, I'm a dreamer, not a realist. Pity. But dreams do come true sometimes......I hope....

 

[BabyPiglet]

If you think that, then you've never been in true love.

Wait til you are, then you'll change your opinion.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

So, I believe that most of the time people are in love with the idea and not, lets call it "X" because it could be anything. Do you agree or disagree?

Well, I guess people will agree or disagree depending on their personal experience.

I love my children. I'm not just in love with being a mother. I truly love them, as well my parents.

I loved to dance. I wasn't in love with the idea of dancing, I truly was happy when I used to dance, and went almost every night (not party - but c/w dancing back in the day), and only stopped because I had responsibilities & needed to stay home.

Loved my ex until his actions killed that love. But, if he had been an honorable person, I'd probably still be in love with him.

Some people may dream about the idea of loving someone/something, but I think many more really do love.

 

[Lotto]

Then is Einstein wrong in saying "Imagination is more important than knowledge".

From the point of view of love he is because the Knowledge of true love is more important the image or imagination of being in love.

From other things he is not wrong. That statement Einstein made can be twisted to be right or wrong from different point of views.

That was a bit O-T but anyway, I hope I understand what true love is someday........with a person, not tennis!!!

 

[Liberty Belle]

I have to admit that I am the complete opposite to nearly all of you!

I have been in love with the "idea of being in love" countless times!

I sorta, look at a girl, get this deep "feeling" that says
"She's the one" and "I'm in love with her" and I think I'm in love. Same happened when I thought I was "in love" with "Belle". And in truth when this happens, I don't even know the girl and I don't get to know her because I'm too shy around them. I don't know why but I think it's because I'm afraid I'll get "hurt" or "crushed". That's the reason I don't and never have had a girlfriend.

1) Wasn't really in love, it is the idea.

2) I'm too shy to go up and talk to them so I don't really "know" them so how can I expect to really be in love.


It's a real pain in the backside!! I hate being shy around girls! And I'm also afraid I'll mess up because "meeting" which is (french kissing, or making out, whatever you guys call it) is common here at our age, especially discos and this one asked my friend to ask me if I'd meet her but I was so afraid I'd mess up and wouldn't know how to you know, do it properly I said no. I suppose having no GF isn't so bad!

So yes, I'm a dreamer, not a realist. Pity. But dreams do come true sometimes......I hope....

That's because you build this person up before you even know her.


Honestly, you seem like a good candidate for an online dating system. You'd get to know the woman before you freak out about what you will or will not do when you see her.

 

[BabyPiglet]

Then is Einstein wrong in saying "Imagination is more important than knowledge".

From the point of view of love he is because the Knowledge of true love is more important the image or imagination of being in love.

From other things he is not wrong. That statement Einstein made can be twisted to be right or wrong from different point of views.

That was a bit O-T but anyway, I hope I understand what true love is someday........with a person, not tennis!!!

He wasn't talking about love. But anyways, there's nothing 'imaginative' about being in true love.

 

[Lotto]

That's because you build this person up before you even know her.


Honestly, you seem like a good candidate for an online dating system. You'd get to know the woman before you freak out about what you will or will not do when you see her.

It's not safe at all!

Like, you can trust a disney princess, your best friends sister and someone you've been good friends with for years!!!

 

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