Large families

[minkydog]

Yes, I agree. People need to know their limits. Very well said. So nobody needs to paint all families, large or small, with the same brush. If I did that in regards to small families, I apologize. It is just that I am always having to defend my decision to have six kids and I get very tired of it. My kids are healthy, happy, and well taken care of (and not by their siblings!).

Um, I don't think anyone here really cares how many children you have, so you can stop being defensive now.

 

[Plannin'Shannon]

Yes, I agree. People need to know their limits. Very well said. So nobody needs to paint all families, large or small, with the same brush. If I did that in regards to small families, I apologize. It is just that I am always having to defend my decision to have six kids and I get very tired of it. My kids are healthy, happy, and well taken care of (and not by their siblings!).

That road runs in both directions. I am an only child, and the amount of sheer ignorance and downright rude comments my parents dealt with is ridiculous. The bigger issue is, why should anyone have to "defend" their choice to have one, six, or zero children?

 

[Indiana Rose Lee]

My husband comes from a large family and wanted to have one also. We have had 8 kids, 1 who passed. He is close to his family, and thus far, mine are close to one another. I guess it comes down to personality and parenting.

 

[dogluva]

Um, I don't think anyone here really cares how many children you have, so you can stop being defensive now.

Um, I don't think anyone cares how many you have either and you explained your decision to only have three pretty clearly (should we care?). I was not meaning "here" really, just in my real world. By the way are you rude like this in your real world?

 

[dogluva]

That road runs in both directions. I am an only child, and the amount of sheer ignorance and downright rude comments my parents dealt with is ridiculous. The bigger issue is, why should anyone have to "defend" their choice to have one, six, or zero children?

I don't know but I find myself having to do this a great deal.

 

[Pigeon]

Um, I don't think anyone cares how many you have either and you explained your decision to only have three pretty clearly (should we care?). I was not meaning "here" really, just in my real world. By the way are you rude like this in your real world?

Ahhh, you keep maintaining that I need therapy because my parents couldn't stop breeding.

Are you rude like this in your real world?

 

[dogluva]

Ahhh, you keep maintaining that I need therapy because my parents couldn't stop breeding.

Are you rude like this in your real world?

In my real world I try to give helpful advice to those who need it.

 

[C.Ann]

This is clearly one of those situations where there is no right or wrong.. Adults have the right to choose how many - or how few - children they will have - and that's exactly the way it should be.. There are "happy" children who were from large families, medium families, small families, and only children - as I'm sure there are some who were not happy..

I guess I don't understand how people think that their individual experience would apply to everyone else - or why they would even suggest such a thing.. No matter how many children we have, I'm sure we all do our best to love them and provide for them - to the best of our ability - right? Can't ask for more than that..