Last one to post........... Part 30

[eeyoresmountainpals]

I just don't understand I would be so hurt if my mom wasn't there when i got married, even if it was on the court house steps! you have to remember Kathy, that you are an AMAZING mom! your boys are proof of that! you have a great family how loves the heck outta you and you have us who love the heck outta you too!! no matter why she's doing it, she's the one who is gonna have to deal with it in the end. it's just sad that when she realizes what a mistake she's made there may be too many hurt feelings. I really hope she realizes what she's doing not only to you and Al, but to the boys too

I know that someday she'll look back and she'll have regrets. Even if the marriage lasts she's always going to have the regret of not having the wedding she wants and I hope someday she'll regret the way she's treated DH, her brothers and I.

Andrew overheard a lot of my conversation on the phone with her this morning and he was upset. He's not upset over anything to do with her, he's upset because she's upset me so much. He said, "Don't worry, Matthew and A.J. and I will never do anything like that to hurt you so bad." It's really sad 'cause I think he's just about totally written her off as a sister. Andrew and Matthew weren't all that close anyway when she moved away to college because Andrew was only 10 and Matthew was only 9. And during high school she didn't try to be much of a big sister to them anyway. She has always been close to A.J. though and that has changed a lot too.

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

Kathy I am so sorry..............

Thanks!

 

[trappednabox]

I know that someday she'll look back and she'll have regrets. Even if the marriage lasts she's always going to have the regret of not having the wedding she wants and I hope someday she'll regret the way she's treated DH, her brothers and I.

Andrew overheard a lot of my conversation on the phone with her this morning and he was upset. He's not upset over anything to do with her, he's upset because she's upset me so much. He said, "Don't worry, Matthew and A.J. and I will never do anything like that to hurt you so bad." It's really sad 'cause I think he's just about totally written her off as a sister. Andrew and Matthew weren't all that close anyway when she moved away to college because Andrew was only 10 and Matthew was only 9. And during high school she didn't try to be much of a big sister to them anyway. She has always been close to A.J. though and that has changed a lot too.

you know, I really don't know what to think about it anymore. I just don't understand at all, I can only imagine how it's making you feel! I really hope she's not gonna pull the Let's just act like nothing happend and nothing is the matter bull. If you're gonna be an adult act like one and take responsibility for what you did and who you hurt! I really hope she atleast has the decency to come and talk to AJ about it and have him understand

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

Yup it is getting hard but I think it will all work out in the end
at least I hope it will

At least it does look like it's all nearing the end. I hope it works out. I know some people are upset but I also know that the webmaster and the judges and the moderators have put a lot of time and effort into it. People need to just step back and realize that it is a game!!!

but I can't say anything publiclly

Oh, I know that! And would never expect you to say anything.


If they ever have the game again they should consider doing it like the last one, with no prizes. So people just play for the fun of playing!

Good luck.

 

[trappednabox]

At least it does look like it's all nearing the end. I hope it works out. I know some people are upset but I also know that the webmaster and the judges and the moderators have put a lot of time and effort into it. People need to just step back and realize that it is a game!!!


Oh, I know that! And would never expect you to say anything.


If they ever have the game again they should consider doing it like the last one, with no prizes. So people just play for the fun of playing!

Good luck.

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

you know, I really don't know what to think about it anymore. I just don't understand at all, I can only imagine how it's making you feel! I really hope she's not gonna pull the Let's just act like nothing happend and nothing is the matter bull. If you're gonna be an adult act like one and take responsibility for what you did and who you hurt! I really hope she atleast has the decency to come and talk to AJ about it and have him understand

She won't. That's just not her style.

As far a DH and I are concerned....here's how I expect it to play out...she'll call and say they got married...and then she won't call for a few days (which will kill me)...and then either she'll call or I'll give in and call her and she'll be all happy and act like nothing has changed.

And once they're married DH and I have decided that we will give her a wedding gift. I will take her shopping for things for the kitchen in their apartment. (By the way, did I tell you that she will be moving into his apartment??? Not a bad idea...but I do have a problem with the fact that he has a roommate! It won't be their apartment really!) Anyway, I'll give her the choice of coming up here where we have a few outlets or I'll go down there and we'll pick out stuff for the kitchen - and then she can go home to her nice cozy apartment.

