Ladies - what is the oldest you would feel comfortable getting pregnant?

[Piecey]

My personal cutoff is 25.
DH and I both want our children close together. If we choose to have another, we'll start TTC next June which is the earliest my OB says I should get pregnant. If I had issues getting pregnant again, we would stop TTC when I am 24. More then 3 years apart is too much for us.

DS was a wonderful surprise but he came a lot earlier than expected which has changed our original plans quite a bit.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

I'd say early 40's. I have only one friend who had a baby in her twenties. Most of my friends and family went to college/grad school/law school/med school and spent their twenties in school, starting their careers, traveling around the world, and having fun times.

I think that women who feel too old in their thirties, are tired from already having spent years raising kids or are just plain out of shape. I'm 36, pregnant with our first child and feel great. I'll be 37 when I'm due, and expect to try for a second baby within the next year or so. If we are blessed with a baby in my early forties, even better.

Older moms are the norm in my neighborhood, so I don't feel out of place at all, and I doubt if my child will ever think anything of it.

I expect to be around 60 when the kids are grown. If genetics is on my side, I will have many years still to live, as my grandparents and greatparents lived to be in their late 80's - 104. All lived at home till they passed away, mostly independent with some housekeeping help.

 

[Disney Ron]

40 is my cutoff. I delivered DS when I was 37, and just recently had DD at 40. No more babies for us our wonderful family is complete.

Mrs. Disney Ron

 

[zachnsamsmommy]

May I add something a little OT to those starting your families at 35 or later... (not bad, I promise )...

If you aren't pg within 6 months (not 1 yr)...see your OB or an RE. The 1 yr standard is for women 35 or younger. Trust me, getting pg after 35 or 40 isn't always as easy as the movie stars make it seem. Your fertility starts to decrease (even if just a little) at 30.

And I don't see anything wrong with having a baby at 40...I just set my cutoff at 37 so my kids wouldn't be such a drastic age difference.

GL to all those ttc...

 

[sbell111]

I think that there are two ways that people are answering the OP's question.

One is 'How old is too old to have a child?'
The other is 'How old is too old to have ANOTHER child?'

Many of the people who are answering are giving some version of "I already have three kids, so I don't want to be older and having children."

This is much different than the scenarion that many people find themselves in: They are X years old and don't have children yet. Are they too old?

 

[sbell111]

... GL to all those ttc...

Green Lantern to all those Transportation and Ticket Center

 

[ckoncurat]

I had my last baby at 38, and I felt great. I was really suprised to be considered over the hill by doctors. I chose not to have a baby after 40.

 

[MomofKatie]

For me personally, the cutoff age was 35. I was 32 when DD was born, and was briefly pregnant when I was 35 (I had a very early miscarriage). I'm now 43, and couldn't imagine being pregnant again.

 

[brunette8706]

I was 26 when I finished having my own kids.

I'm 37 now, and currently pregnant for a couple who are in their mid 40s. I've also had 4 other babies for couples in their mid 40s. I'm obviously comfortable with that.

So, mid to late 40s would probably be my cut-off. I might work with a couple in their early 50s, if they had the right spirit/health/lifestyle.

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[tigercat]

I was a young parent. Had 4 kids by the time I was 24 and had my 1st dgrkd at 38. I know myself I was glad that I had them young but I know of others that have had them when they were older and were fine. I think that everyone is different and are able to handle things differently. I do feel though that having a child in your 60's is too old.
tigercat

 

[Pomlover2586]

I would assume 35......I wan to be a young mom and am hoping to have my first by 25-27. But I wouldn't want to be over 35. JMHO

 

[STLDisney_Freak]

I would not want to have children any time after DH or I turn 35. It is the cutoff for both of us which we reached because we aren't having anymore.

 

[Mom2Nick]

When most women your age are grandma's then it's too old. My BIL's sister had her kids - twins - at the age of 46. That IMO is way too freaking old.

 

[Feralpeg]

I had my daughter when I was 36. I was always the oldest Mommy at things like dance lessons, school parties, etc. Most of the moms were in their twenties. Now, more people are putting off having their children until later, so it probably wouldn't be such a big deal.

 

[tonilea]

Well.... my answer has changed several times over the years. I hoped to have children in my twenties, so thirty was pushing it..... No luck, so then thirties were okay. Now, I am thirty nine and want another so badly, but I also struggle with "how old is too old". Probably 41 or 42.... but that is subject to change as well, I suppose.

 

[pixiegoose]

We don't have kids yet but if this little sprout sticks (I'm 6w2d) I'll be 26 when he/she's born. I'd want to be done having kids when I'm around 35 or so. That could always change, of course, based on circumstances but that's what I'm thinking now.

 

[Sorsha]

My youngest was born when I was 30 - almost 31.

I, personally, wouldn't want to have babies when I was any older than that. By the time youngest DD is out of the house and well on her own - 20-ish - I will be 50, and DH will be 55.

It may sound selfish, but I want to be able to enjoy my empty-nest years. DH and I want to retire early, and travel. We want to be RVers and get out there and see the world. I want to be young enough, and in good enough health, to enjoy my life. If I were to have kept having babies till I was 40 or so, we would have been in our 60's instead of our 50's when the last child moved out. Dh is 5 years older then me, so this is especially important to him. He vehemently did NOT want to be dealing with teenagers in his 60's.

Another factor was that I wanted to be able to enjoy my future grandchildren. My mom was a very young grandma (40 when oldest DD was born) and has always had such a wonderful, active relationship with her grandchildren. I would like to be like her, and not the kind of grandma who seems old and feeble to her grandkids.

 

[AngieBelle]

I'm hoping to not be much beyond 30 when I have my first, but I'm flexible if it doesn't work out that way. I'm 27 right now...and it still blows my mind that I'm even old enough to have children! When people ask me if I have kids, I still think "Me??" but then I remember- oh yeah, many people my age have kids. I'm going to my 10 yr high school reunion this year and so many I've seen through facebook have families now. It's wild!

My parents were 32 and 34 when I was born- my friends' parents were mostly younger than mine. I'm really hoping that I have children soon enough that they are able to know my parents. I had lost all of my grandparents by the time I was 8, and I always felt that was so unfair.

 

[mnrose]

For me, it was the absolute perfect time to have children. DH and I were dinks (double income, no kids) for our twenties and thirties, and traveled extensively during this time. We had amazing vacations which would have been impossible to do with children, and we did them when we were young and carefree. Perfect. We got all that out of our system, and went into parenthood with no regrets. Plus, we were (and are) very financially secure, something that many parents in their younger years are not. My husband and I (at 51) would run circles around people two decades younger than us. I work out (daily) for 90 minutes, both aerobics and weights. My "body fitness" age is somewhere in the low 30's. My husband is a loader for UPS. Its a job that burns out many people in their 20's and 30's, but he has no problem with it, and has yet to miss a day of work due to illness or injury.

My *only* regret about waiting to have children until later is that it is MUCH harder for most women to get pregnant after age 40. It costs us considerable money and emotional turmoil for us to have our children, the joy of our lives.

I know for a fact that I'm a better parent now than I would have been in my 20's. There is no single correct answer that fits everyone. I did what was best for me, and as a result my children are reaping the benefits of a happy, content mother. That, I think, is what is best for any child.

 

[PaulaSue]

I was 32 when I had my last baby. Now I am 38 and I am in the best shape of my life. (lost a ton of wieght a few year ago) If I could, I would have a baby and prob be healthier than before and have a much better time of it.