Ladies of the board...I need your help

[agame2323]

I have a serious Disney problem on my hands and I need some female advice. My girlfriend and I have gone to Disney 2 years in a row. (May 06 and 07) Next year I would love to go and do it again. My money situation will have improved (God willing) and we can do things better than we did the previous 2 years. The problem is she does not want to go back. I can’t seem to get her to even consider it. Her thing is we should go somewhere else because we just did Disney two years in a row. In fact she’s saying the next time we go back is when we have kids! Do you know how long that might be? I need something to convince her that going back next year is a good thing. Ladies, how many of you agree with her? How do your husbands or boyfriends get you to return to WDW if you don’t want to go? I need to start planting the seed now, so suggestions…please!

 

[stitchlover]

Have you considered going to Disneyland instead? Or combining the trip to WDW with a cruise?
I don't know what I would do if my spouse suddenly decided he didn't like to go. In fact we talk about what trips will be like when our daughter isn't living at home anymore. We like the idea of being able to travel during the school year since we haven't been able to do that. Mind you our daughter is 12...those days are not anytime soon!
Good Luck to you!

 

[Us3]

Here is my suggestion Get the planning video and sit down and watch it...maybe that will "stir up" some of those exciting Disney feelings. Maybe suggest a resort that you know she would LOVE to stay at? Perhaps do a combo land/cruise stay? Maybe suggest that you guys attend during the F&W Festival or at Christmas time? Pick what *she* loves most about Disney and build up the idea from there!

Good luck and let us know how it goes!

Sonya

 

[Creekermom]

Why doesn't she want to go?
Maybe you can pick a time like FRee DDP to go and that will save you some $
well a lot actually.

Is there a possibility that she thought you might propose and didn't. I hope I am not out of line but I am just wondering why she doesn't want to go back.

IF you can find that out that might help... I like the comment above mine about the Disney Planning Video... and start watching anything with Disney in it.

My DH said he didn't want to go 2 yrs in a row but after our first time just a few weeks ago he says he can't wait to go back!

I wow'ed him!

I feel bad for you.... don't give up!

 

[Kaler131]

Would she consider maybe doing Disney a few days then going to Universal and Sea World for the other haf of the trip?

 

[ILoveMagic]

I have a serious Disney problem on my hands and I need some female advice. My girlfriend and I have gone to Disney 2 years in a row. (May 06 and 07) Next year I would love to go and do it again. My money situation will have improved (God willing) and we can do things better than we did the previous 2 years. The problem is she does not want to go back. I can’t seem to get her to even consider it. Her thing is we should go somewhere else because we just did Disney two years in a row. In fact she’s saying the next time we go back is when we have kids! Do you know how long that might be? I need something to convince her that going back next year is a good thing. Ladies, how many of you agree with her? How do your husbands or boyfriends get you to return to WDW if you don’t want to go? I need to start planting the seed now, so suggestions…please!

I have the opposite problem.............my husband has no desire.......i have never been able to convince him.......he is the type of person once you do convince him he will have a blast. Its the convincing part. So now i go and take my DD (10) and live it all through him! It makes for a great vacation!

 

[ibelieveinmagic]

maybe you can spice it up a bit add a massage, maybe a firework cruise, a few dinners dinner at some of the better restauraunts go to the beach a few days.......... good luck!!!

 

[DizneyNutz]

I have a serious Disney problem on my hands and I need some female advice. My girlfriend and I have gone to Disney 2 years in a row. (May 06 and 07) Next year I would love to go and do it again. My money situation will have improved (God willing) and we can do things better than we did the previous 2 years. The problem is she does not want to go back. I can’t seem to get her to even consider it. Her thing is we should go somewhere else because we just did Disney two years in a row. In fact she’s saying the next time we go back is when we have kids! Do you know how long that might be? I need something to convince her that going back next year is a good thing. Ladies, how many of you agree with her? How do your husbands or boyfriends get you to return to WDW if you don’t want to go? I need to start planting the seed now, so suggestions…please!

But I am just curious have you been commando touring during your previous trips? You need to mix in some visiting the shops, special dining reservations, seeing the shows, etc. DW had never been before our first trip together and myself since childhood. We both love each experience we share together there, but don't look at WDW as an amusement park per se! You need to experience all it has to offer and take more of an all encompassing touring approach! We are now DVC owners and DW counts down the days until our next trip. We share in our touring plans and try to incoporate things we haven't experienced yet into each trip along with enjoying our favorites.

