Leaving to Disney in two weeks and husband might be loosing his job..........

[lisaross]

I'm glad he came out on top and w/great benefits in addtion to the same pay that wonderful!

What did you do for the 7 months between jobs? Did you cut back tons? did you start working etc?

We've cut back sooooooooooooo much but the boys (4 & 6) really can't tell any difference - of course i can but i'll survive!

lisa

 

[Deesknee]

slightly different situation, but...Dh's company has been doing what used to be called "down sizing" for a few years now. He has been thru many. Last June he really felt like he was going to get the axe. His boss had given him (for the first time in his 23 yrs with the company) a less than excellent review. Meanwhile we have a trip for WDW planned for mid June. I wanted to cancel. DH said NO WAY. We didn't. I worried the whole time. He didn't loose his job in June. He lost it on Sept. 20th. Looking back I'm so happy we didn't cancel that trip. Who knows when we will get to go again. We were planning on vow renewal in Nov. of 07, but that may not happen either. But I'm not sorry we went in June., like I say who knows when we'll be able to go again.
I should say though, don't have tons of money in saving. We live for the day...usually by the seat of our pants.


EDITED to add
I just remembered a story they may help your hope hang on.
Over 25 years ago my DB was fired from his union job. He and several other employees were playing cards in the lunch room. Some of the guys were drinking. The company fired them all. My brother was out of work for one whole year while the union fought for him, Now the nice part, the paid him retro! He was about 21yrs old at the time. He was able to buy a house. He had a wife and 1 child and #2 on the way (timing on that one put them in horror). He is now one of the most valued employees in the company. The have given him so many promotions, certifcates of appreciation, etc. He is now 47 yrs old and is employed by the same company.
Good luck to you and your family. Glad you decide to keep your vacation& had a nice time.

 

[lisaross]

usually with a union job you do get back pay - and hopefully this is what we'll get - i'll take him getting his job without back pay as well at this point! So what are you doing now? do you work as well as your husband? did he get severence?

good luck

and thanx for the stories.....

lisa

 

[Stinky2u4u]

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[lisaross]

its just being updated - my family already did Disney

lisa

 

[Stinky2u4u]

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[JeffM]

I was just checking to see how everything was going.. Any updates?

 

[Deesknee]

usually with a union job you do get back pay - and hopefully this is what we'll get - i'll take him getting his job without back pay as well at this point! So what are you doing now? do you work as well as your husband? did he get severence?

good luck

and thanx for the stories.....

lisa

Thanks for asking Lisa. I was just wondering how you and your dh struggle with empolyer are going. My dh last official day is this Friday 10/20. He hasn't found anything local yet. He has gotten two job offers from other states (not close enough to commute). We're still hoping relocating won't be neccessary. He gets 35wks severance including medical. (thank God). I have been working part time, but don't make 1/2 what he was making. Even if I went fulltime. Feel free to pm me at any time if you want.
Your all in my prayers.
Dee

 

[lisaross]

and caring enough to find out well, can you believe that we still have not heard anything - the 3rd grivance kept being pushed back for various reasons - well today is the day of the 3rd grivance - probably won't hear anything today - definitly tomorrow!

Since then, i was able to get my entire family covered under the NY Family/Child program and the kids coverage goes into effect this month and mine and my husbands next month - so that is a huge relief! I am working p/t - again not much having to work around kids schedule, but still about 600 a month! My husband did get unemployment - actually we stopped it for a week since he tried an on the books job which was no good so now were trying to get him back on unemployment - what a pain - he is working now off the books so we are able to pay our bills but i'm just living on the edge so so afraid. REally hoping things go our way at the grivance today - its just been so so much stress on our relationship etc..............I just get myself so sick when i think think think - i'm not an optimist - trying to be.

I hope to come back with much much better news this week - but i am thankful we have health coverage and thankful we are indeed paying the bills and oh yes only went into savings for..........our basement leak - window problems - my car needed new tires and my husbands car needed a wheel alignment - but thankfully we had the $ in savings and like i said we are not putting anything on credit cards - paying our bills on-time and living frugally for now.

Lisa

 

[Vickie46]

Hope things get better soon... I will say a prayer for you.. I have been in your shoes before.. I know how you feel! Bless your heart! Hang in there!

 

[mickeymousemom]

I just ran across this thread and read thru it all. Wow. I certainly am glad you had a good time at WDW. I would have definitely recommended that you not cancel your trip. Now I 'll go look for your trip report. I hope everything works out for you with the grievance thing. My husband is a union guy so I know how that stuff can go. Actually, a few years ago there was a bunch of people that got fired after they were a part of a major drug bust in his factory. A year later(I think), the union finally got them their jobs back and they got back pay in excess of $100,000! Of course, there were alot of ticked off people, but it just goes to show what a union can do for you(and there are other times when they kind of stink).
I wish you both the best!

 

[dzneprincess]

Lisa,
Please update as soon as you can! I think of you and your family often.

 

[Mary Anne]

I too have been wondering how you were doing. I hope things are working out.

 

[lisaross]

The 3rd grivance was finally this past week, and the laborer's still think my husband can be lieing - they are going to do more investigation work - so we'll see what comes next!

I will keep you all up to date

lisa

 

[HenDuck]

Hugs to Lisa and to everyone else who cared enough to respond to this post and/or who has ever gone through the same situation. I have.

