Wow, I am really learning alot here!
My 4 year old Ian, is autistic. He has a twin sister, Rachel, that is perfectly normal and is actually very advanced with her speech.
When Ian was 4 months old, he was diagnosed with tortocolis (spelling?). Basically, his muscles were really tight on one side of his neck and he would only face one way, like he couldn't turn his neck. He had OT till he was a year and was then was assessed and that was cured, but he wasn't reaching developmental milestones like he should. I figured he was just slow because he was 2 months early and had to deal with the whole tortocolis issues so I was happy that he was making milestones. When he started walking at 16 months I was so proud, I cried, but the therapist never had anything good to say. She was always being very critical and concentrating on what he wasn't doing as opposed to what he was doing. So shortly after, I quit services and worked with him on my own.
At about 2 years old, I noticed he wasn't talking, and doing things like walking around flapping his arms and spinning his sipping cups on the floor. When we moved to a new house that had ceiling fans he would just sit there for hours watching them. We were in the process of moving from Germany back to the U.S. when I saw a Dateline type program that had a segment on autism. They talked about the stereotypical symptoms of autism and what hey were describing was Ian exactly.
When we moved, I got him into OT, PT, and ST. At, 4 years old he now attends a pre-k that has a class just for autistic children.
He still doesn't talk, but coos and moans and laughs and cries. He knows a few signs. He knows how to tell me he is hungry and he hands me his sippy cup when he is thirsty. He is usually an easy going little kid, but like alot of autistic kids certain things will set him off. He hates to hear other kids screaming. We can't watch Blues Clues because he will get set off when they start singing. He can't handle being in a car seat for very long or sitting in one place like a high chait for very long. If he gets too tired he'll go off too. When he gets set off he will either bang his head till he bleeds, or if we grab him and try to hold him down he'll bite and scratch with all of his might. We can usually calm him down very quickly with a sucker or a paci, but sometimes we just have to hold him down till he stops.
His brother and sister are very understanding and are very helpful with keeping an eye on him if they are in the same room as him. They know he is different, but they don't say anything about it, because they know he is just their brother, and they always want to include him in things they are doing. He is like a toddler mentally, he still puts everything in his mouth, and he is still in diapers. He also craves sensory things. A therapist showed me how to rub his gums with a brush and how to massage his skin and how to hug him tight like he likes. He loves that.
He has recently learned how to hold a crayon and color and it just tickles him to do that. Contrary to alot of autistic kids, Ian loves hugs and gives us alot of eye contact.
I often wonder what the future holds for him. I wonder if he'll ever snap out of the cloud of autism. I like to describe autism as a switch that needs to be flipped on in their heads. If I could just figure out how to do it, he'd be a normal kid.
Thanks for reading, this is a great thread.
