Lights! Motor! Asian?--Feb 2010 Part II. 11/6-Pix, part 2. Page 199.

[DisneyDerek]

I have seen those suits and thought... that would make it safer. The day I came home from work (he must have been in middle school and she a freshman in high school to be home after school alone) my ds was coming out of the tub. Now, my son at that time had to be practically pulled into tub, this was not something he did on his own. So I knew something was up.
Let's just say it involved a wood sword, a door and a bloody nose!. Of course my first question was, " Is there any blood on the carpet or your clothes?" You know how hard that is to get out.
The fact remain that there is never 1 innocent party! They both do things to get to that point.

A couple more of the more memorable incidents were the great Mothers day water fight and the perpetual broken picture.
It is the air current that helps.

Yikes Hope the blood was able to be cleaned up. I'm all, "I don't want to see any evidence of crimes that may have occurred" (I watch too many episodes of SVU).

Here's a link to a funny sumo wrestling suit clip on you tube for those who don't know what I'm talking about (which I don't blame you...I often don't know what I'm saying ) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m1FDSXSlpmg

 

[Underdog369]

I am gong out on a limb here but I am guessing the first opportunity you had to bathe Evan, you did.

For that

I do give my husband props though. He may have been nervous to bathe her but he did teach her to drive first .

I do remember several times where I took Evan as a baby into the shower with me. I have great memories of my kids childhood. I just wish mine were better.

Where oh where is Jordan?

Possible, but doubtful

Hope not!

Ditto!!

That would be nice

Church mission?

Bored with DIS?

Lead singer in a band?

That's it! He's sailing. . . .takes me away to where I've always heard it could be . . .

I'm sailing away...

Derek, my DW Cherie made the kids stand in front of each other, look each other in the eyes and repeat the lyrics from a song that goes like this "I'm sittin on top of the world, looking out on creation, and the only explanation I can find, is the love that I found ever since you been around." Then they have to apologize to each other sincerely, give each other a hug, and tell each other that they love them.

The other thing we have done is I take one of my ties, literally join them together by tieing one of their hands to one of the other, and they have to stay together for a determined amount of time. The kids are usually so embarassed that they behave after hearing "it's your fault," "No it's yours". I just let them know that the longer they don't get along, the longer they stay tied together. After that, all I usually have to say is "do you want me to get the tie tie?" They usually stop the poor behavior. As a parent, it's really funny to watch what happens when they get tied together, although you can't let them know you do it for your amusement.

 

[Moosemomma]

Derek, my DW Cherie made the kids stand in front of each other, look each other in the eyes and repeat the lyrics from a song that goes like this "I'm sittin on top of the world, looking out on creation, and the only explanation I can find, is the love that I found ever since you been around." Then they have to apologize to each other sincerely, give each other a hug, and tell each other that they love them.

The other thing we have done is I take one of my ties, literally join them together by tieing one of their hands to one of the other, and they have to stay together for a determined amount of time. The kids are usually so embarassed that they behave after hearing "it's your fault," "No it's yours". I just let them know that the longer they don't get along, the longer they stay tied together. After that, all I usually have to say is "do you want me to get the tie tie?" They usually stop the poor behavior. As a parent, it's really funny to watch what happens when they get tied together, although you can't let them know you do it for your amusement.

DJ, I'll have to remember those ideas. I've been known to make DD and DS hug each other when they've been fighting

 

[DisneyDerek]

Derek, my DW Cherie made the kids stand in front of each other, look each other in the eyes and repeat the lyrics from a song that goes like this "I'm sittin on top of the world, looking out on creation, and the only explanation I can find, is the love that I found ever since you been around." Then they have to apologize to each other sincerely, give each other a hug, and tell each other that they love them.

The other thing we have done is I take one of my ties, literally join them together by tieing one of their hands to one of the other, and they have to stay together for a determined amount of time. The kids are usually so embarassed that they behave after hearing "it's your fault," "No it's yours". I just let them know that the longer they don't get along, the longer they stay tied together. After that, all I usually have to say is "do you want me to get the tie tie?" They usually stop the poor behavior. As a parent, it's really funny to watch what happens when they get tied together, although you can't let them know you do it for your amusement.

Funny you should mention #1. Wendy does something similar (excluding the lyrics), having the kids face each other and saying that they forgive each other.

Idea #2 is great as well (I've got a lot of old ties) but I fear Child Protective Services getting a photo of us tying our kids together and Erin and Dylan seeing who can drag the other further on the carpet. But I'll give it a try.