We were barely married two years, just into a brand new house, when my DH was fired. I cried. I blamed him. I cried. He was lucky enough to find another job just before his severance was used up. A year after that he was offered a lucrative job which lasted many years.

Fast forward many years later, his lucrative job had ended and he was struggling to make his own business work. He quit that business with nothing else to fall back on but to close out some old clients' business. This time I did not blame him (but I did cry). I supported his decision to end a job that made him miserable.

One of the last clients' he "closed out" involved a business venture that brought him more money than we both earned in a year.

Fast forward to today. He is currently waiting on financing on a new venture. We have been waiting months for the (private) financier to come up with the money, but there's always a delay. I am beginning to doubt whether this venture will happen. If it does, we will be sitting pretty. If it doesn't, well, then I'm in the same boat as Lisa.

Luckily, we have savings to tide us over while we figure out what is the next step. I have already begun to work on a "Plan B".

We too have a trip planned in the spring, but not to Disney. My DH wants to go and so do I, but I have questioned whether that money would be better left in savings. Of course, some of it is already paid for, and I am fully employed and do manage to save monthly. If we are able to work our "Plan B", I think we will go and enjoy the trip.

Thanks for this thread. It is timely for me.

I have learned that there are blessings around every corner. Sometimes we have to be patient and alert to recognize them, but they are there.

All my best wishes to Lisa and everyone else here.

Have a great day!

Thanks, HenDuck

 

[JeffM]

Hi Lisa,

Any update? We have not heard from you and I was thinking about you the other day and was wondering how it was going...

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

I just found this thread and was really EXCITED. DH lost his job in July 2005 right after we got back from Disney. Actually the week after. Unemployment ended 1/06 and he has been looking forever. We had a terrible storm here in October, so he worked for 4 weeks on the disaster team. Very long hours, but enough to quiet the phone a bit...Just a small bit. He will start looking again but with the holidays it is very hard. Only minimum wage jobs available and if he takes that we lose our insurance. Catch-22. And to make matters worse I have been disabled since 2000 (nothing to serious, just unable to work steady do to a car accident) and feel extremely guilty that I dont contribute enough... So glad you chose Disney. Like us it might be eternity until we get back.. But we will!

 

[lisaross]

new -the Union is still fighting.......

We have to fight to get unemployment back - since we got it then we stopped it because my husband took a job "on the books" for a week and it was just not worth the commute for the $ so now he has to fight back for it next week - hoping we get the back-pay!

My husband has been getting some contracting jobs and some computer repair jobs on a day - to day basis! I've been doing some temp work on the days i'm off from my p/t job - seriously thinking about getting a long-term temp position - but then it will be real hard for my husband to interview w/the kids schedule and all - so we'll see.

We are managing for now -

I'm on a rollercoaster - one hour feeling "ok" next sad etc.

I know one way or another it will have to work out -- been thinking of all our possibilities - like moving etc!

Lisa

 

[arlenesp]

LIsa, I just read this thread and boy did it bring back memories.BAck in 82 we were living on L.I. and doing great.Then My DH's health started getting weird. He was diagnosed as having acute anxiety and was seeing a therapist 2x a week.That was very costly. I was expecting my second child and was stressing about the finances as he was told to cut down on his stress and try to work in a less stressful job. lol My DD was also at the time a competitive skater and we all know how costly that is. She volunteered to take some time off til her dad was back on his feet.

Well after 4 long years of walking on eggshells,the diagnosed anxiety turned out to be a brain tumor. After the operation, he had 6 wks of radiation. No pay. NYS disability at the time paid us a very generous 78.00 a month.The food stamps however turned out to be a blessing.
If we hadn't had a homebased business at the time, I don't know what would've happened. We went to see if we qualified for welfare, but they told us we would have to sign a document stating we would have to pay back the $ at 4%. Still can't understand that one.So we said thanks but no thanks. His job still covered him with insurance so at least the bills on that end were paid.

After his radiation was over with we flew down to Ft Lauderdale for a rest with his parents and of course we took the kids to WDW. Best thing we ever did.I think it was the trip the kids actually both remembered after having to go thru a long 4 years of his medical issues.

We moved down her in 86 and unfortunately the tumor came back with a vengence and he had a really serious operation in 2004 which left him partially disabled.So I am now the main earner in the family.He fortunately gets disability. I work in Customer service and always worry about my job.It would be devastating if anything happens to my income.

But sometimes you need a break. We are going on our 4th DCL cruise next month.It is the only thing that calms us down.3 days of being taken care of and not having to worry is worth every penny.Those days in 82 were really tough. I learned how to connect with many agencies that year for temporary help.There was an agency back then it think it was called heap? Anyway they dropped 50 gal of oil in my hometank so I could heat the home while he was in the hospital. There were so many more and now with the internet,you should try to apply for everything you can.

I had really great neighbors who really stepped up to the plate and took care of the kids for us those 3 weeks and really helped out more than they could imagine.In spite of it all, we are in a better place now and don't ever look back at what could've been. We try to enjoy everyday and are thankful for what we have.

 

[lisaross]

you seem like a really strong person! Good for you taking time out to enjoy your family!

I was going to try to apply for food stamps, but it stats you cannot have any $ in your 401k!

Thank god we are doing ok........

so let me ask you, did you ever get out of debt?

lisa