it doesn't feel right. This is going to be a long story.
This has been a very long, long week. My DH's brother passed away late Sunday night. BIL was in the midst of a divorce. His 3 teenage kids told us right out, they did not want to live with their mother. We would have done anything to help the kids out. But, in less than a week, I know we will never see them again.
BIL's estranged wife tried to move back into BIL's home on Tuesday. Since my MIL is actually the owner of the land and house, the police were called and the wife (now the widow) was told she could not come there because it was no longer her residence. BIL's 3 kids are still saying they do not want to live with their mother -- therefore, they had been staying with their grandmother (my MIL).
Thursday comes and we bury my BIL. It was a very tough day. We leave the funeral and go back to my MIL's home. BIL's kids leave to go back to their home to do some things. MIL, DH, his other brother, DH's sister and all spouses are at MIL's house. Still the kids do no come back. We're thinking something doesn't seem right but around 8:30 PM, it was getting late. So, we all head home -- reluctantly.
We walk into our home at 9:00 and MIL is on the phone. She tells me "it's starting" and that if she puts the phone down, I should just continue to listen. BIL's kids come back and TELL their grandma they are going to move back into their home and live there ALONE. They are minors (16, 15 & 12) so MIL tells them she cannot allow them to do this. Big argument starts. I tell DH, he calls the police in their area to have officers respond, I continue to listen to their children who we would have done anything for come down on my MIL as no children ever should. The filthy language they used was unbelievable. Not that I am by any means a saint, but I knew in that instant, I could not subject my own children to their nastiness.
Police show up at MIL's home and tell the kids to call their mother -- which they do to come and get them. No sooner do the police leave and my DH gets there, but the kids came back to try and break into my MIL's property looking for money. Police come back after DH calls 911. Tells the kids they are to vacate the property with their mother -- who all of the sudden is there and the kids are willing to go with.
They leave. DH's brother takes MIL yesterday for an order of protection from the teenage boys and BIL's widow. No sooner do they return from the court house and they are all there -- either trying to move into the house or moving out of the house. Police get called again and tell them if they come back, now they will go to jail because of the restraining order. We know they have a right to their personal property and MIL is willing to give them their items, but court order now says it needs to be a prearranged time.
It's been a hard enough week to go through the death, but it's not our place to pick up the pieces of deceased BIL's life. This has affected all of the remaining siblings. And, we are hours away from a trip to WDW which DH & I don't want to do on, yet we don't want to tell our DS9 & DS4 we aren't going.
I know things are going to get bad when we are gone. My MIL is 80 years old and in terrible healthy -- hardly able to care for herself. MIL should not have to go through loosing her child and this in one weeks time. How much can a person take??
I suspect the widow and kids will come here and break into our home looking for their property (which deceased BIL was hiding from the widow while going their their divorce). We have NONE of their personal property here but they don't know it. But, they do know we will be gone for the next week so they have the perfect opportunity.
Our police dept is aware of the situation along with all of our neighbors. I know in the end things will work out but if we could cancel this trip without hurting our own children, I certainly would in a minute.
I'm trying to pack but just can't concentrate. I just though maybe, just maybe, if I got this horrible nightmare of a story "off my chest" so to speak, I might feel better about this whole thing. Thanks for listening.
Cindy
This has been a very long, long week. My DH's brother passed away late Sunday night. BIL was in the midst of a divorce. His 3 teenage kids told us right out, they did not want to live with their mother. We would have done anything to help the kids out. But, in less than a week, I know we will never see them again.
BIL's estranged wife tried to move back into BIL's home on Tuesday. Since my MIL is actually the owner of the land and house, the police were called and the wife (now the widow) was told she could not come there because it was no longer her residence. BIL's 3 kids are still saying they do not want to live with their mother -- therefore, they had been staying with their grandmother (my MIL).
Thursday comes and we bury my BIL. It was a very tough day. We leave the funeral and go back to my MIL's home. BIL's kids leave to go back to their home to do some things. MIL, DH, his other brother, DH's sister and all spouses are at MIL's house. Still the kids do no come back. We're thinking something doesn't seem right but around 8:30 PM, it was getting late. So, we all head home -- reluctantly.
We walk into our home at 9:00 and MIL is on the phone. She tells me "it's starting" and that if she puts the phone down, I should just continue to listen. BIL's kids come back and TELL their grandma they are going to move back into their home and live there ALONE. They are minors (16, 15 & 12) so MIL tells them she cannot allow them to do this. Big argument starts. I tell DH, he calls the police in their area to have officers respond, I continue to listen to their children who we would have done anything for come down on my MIL as no children ever should. The filthy language they used was unbelievable. Not that I am by any means a saint, but I knew in that instant, I could not subject my own children to their nastiness.
Police show up at MIL's home and tell the kids to call their mother -- which they do to come and get them. No sooner do the police leave and my DH gets there, but the kids came back to try and break into my MIL's property looking for money. Police come back after DH calls 911. Tells the kids they are to vacate the property with their mother -- who all of the sudden is there and the kids are willing to go with.
They leave. DH's brother takes MIL yesterday for an order of protection from the teenage boys and BIL's widow. No sooner do they return from the court house and they are all there -- either trying to move into the house or moving out of the house. Police get called again and tell them if they come back, now they will go to jail because of the restraining order. We know they have a right to their personal property and MIL is willing to give them their items, but court order now says it needs to be a prearranged time.
It's been a hard enough week to go through the death, but it's not our place to pick up the pieces of deceased BIL's life. This has affected all of the remaining siblings. And, we are hours away from a trip to WDW which DH & I don't want to do on, yet we don't want to tell our DS9 & DS4 we aren't going.
I know things are going to get bad when we are gone. My MIL is 80 years old and in terrible healthy -- hardly able to care for herself. MIL should not have to go through loosing her child and this in one weeks time. How much can a person take??
I suspect the widow and kids will come here and break into our home looking for their property (which deceased BIL was hiding from the widow while going their their divorce). We have NONE of their personal property here but they don't know it. But, they do know we will be gone for the next week so they have the perfect opportunity.
Our police dept is aware of the situation along with all of our neighbors. I know in the end things will work out but if we could cancel this trip without hurting our own children, I certainly would in a minute.
I'm trying to pack but just can't concentrate. I just though maybe, just maybe, if I got this horrible nightmare of a story "off my chest" so to speak, I might feel better about this whole thing. Thanks for listening.
Cindy