DH and I don't plan to cut ties with her but if she does go through with this it will never be the same with us. We'll always be here for her but.....

And I really don't think BF wants anything to do with her family or wants her to have anything to do with her family so I know that will change the relationship we have with her too.

I did try to make sure she understood the financial impact too. She's losing her health insurance, she's losing her dental insurance, and she's losing her family's financial help 'cause once she's married she's on her own. We're not bailing her out of her financial short-falls (which she has plenty of). And neither of them are in a position to have a job with benefits so they're not going to have health insurance for quite a while.

Sorry - just venting again.

 

[kaylajr]

Sorry - just venting again.

Vent away That is what we are here for
I am sorry I haven't been a good friend and been here thru it all for you
this is the first I have heard of it all and I feel so bad for you

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

Vent away That is what we are here for

Thanks!

I am sorry I haven't been a good friend and been here thru it all for you
this is the first I have heard of it all and I feel so bad for you

That's okay. I know you've been busy with work and the game. Hopefully once the game is over you'll have more time for LTP!

 

[kaylajr]

well I gotta go the kids are home on break and HUNGRY

talk to you all later

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

well I gotta go the kids are home on break and HUNGRY

talk to you all later

See ya later! Stop by here more often!

 

[Lyn5]

Morning everyone -I've had a busy busy week!!!! We go House Hunting today - looking at 5 houses and we should be making an offer sometime next week for a closing June 1st!!!!

All pre-approved and getting excited to go look at our prospects!!!!

 

[Lyn5]

it's just kinda strange b/c i'm not close to them at all, but they did share all the family gossip with me as soon as I got there

was it about you? j/k

 

[Lyn5]

DD called a little while ago to let me know that they're going to the magistrate's office today to get married.

How romantic...go to class, get married, go to work. (Of course she wasted no time reminding me that they wouldn't be doing it this way if DH and I hadn't "pulled the rug out from under them" as far as having a real wedding. And although in my heart I don't believe that 'cause they still had plenty of time to plan a real wedding - they just no longer had our financing - it still hurt to hear her say that.)

I guess it really is Friday the 13th after all.

oh no, those comments were uncalled for...I am so sorry Kathy, I wish there was a way to ease your hurt

 

[trappednabox]

was it about you? j/k

no!! it was about each other. it was really funny, b/c I got there and said my hellos, and we sat down and they started talking about the family that wasn't there. So we talked for about an hour, and the rest of them get there and they asked me if I wanted to go downstairs to the vending machine room with them and they all start telling me their side of it and all the gossip avbout everyone else so I eventually got both sides of the story

 

[Tigger By The Tail]

was it about you? j/k

Yikes!!


They really need to move the teeth guy back to the front page.

 

[Lyn5]

That's the way I always was with my mom! Wish she was here to talk to through all of this.

this is my in real life right now --->

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

oh no, those comments were uncalled for...I am so sorry Kathy, I wish there was a way to ease your hurt

Thanks Lyn.

She'll never know how much she's hurt us until she has children of her own.

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

no!! it was about each other. it was really funny, b/c I got there and said my hellos, and we sat down and they started talking about the family that wasn't there. So we talked for about an hour, and the rest of them get there and they asked me if I wanted to go downstairs to the vending machine room with them and they all start telling me their side of it and all the gossip avbout everyone else so I eventually got both sides of the story

 

[eeyoresmountainpals]

Yikes!!


They really need to move the teeth guy back to the front page.

(And the yes man too!)

 

[Lyn5]

you know, I really don't know what to think about it anymore. I just don't understand at all, I can only imagine how it's making you feel! I really hope she's not gonna pull the Let's just act like nothing happend and nothing is the matter bull. If you're gonna be an adult act like one and take responsibility for what you did and who you hurt! I really hope she atleast has the decency to come and talk to AJ about it and have him understand

ITA

you know, my sister went from engaged to married in under 4 weeks (old fashion, rushing reasons ) and she had a simple, elegant church wedding with a lunch reception...just the more immediate family members...all within the budget she had. It really can be done if that is what someone wants....they chose to go this way.