Long Vent: Parents visiting, new baby

[pigletgirl]

It could be, not sure but many times what the wife wants the husband to stick up for the husband finds ridiculous.

The husband is often in the most awkward position. I do think though, it is his job to manage his parents, plus honoring the requests of his wife who very hormonal and trying to bond with a new little life. It's quite the transition.

 

[ronandannette]

The husband is often in the most awkward position. I do think though, it is his job to manage his parents, plus honoring the requests of his wife who very hormonal and trying to bond with a new little life. It's quite the transition.

True but in the OP's case, since it is her parents, her DH is at major risk of ticking everybody off if he acts too assertively. Unless the situation was much graver than what the OP described I think he was wise to just take his cues from her.

 

[Disneychick75]

1. Congratulations!

2.You expected that your daughter would have difficulty with a new baby and she has. She may have felt your anxiety about her reaction and internalized it or she may just be upset that her world was rocked by the new baby. Whichever, it happens every day to families everywhere. You'll get through it as they do.

3. Your parents may be from the "ignore the bad behavior" school of thought. This makes sense because your daughter will notice if she is coddled when acting out and it might reenforce it as an attention getting device. I'm not saying to completely ignore her but don't play up to the misbehavior.

4. You parents went to your house to help. You're oversensitive because your hormones are crazy, to the way your older daughter is being handled. Dad has always been a yeller yet you were ok with him coming over to help. Could your reaction be more about your feelings about the yelling than about your daughter's? Sounds like there are some unresolved issues.

5. Take a breath, step back, and give yourself time. Don't let your parents leave on a bad note because it will make seeing them the next time an awkward experience. Thank them for their help and tell them how much you appreciate it. If your dad acts like a butt, ignore his bad behavior, tell them you're worn out, and have to lie down. Sometimes adult children have to act like parents when their own parents misbehave.