 

[Kaler131]

I have the opposite problem.............my husband has no desire.......i have never been able to convince him.......he is the type of person once you do convince him he will have a blast. Its the convincing part. So now i go and take my DD (10) and live it all through him! It makes for a great vacation!

I feel your pain....LOL! It takes me a LOT of convincing to get my DH to agree to go. In fact, I have been without him on the last three trips there. He has not been with us there since my now DS7 was 2! I think that I have FINALLY gotten him convinced to go with us in Dec. 08! I just told him that the kids are only going to be youn for a short time and he should really be there to enjoy it the way I do. He always has a GREAT time when he gets there, just getting him there is always a chore.

 

[KJ Luvs Pluto]

I have a husband who didn't want to go back. I was desperate to visit again. The first trip I planned things that I knew he would enjoy so that a return visit would be more palatable (didn't seem to work). So I suggested to him that I make a solo visit. He didn't like that idea either until I showed him research I had done here on the boards that it would be safe, etc. etc. Anyway... after making all of my reservations, he decided to go with me - my plan worked . Actually a solo trip would have been great and I didn't really plan for him to change his mind and come along. But I'm glad he decided to join me. But, if she thinks you might go without her maybe she will change her mind. Might be worth a shot.

 

[HARASW]

I have gone to WDW with my family 10 years in a row. None of us would consider going anywhere else on our once a year vacation. We find that each year, there is something new to see or do, or we find things that we missed the last time we were there. I don't want to travel outside of the US or very far, for that matter, and WDW is perfect. It's clean, safe, family oriented and the perfect place for anyone at any age to either relax or run around and go wild. Plus, there is so much more to do in Orlando. Why not stay at WDW and take a day trip here or there to a museum or another park. A great choice would be Discovery Cove. My daughter and I got to swim with dolphins. Actually, this year, my daughter and I did the Dolphins in Depth tour at Epcot and it was just as much fun, but we were still able to stay within Disney grounds and use their transportation to get around. There are so many tours available, that I am just finding out about, after all of these years. Call Disney and ask about them. Some are more affordable than others. Good Luck!

 

[Mkrop]

I think you need to figure out what SHE likes to do and then incorporate that into a trip. Is she a spa girl, look into the spa stuff at GF, adventuorus, maybe parasailing behind CR or Segway tour or horseback riding.

 

[Terk-1]

If you really want to go and your girlfriend does not, why not go solo? This way you know you'll have fun, you'll get to do what you want, when you want. You can dine where and when you want. You can do things that your girlfriend would not want to do.

 

[DisneyLaura]

I agree with a lot of what everyone has said already. I would find out if she would go for a couple of days at Disney and then Busch Gardens or Sea World for the rest of your vacation. I would go to WDW every year while DH is comforable going every 5 years, if that. He feels that he's seen enough. I say WHAT, I could never have enough Disney. Maybe you can plan special dinners, or mix it with a cruise. Make is more romantic for her. Good luck and keep us posted. I'm cheering for you.

 

[dburg30]

Does she like cruises? Maybe do a land and sea trip?

 

[eventsdj]

Not to be Debbie Downer, but DW will still be there if you skip a year.
Why don't you go where she wants to go this year?

My BFF and I went to New York in January 06 (awsome prices, and we had fabulous weather) and I would not trade that trip for the world.
Definately different than DW, but WHAT A BLAST!!!

 

[mvazul]

Not to be Debbie Downer, but DW will still be there if you skip a year.
Why don't you go where she wants to go this year?

My BFF and I went to New York in January 06 (awsome prices, and we had fabulous weather) and I would not trade that trip for the world.
Definately different than DW, but WHAT A BLAST!!!

I have to agree. A relationship is about compromise and not about forcing the other to do what you want to do all the time. I absolutely love Disney and would go every year if possible. My husband likes Disney but is happy with every five years or so. There are so many other places to go and see. Maybe compromise and go every other year and in between do some things your girlfriend would like to do. Who knows, maybe by her seeing you are willing to do what she wants, too, she may come around to wanting to do Disney more often.

Good luck!

 

[Disney Crazy Debbie]

I agree with compromise, it means alot to both parties. However, that doesn't mean you can't plan ahead and think about things like a land/sea package or do one your way. If you haven't checked out the DCL get on line and do so. When you cruise you can be as romantic or as "family" as you want. If you start planning ahead of time, say for vacation in '09 and you do something that she is particularly interested in this year maybe she'll recatch the spirit.