DJ, I'll have to remember those ideas. I've been known to make DD and DS hug each other when they've been fighting

We ask them to give each other a kiss. This morning I asked Erin to apologize to Dylan for something she did and Ashlyn said to Dylan, "I'm sorry" and offered a kiss.

 

[winkers]

Funny you should mention #1. Wendy does something similar (excluding the lyrics), having the kids face each other and saying that they forgive each other.

Idea #2 is great as well (I've got a lot of old ties) but I fear Child Protective Services getting a photo of us tying our kids together and Erin and Dylan seeing who can drag the other further on the carpet. But I'll give it a try.

We ask them to give each other a kiss. This morning I asked Erin to apologize to Dylan for something she did and Ashlyn said to Dylan, "I'm sorry" and offered a kiss.

The hugging and singing always ends in hysterical laughter....watching a 16 yr old and 14 yr old sibblings do this is fun.

With the tie, they usualy have to do a chore together....

I learned early on that the more creative I am with solutions/consequences the more effective they are. It's worked pretty well for us.

I even resorted to threatening that I'd become a nudist if a certain child of mine wouldn't change into clean clothes.........I'm sure he'll be in therapy for that threat, but it worked!

 

[*Seanaci*]

Derek, my DW Cherie made the kids stand in front of each other, look each other in the eyes and repeat the lyrics from a song that goes like this "I'm sittin on top of the world, looking out on creation, and the only explanation I can find, is the love that I found ever since you been around." Then they have to apologize to each other sincerely, give each other a hug, and tell each other that they love them.

Lol. Ok. That would be hilarious!!

The other thing we have done is I take one of my ties, literally join them together by tieing one of their hands to one of the other, and they have to stay together for a determined amount of time. The kids are usually so embarassed that they behave after hearing "it's your fault," "No it's yours". I just let them know that the longer they don't get along, the longer they stay tied together. After that, all I usually have to say is "do you want me to get the tie tie?" They usually stop the poor behavior. As a parent, it's really funny to watch what happens when they get tied together, although you can't let them know you do it for your amusement.

That is a GREAT idea. If we weren't waiting another 2 years to have another kiddo, I'd def use this idea. However, I don't forsee my kiddos needing this being 5 years apart. Then again...you never know.

Idea #2 is great as well (I've got a lot of old ties) but I fear Child Protective Services getting a photo of us tying our kids together and Erin and Dylan seeing who can drag the other further on the carpet. But I'll give it a try.

Lol. That would have been me and my siblings had my parents done this when we were younger (pulling each other across the carpet tied together).

Awww...how sweet of Ashlyn!

The hugging and singing always ends in hysterical laughter....watching a 16 yr old and 14 yr old sibblings do this is fun.

After much laughter do they forget what they were even fighting about? lol

With the tie, they usualy have to do a chore together....

That's a GREAT idea.

I learned early on that the more creative I am with solutions/consequences the more effective they are. It's worked pretty well for us.

I even resorted to threatening that I'd become a nudist if a certain child of mine wouldn't change into clean clothes.........I'm sure he'll be in therapy for that threat, but it worked!

Good job!

 

[Poolrat]

Yikes Hope the blood was able to be cleaned up. I'm all, "I don't want to see any evidence of crimes that may have occurred" (I watch too many episodes of SVU).

No evidence found I believe he was trying to head butt her near the entrance to her room and well... she closed the door. Serves him right. It was only a nose bleed. Actually I still don't know the whole story and I like it that way.

Derek, my DW Cherie made the kids stand in front of each other, look each other in the eyes and repeat the lyrics from a song that goes like this "I'm sittin on top of the world, looking out on creation, and the only explanation I can find, is the love that I found ever since you been around." Then they have to apologize to each other sincerely, give each other a hug, and tell each other that they love them.

The other thing we have done is I take one of my ties, literally join them together by tieing one of their hands to one of the other, and they have to stay together for a determined amount of time. The kids are usually so embarassed that they behave after hearing "it's your fault," "No it's yours". I just let them know that the longer they don't get along, the longer they stay tied together. After that, all I usually have to say is "do you want me to get the tie tie?" They usually stop the poor behavior. As a parent, it's really funny to watch what happens when they get tied together, although you can't let them know you do it for your amusement.

I banished them to EACH others room as a time out. That was fun. She was so worried he was going to touch something. He just had nothing he liked to play with he had to be at least 3 so that makes DD 6. one of the best punishments ever. Second to taking my daughters door

I used to work at an afterschool program and if we had bickering students we would make them wash opposite sides of a window together. That would usually leave them laughing in 5 min.

DJay I am sorry you childhood memories are not great. But that has made you a better father and husband.

