Laws regarding public breastfeeding

[Lisa loves Pooh]

My comparison (and you got me before the edit that discrimination is not legally accurate here) was only to show that using the "it's legal get over it" mentality, IMO, is just as obnoxious. People only seem to use that method of thinking towards breast feeding mothers. I don't see why a little discretion and/or consideration for those around you is off base. It's not as if saying, "yeah. Show boating because you can is kind of obnoxious" means your anti-breast feeding. There is a middle ground, IMO.

You didn't call anyone a tyrant, but that's definitely the vibe some posters are putting off. I didn't mention Family Dollar so I don't know if you're thinking of my examples or someone else's.

Reminding people of something that isn't happening in thread isn't really necessary.

Mommy, why are those two men holding hands? (Mortified mommy-I wish they would do that more discretely or in private.)

Mommy, why are those two women kissing? (Mortified mommy-I wish they would do that more discretely or in private.)

Mommy, what is that lady doing with her baby? (Mortified mommy-I wish they would do that more discretely or in private.)

(The only obnoxious attitude, are those who feel they can legislate their comfort at the risk of others doing what they were born to do.)
(Apologies on family dollar-was trying to place your other scenario and for some reason, that was the location I recalled.)

 

[aaarcher86]

People chewing with their mouth open, especially with noises, disgusts me. Perhaps we should ban that too.

Where did I mention banning anything? Let alone breast feeding?

Keep fighting the good fight with those conclusions you're jumping to.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Where did I mention banning anything? Let alone breast feeding?

Keep fighting the good fight with those conclusions you're jumping to.
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Don't think you are trying to ban.

Trying to suggest a subjective restriction for your comfort level...I do gather that from your posts.

 

[aaarcher86]

Mommy, why are those two men holding hands? (Mortified mommy-I wish they would do that more discretely or in private.)

Mommy, why are those two women kissing? (Mortified mommy-I wish they would do that more discretely or in private.)

Mommy, what is that lady doing with her baby? (Mortified mommy-I wish they would do that more discretely or in private.)

(The only obnoxious attitude, are those who feel they can legislate their comfort at the risk of others doing what they were born to do.)
(Apologies on family dollar-was trying to place your other scenario and for some reason, that was the location I recalled.)

Sure, but it's not discriminating to wish someone would do something differently.

And again, you can compare all you like to a lady breast feeding but that's not what I'm talking about.

More like, "mommy, why isn't that lady wearing a shirt?" And I really don't have an answer for that. Why are you just sitting on a bench with your other boob hanging out?

 

[sunshinehighway]

My comparison (and you got me before the edit that discrimination is not legally accurate here) was only to show that using the "it's legal get over it" mentality, IMO, is just as obnoxious. People only seem to use that method of thinking towards breast feeding mothers. I don't see why a little discretion and/or consideration for those around you is off base. It's not as if saying, "yeah. Show boating because you can is kind of obnoxious" means your anti-breast feeding. There is a middle ground, IMO.

You didn't call anyone a tyrant, but that's definitely the vibe some posters are putting off. I didn't mention Family Dollar so I don't know if you're thinking of my examples or someone else's.

Reminding people of something that isn't happening in thread isn't really necessary.

I agree with you. There is a huge middle ground between being completely anti breast feeding and thinking it's fine to be shirtless in Target.
Often these stories we hear about are women how were either looking for a problem or just being completely inconsiderate of other around them.
The women who sat on the floors in Target and I party, come to mind. There was a lack of consideration for everyone else in those stores by doing that. That was the real problem.
People love to throw out that " would you eat in a bathroom" argument. Nope, but I wouldn't eat on the floor in a store either.

 

[aaarcher86]

Don't think you are trying to ban.

Trying to suggest a subjective restriction for your comfort level...I do gather that from your posts.

I have a pretty low threshold on appropriateness. Having a little courtesy and discretion in all avenues? Yeah. I'll stick by that.

 

[marmalade]

Sure, but it's not discriminating to wish someone would do something differently.

And again, you can compare all you like to a lady breast feeding but that's not what I'm talking about.

More like, "mommy, why isn't that lady wearing a shirt?" And I really don't have an answer for that. Why are you just sitting on a bench with your other boob hanging out?

Maybe if we as parents answered that question with the correct answer "She is feeding her baby", our kids won't grow up with such a negative attitude towards public breastfeeding?

 

[Happy Snowman]

When those 70 yo people were young new parents, segregation was alive and well. Should we respect their disdain if a person of color walked into the office?

Breastfeeding is not indecent exposure.

I can keep things covered. But let's not pretend the prudish world is okay with this. See below.



Understand that your comparison is ridiculous. In every sense.

So, in other words, since it doesn't offend YOUR sensibility to have people flashing boobs in public means it should be ok with everyone else??? Like I said, respect goes both ways....good you can keep things covered--not everyone does and that is who we are talking about...

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

So, in other words, since it doesn't offend YOUR sensibility to have people flashing boobs in public means it should be ok with everyone else??? Like I said, respect goes both ways....good you can keep things covered--not everyone does and that is who we are talking about...

