No way. And, this is the message I'm trying to impart to BOTH of my children, who are in the middle of a lot of "angst" about being "adults" and not really knowing what they want to do in life (they are 20). I've told them I had ZERO clue at their age about how my life would go. I was going to college, taking some classes, and doing "stuff," but I didn't really know what I should "be" in life. I don't even remember worrying about it very much. More that life would unfold as it was meant to unfold. So, I started as a pre-med major, switched to Chemistry, and then on the eve of graduating and going to grad school in Chemistry, I switched, stayed another year as an undergrad and studied mainly philosophy for that year, picking up a second major. I remember at that point struggling with "what to do next" when my philosophy advisor said "have you considered law school?" I'm like: "law school? I've never even met a lawyer before." But, I took the LSAT, did very very well, and figured it was "meant to be." And, the rest is history.
Even how my law career unfolded though, was not pursuant to a plan nor something I could have anticipated. Where I worked and what I did were entirely a surprise to me. A pleasant surprise, but a surprise nonetheless. Then, having children was never a thought in my mind...until suddenly, it became an imperative. LOL. Another pleasant surprise.
Anyway, when you plan, God laughs. I just let life flow over me. It's been a fantastic ride.
I'm not really sure any more what I expected and I've certainly been through things that I'd never do again and would change if I could. None of it prevents me from being happy in the here-and-now though. My definition of happiness is peace-of-mind and contentment. Speaking strictly for myself, when I have the first I can choose the second.