 

[englishrose47]

Evening all !! Cherie and Djay I love your "discipline !!! My mother used guilt very effectively !! I always felt such a heel for letting her down and making her feel like a failure !!! Yeah I know she was GOOD at it !!!!

 

[winkers]

Evening all !! Cherie and Djay I love your "discipline !!! My mother used guilt very effectively !! I always felt such a heel for letting her down and making her feel like a failure !!! Yeah I know she was GOOD at it !!!!

Did she ever threaten you with making you a resident of the graveyard next door?


Don't all mothers use guilt? I figure they install the buttons in us and know exactly how and when to push them. One of my best weapons against a disobedient teen is "I'm so disappointed that you would do that"........With the oldest it works like a charm, but it is reserved for the "BIG" issues.

 

[winkers]

No evidence found I believe he was trying to head butt her near the entrance to her room and well... she closed the door. Serves him right.

I'm sure it wasn't funny at the time, but that just made me laugh till I cried.

maybe it was a good lesson in karma?

 

[englishrose47]

Did she ever threaten you with making you a resident of the graveyard next door?


Don't all mothers use guilt? I figure they install the buttons in us and know exactly how and when to push them. One of my best weapons against a disobedient teen is "I'm so disappointed that you would do that"........With the oldest it works like a charm, but it is reserved for the "BIG" issues.

No surprising ly that was never a threat!!! But seeing as I played there all day she may have thought it wouldn't scare me !!! I mean I palyed house on the large flat typre ones Rode some as horses I know weird !!!! But are you surprised !!!

 

[winkers]

No surprising ly that was never a threat!!! But seeing as I played there all day she may have thought it wouldn't scare me !!! I mean I palyed house on the large flat typre ones Rode some as horses I know weird !!!! But are you surprised !!!

nope, not surprised at all comming from you...and that's why I love you so much!

 

[Poolrat]

I'm sure it wasn't funny at the time, but that just made me laugh till I cried.

maybe it was a good lesson in karma?

Once I found out what happened and I knew no one was seriously hurt I

I am still not quite sure how the wooden toy sword came into play.
Let's just say he thinks now before he acts. Lesson learned.

 

[jordanyosh]

Real Life update

It's been a very difficult week and I'm still processing what happened and what will continue to happen over the next few months. I hesitate to really tell too much because really, once it's on the internet, it's there FOREVER.

But really most of what I'm going to share is pretty public knowledge to those that know me. So here goes....When I was in between the ages of 2.5-4.5 years old, I was taken advantage of by a friend of the family. The abuse lasted the entire 2 years mentioned. I also feel that he was taking advantage of me even before I have real memories of it. One of my earliest memories now revolves around his...yeah...can't even go there....anyway...I didn't recall these traumatic events until about 5 years ago. I didn't even remember who it was until maybe 3 years ago. I've been in counseling the last 4.5 years and it's still really painful. Of course, it hasn't been all bad. I've had the support of family and friends and of course, being back at church has been HUGE. I've found my faith again and it's really saved my life because I was doing so many self-destructive things that would've probably ended my life sooner than later.

Fast forward to this week, I've continued to wrestle with old demons and I felt convicted to share some of these struggles with my senior pastor. As a result, I am taking an unpaid 6 month leave from my position at church. Of course, it was hard to hear this news. I used alot of saved money for WDW this year and was already planning to start saving much more starting this month. Financially, it's the hardest. I am in complete agreement with the senior pastor about taking the leave. I really need to concentrate on really healing from the past horrific wounding that I received at the hands of another. Of course, there are a lot of contributing factors
as well--factors that have been well documented in my previous PTR/TR about my working relationship with the senior pastor. The pressure at work obviously played a role in some of my struggles.

I'm sorry I haven't been around, but I've been busy at work trying to wrap things up. My last day is the 30th. So I am basically working everyday until then. I will have time perhaps tomorrow night to catch up or perhaps Monday.
Please bear with me as I transition from working to being temporarily off work.

I love all of you guys and I know you'll still be around. I'm at home tonight. I've had so many meetings with the leaders of the church for prayer and trying to figure out what's next that I am wiped out. I'll be around, but may not be up to too much.

Click here for next installment.

 

[*Seanaci*]

Once I found out what happened and I knew no one was seriously hurt I

I am still not quite sure how the wooden toy sword came into play.
Let's just say he thinks now before he acts. Lesson learned.

Lol.

My mom sure didn't LOL very much when I caused my brother to kick in a door like 20 years ago. We were home alone and fighting about something stupid...I threw a piece of ice at his head, so he went and kicked in his door. Which, in hindsight is way better than him hauling off and hitting me. Mom didn't laugh at first. But after some time, she laughed.

