
thanks everyone for the adivce and prayers...I read back, but it isn't so easy for me to talk to my Sis, I think it will make things worse...she wasn't always like this...but has become this way in the last several years

I don't want to continue to bore everyone...but the situation is that my Sis bought a vacant property next door to my parents, sold her house and moved in w/ my parents (with her DH and kids) and my family is building the house ourselves (my Dad retired from construction)...so, on the weekends when I go I cook for everyone and watch the kids (to give my Mom a break) and DH helps with the house. My sister hangs out w/ the guys outside or does small jobs....she doesn't help my Mom w/ the cleaning, etc. as I think she should (basically my Mom does everything, including their laundary working long hours 4 days a week and my sister works parttime...much less hours and less stressful job than my Mom). So, this weekend one of her girls was sick...stomach thing and asthma...and on Sunday, instead of
taking care of her child or helping my Mom...she spent 4 hours looking at kitchen cabinents

and left the girl with my DBil and Dad who were working on the house. There is more to it....but I am at my wits end with her. I told my DH to not help her is she called him....she has a DH and for one weekend they could stop work and take care of the family needs...her priorities are so screwed up right now....they are building a monster of a house...well over 5000 sf,
very custom, I don't understand what the point is....her family doesn't get the attention they need, my Dad has since gotten high blood pressure (180+ over something I can't remember), my Mom is in the hospital....I feel like I am dealing with someone with an addiction..........
I checked on my Mom this morning before work...she was looking better, but her blood count dropped. I am hoping they will keep her in the hospital longer. I am going to skip lunch and leave work early to check on her....
Sorry for the long vent