lingerie, appropriate gift or not

[PrincessBelle09]

I think this totally depends on your relationship with the woman. If you have intentions of taking the relationship long-term, it might be more appropriate to get her a romantic gift to indicate that you want something that is more than physical.

I'm fine with DH getting me lingerie now, but if he had done so not long after we had started dating, that would have been an indicator that he was only interested in one aspect of me. Get my drift? Lingerie can be a great gift, but you've really got to consider what sort of message that sends to a woman, whether intentional or not. That message also depends on the woman, of course. Only you can be the real judge in this situation.

 

[Mickey'snewestfan]

I know her 40 days and 40 nights (less the ones mother nature threw in)
I tried leading her out of bondage (her idea not mine)
As far as parting the Red Sea...I have racked up enuff points this year

I think that once bondage is involved, lingerie is within reason.

 

[redlight]

I think that once bondage is involved, lingerie is within reason.

 

[shortbun]

Then the answer is most likely no.

"Not sure yet" = NO! Lingerie is a gift for a very comfortable and trusting relationship; one that is monogamous and long term.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

If she's hot, go for it.

 

[NotUrsula]

OK, so we know that it's a "close" relationship. However, I think it depends ENTIRELY on how you are defining "lingerie".

If you're talking lacy teddies or black lace bra/undie sets ... probably not unless you are sure she already owns such things and finds them comfortable. Women who would not choose such things for themselves tend to find them very symbolic when given by someone they are dating -- and that's not always a good thing.

If you're talking a really nice long silk wrap bathrobe, then fine under any "close" circumstances. Those feel fabulous to wear and flatter everyone, no matter what kind of figure one has. (Lingerie that she'd deliberately choose to wear even if you are NOT there is generally always a better choice than the sort that might be perceived as coming with an agenda, if you understand my point.)

 

[kirstenb1]

I'll vote no. DH and I have been married 21 yrs, just to give disclosure.

But my opinion is based on my 35 yr old's co-workers reaction to lingerie as a gift. She was really a pretty girl, so it would seem like a good gift from her boyfriend at the time. But she was furious! She felt like that was a sign that it was all she meant to him! Seriously, WWIII erupted when she received Victoria's Secret.

So, based on her reaction, I'd go the classy route and give a handbag, or perfume, or whatever.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I wouldn't do it. As just an aside gift on no special day, it would be fine. As a Christmas or birthday present, no. Give her something that makes her feel special.

 

[beattyfamily]

I have never really liked getting lingerie from a boyfriend and not even from my husband when he was my serious boyfriend, or as my husband.

The only occasion I didn't really mind was for no reason at all or for Valentine's day. That's about it.

Certainly not for Christmas or my birthday. I feel the same way about appliances too!

On the other hand, I've gotten lingerie for myself and given it to my husband for Valentine's day and he LOVED that gift.

 

[Polyluvr]

If it's a Xmas gift; then no~ give her something just for her.

If it's a just because gift~ then yes.

 

[GoldieSaysMeep]

No. Men tend to like what looks good on the anorexic mannequin, not on the actual woman. Any sort of underwear shopping should really be done by the person who will be wearing it who actually knows what looks good on her figure.

 

[Disney Doll]

I wouldn't do it monkeyboy. If I am reading your relationship with this woman correctly, it sounds like it would be a bit too suggestive.

 

[disney_mommy]

Yes, go for it - the trashier, the better.

 

[Mickey'snewestfan]

I wouldn't do it monkeyboy. If I am reading your relationship with this woman correctly, it sounds like it would be a bit too suggestive.

If this were anyone else I'd agree with you.

But we're talking MONKEYBOY here? Somehow I don't think this relationship has the degree of subtlety that leads to a woman searching for deep messages in a Christmas gift.

Go for it Monkeyboy, although I agree with the suggestion of getting something sexy and comfortable like a silk robe, rather than a lacy bra.

 

[Swank]

Come to think of it, I need new lingerie. Maybe I should throw some hints toward my boyfriend.

With the screen name of "Redlight" I would think he has enough hints.

 

[DisneyScraps]

no!!!!!! I love lingere, I wear it often. I would not want anyone else selecting it for me. Get the wrong thing and I am uncomfortable, get the wrong thing and I won't wear it.

Are you talking a high quality LaPerla set in her favorite color and her exact size? Does she like lingere or are you going into Victoria Secret and pick someting that catches your eye. Don't do it.

I would also resent it from a boyfriend, everyone knows that a lot of lingere is mostly for the man.

Lisa

 

[mickeysgal]

for someone you know.......

not like an office grab bag or anything

But wouldn't that be just the funniest?

 

[BunsenH]

Get her a VS gift card and then go shopping with her to use it.

More 'bang for the buck'....."That seems nice, why don't you try it on?".......By the time you get home, you can save the new lingerie for another occasion.

 

[kirbsam]

go for it. make sure it is crotchless and tasteless and sleezy and easy to take off.

 

[TinklednPants]

No. Men tend to like what looks good on the anorexic mannequin, not on the actual woman. Any sort of underwear shopping should really be done by the person who will be wearing it who actually knows what looks good on her figure.

Now, now. No need to get hostile toward the mannequins. It's their job to stand there and look good