 

[Brenle]

Real Life update

It's been a very difficult week and I'm still processing what happened and what will continue to happen over the next few months. I hesitate to really tell too much because really, once it's on the internet, it's there FOREVER.

But really most of what I'm going to share is pretty public knowledge to those that know me. So here goes....When I was in between the ages of 2.5-4.5 years old, I was taken advantage of by a friend of the family. One of my earliest memories now revolves around his...yeah...can't even go there....anyway...I didn't recall these traumatic events until about 5 years ago. I didn't even remember who it was until maybe 3 years ago. I've been in counseling the last 4.5 years and it's still really painful. Of course, it hasn't been all bad. I've had the support of family and friends and of course, being back at church has been HUGE. I've found my faith again and it's really saved my life because I was doing so many self-destructive things that would've probably ended my life sooner than later.

Fast forward to this week, I've continued to wrestle with old demons and I felt convicted to share some of these struggles with my senior pastor. As a result, I am taking an unpaid 6 month leave from my position at church. Of course, it was hard to hear this news. I used alot of saved money for WDW this year and was already planning to start saving much more starting this month. Financially, it's the hardest. I am in complete agreement with the senior pastor about taking the leave. I really need to concentrate on really healing from the past horrific wounding that I received at the hands of another. Of course, there are a lot of contributing factors
as well--factors that have been well documented in my previous PTR/TR about my working relationship with the senior pastor. The pressure at work obviously played a role in some of my struggles.

I'm sorry I haven't been around, but I've been busy at work trying to wrap things up. My last day is the 30th. So I am basically working everyday until then. I will have time perhaps tomorrow night to catch up or perhaps Monday.
Please bear with me as I transition from working to being temporarily off work.

I love all of you guys and I know you'll still be around. I'm at home tonight. I've had so many meetings with the leaders of the church for prayer and trying to figure out what's next that I am wiped out. I'll be around, but may not be up to too much.

Oh, Jordan, I am so sorry. I hope the counseling continues to help you. I will keep you in my prayers.

Brenda

 

[oregonmommyof2]

Jordy....

 

[vamassey1]

Jordan thanks for sharing and for being comfortable to share with us. I'm sorry you're through such a hard time, but I know you would make it and come out even better for it. My thoughts and prayers will be with you as you make this journey. Please, if there is anything else I can do let me know.

 

[*Seanaci*]

Real Life update

It's been a very difficult week and I'm still processing what happened and what will continue to happen over the next few months. I hesitate to really tell too much because really, once it's on the internet, it's there FOREVER.

But really most of what I'm going to share is pretty public knowledge to those that know me. So here goes....When I was in between the ages of 2.5-4.5 years old, I was taken advantage of by a friend of the family. One of my earliest memories now revolves around his...yeah...can't even go there....anyway...I didn't recall these traumatic events until about 5 years ago. I didn't even remember who it was until maybe 3 years ago. I've been in counseling the last 4.5 years and it's still really painful. Of course, it hasn't been all bad. I've had the support of family and friends and of course, being back at church has been HUGE. I've found my faith again and it's really saved my life because I was doing so many self-destructive things that would've probably ended my life sooner than later.

Fast forward to this week, I've continued to wrestle with old demons and I felt convicted to share some of these struggles with my senior pastor. As a result, I am taking an unpaid 6 month leave from my position at church. Of course, it was hard to hear this news. I used alot of saved money for WDW this year and was already planning to start saving much more starting this month. Financially, it's the hardest. I am in complete agreement with the senior pastor about taking the leave. I really need to concentrate on really healing from the past horrific wounding that I received at the hands of another. Of course, there are a lot of contributing factors
as well--factors that have been well documented in my previous PTR/TR about my working relationship with the senior pastor. The pressure at work obviously played a role in some of my struggles.

I'm sorry I haven't been around, but I've been busy at work trying to wrap things up. My last day is the 30th. So I am basically working everyday until then. I will have time perhaps tomorrow night to catch up or perhaps Monday.
Please bear with me as I transition from working to being temporarily off work.

I love all of you guys and I know you'll still be around. I'm at home tonight. I've had so many meetings with the leaders of the church for prayer and trying to figure out what's next that I am wiped out. I'll be around, but may not be up to too much.

I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I do hope the counseling continues to help you.

I'm sure others are with me when I say, if you have to take time off from your TR for a while to take care of yourself and deal with the past, I completely understand.

I'm here for you if you need me. And know that my thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

 

[jordanyosh]

Oh, Jordan, I am so sorry. I hope the counseling continues to help you. I will keep you in my prayers.

Brenda

Thanks Brenda...