I think you are exaggerating.

The fact that people are bothered by the simple knowledge that someone is breastfeeding indicates where the problem is.

If it upsets you so much, you are welcome to carry a blanket with you and cover accordingly.

 

[aaarcher86]

Maybe if we as parents answered that question with the correct answer "She is feeding her baby", our kids won't grow up with such a negative attitude towards public breastfeeding?

Well, that's what she was doing with her other boob. My kids aren't strangers to breast feeding. I don't see why it entails the unused boob to be on display?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I have a pretty low threshold on appropriateness. Having a little courtesy and discretion in all avenues? Yeah. I'll stick by that.

Okay. Fair enough. Gay people cannot hold hands or kids in public. They need to be courteous and discrete.

Would you agree with that?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Sure, but it's not discriminating to wish someone would do something differently.

And again, you can compare all you like to a lady breast feeding but that's not what I'm talking about.

More like, "mommy, why isn't that lady wearing a shirt?" And I really don't have an answer for that. Why are you just sitting on a bench with your other boob hanging out?

I don't see the epidemic and always amazed that this tends to be usually observed by those who feel they can put parameters on their comfort.

Odd that we haven't noticed these shirtless public breastfeeding women.

 

[marmalade]

Well, that's what she was doing with her other boob. My kids aren't strangers to breast feeding. I don't see why it entails the unused boob to be on display?

I must have missed that part in the article?

 

[Happy Snowman]

I think you are exaggerating.

The fact that people are bothered by the simple knowledge that someone is breastfeeding indicates where the problem is.

If it upsets you so much, you are welcome to carry a blanket with you and cover accordingly.

Boy, you have a knack for twisting words.....no one here, me included, has said they are bothered by public breastfeeding....we are bothered by those that made a grand show of doing so. A little discretion is all that anyone has asked for...

 

[bcla]

Men show their breasts all the time. Why is that allowed? Heck, even encouraged. I don't get the hysteria over the same body part on women. And, we are one of the only countries (aside from Muslim countries) where this hysteria over breasts exists. You won't find this level of concern anywhere in Europe.

Actually, in most Muslim countries there really isn't so so much concern over nipples being shown. I've heard about breastfeeding mothers in such countries doing so in public places. In some cases they were far more worried that the feeding baby was tugging on a head covering than that a nipple was showing.

Granted "Muslim country" is a rather broad term. Some majority Muslim countries are theoretically secular societies, while others are theocracies. We know there are some where any woman in public must be completely covered, while in others it's customary for a woman to wear a hijab or chador, but not necessarily required by law or as a virtual societal requirement.

 

[marmalade]

I don't see the epidemic and always amazed that this tends to be usually observed by those who feel they can put parameters on their comfort.

Odd that we haven't noticed these shirtless public breastfeeding women.

I have seen lots of women breastfeeding, I have yet to encounter one that wasn't discreet when they were out in public. Now when they are in the privacy of their own home, that's another story.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I must have missed that part in the article?

It is an anectdote from her personal experience.

Oh--and these anectdotes are often used to explain and justify stories such as that in the article because the mother simply MUST have been doing something indiscrete to draw attention to herself.

You know how those show boaters can be.

I hope these folks don't go to Disney. It is a regular breastfeeding nipple exposure free for all.

 

[aaarcher86]

Okay. Fair enough. Gay people cannot hold hands or kids in public. They need to be courteous and discrete.

Would you agree with that?

I don't see where holding hands or kissing is comparable, but okay.

And using a gay couple is a nice touch, but I don't want to see a gay couple or a straight couple eating each other's faces and dry humping.

But let's use this. I can see the difference between hand holding and kissing versus hardcore make out sessions/full body rub downs. I can also see the difference between a breast feeding mother sitting at Olive Garden in a nursing dress (that was used here, right?) breast feeding her baby versus a lady in Meijer fully on display and a battle to win.

I don't see why you can't see the difference.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Boy, you have a knack for twisting words.....no one here, me included, has said they are bothered by public breastfeeding....we are bothered by those that made a grand show of doing so. A little discretion is all that anyone has asked for...

We aren't bothered--but just be discrete.

Isn't this the justification for ostracizing gay people. We aren't bothered. Just be a little more private about it. It's natural to cover it up.

I too missed the grand show in the article. What did the mom do?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I don't see where holding hands or kissing is comparable, but okay.

And using a gay couple is a nice touch, but I don't want to see a gay couple or a straight couple eating each other's faces and dry humping.

But let's use this. I can see the difference between hand holding and kissing versus hardcore make out sessions/full body rub downs. I can also see the difference between a breast feeding mother sitting at Olive Garden in a nursing dress (that was used here, right?) breast feeding her baby versus a lady in Meijer fully on display and a battle to win.

I don't see why you can't see the difference.

So breastfeeding is tantamount to making out aggressively? Dry humping?

And you don't understand why folks would take exception with that?

And the difference? You compare it to sexual acts and foreplay. Yeah, I can see how they are one and the same.