Ladies, how would you rate your DH (or SO) when it comes to ...

[Wishing on a star]

... being romantic.

This is inspired by the other rate your spouse threads!

Now, I am not talking just about candle-light dinners and flowers. We all know that this is just not the way many men are.

I know my DH loves me. But, I swear, sometimes I just wish my DH would have one little romantic, or sensitive, or communicative bone in his body!! LOL!!

How do you handle it if your DH is not really romantic, or 'in-tune' with you???

 

[NMAmy]

DH is totally romantic and "in tune" with me. Not huge gestures but he does little things for me every day.

Here's one that annoys the heck out of Mal. DH gets into bed before me and when the weather is cold, he will lie on my side of the bed so I don't have to get into cold sheets. It's really just so sweet.

He took a reflexology class and rubs my feet every day.

He does the dishes. He'll holler from the kitchen, "Hey, look how sexy I am!" because I told him there was nothing sexier than a man doing the dishes.

I don't think a husband needs to make huge, expensive romantic gestures--just the little things dh does every day to make my life sweeter are romantic enough for me--he gets a 10 in my book for effort. But I also make an effort to pamper him every chance I get. I think it's easier to give if you're on the receiving end from time to time.

Have you tried talking to your husband about it? Perhaps telling him he could start in small ways would make the whole thing less intimidating to him.

 

[Marseeya]

... being romantic.

This is inspired by the other rate your spouse threads!

Now, I am not talking just about candle-light dinners and flowers. We all know that this is just not the way many men are.

I know my DH loves me. But, I swear, sometimes I just wish my DH would have one little romantic, or sensitive, or communicative bone in his body!! LOL!!

How do you handle it if your DH is not really romantic, or 'in-tune' with you???

Actually, my DH is every bit as romantic as you've mentioned wiht the candlelit dinners, flowers, poems, music, etc. It used to get to be too much for me, but he's toned it down over the years. He's extremely romantic.

 

[missypie]

He remembers my birthday, our anniversary and Christmas. That's it. No romance, no little signs of affection. We're house mates and partners in raising the kids. (Note: That's exactly the way his parents are. I've NEVER heard FIL pay MIL a complement. But somehow, they've lasted 51 years.)

 

[Wishing on a star]

Hey, I am cracking up about being sexy doing the dishes!

Actually my DH does do the dishes quite often. I know he loves me! Not like we need a therapist right away!!! LOL! But, he is one of those guys who is just not into the whole sensitive/romantic/communicative thing at all.

Edited to add: Missypie, you have hit on something here. DH's dad, and his parents relationship, is just as you describe.

 

[tiff211]

DH doesn't isn't romantic at all. He does help out with the kids and make breakfast on the weekends occasionally. But as far as the real deal romance in a relationship, it ain't here. Maybe I'll tell him about this thread and get him to step up his game!

 

[SC Minnie]

DH trys to be romantic on special occasions. Other than that pretty much notta.

He does a lot of the things around the house and with DD but why shouldn't he??? I work outside the home more hours a week than he does so why is the household stuff only MY job???

 

[pearlieq]

My DH is many things, many wonderful things, but romantic is not really one of them.

It's not that he doesn't try, on occasion, but more often than not it's usually a misfire. It just doesn't fit on him. He reminds me of Vic Ferrari when he tries to slip into romantic mode, so I usually find it more comical and bizarre than romantic.

I think it's more romantic that DH worried incessantly until I finally broke down and bought a cell phone. That's more his style and feels more genuine.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

My DH doesn't do much as far as romantic meals, flowers, etc. He used to bring home flowers, but the cats we had at the time would get into the flowers. Our current cats wouldn't, but we also have 2 kittens and I'm sure they would.

But he does things above and beyond what I would expect him to do to help out, which is a true real showing of love. Lately he's been doing a lot to help since my migraines have been so bad. He'll especially help out with vacuuming, which hurts to do when my head is throbbing. So it's the atypical romantic stuff that he does, but sometimes it's easy to overlook those things since they don't scream romance.

 

[Rex Rules]

I would rate DH high - but not because of what is traditionally held as romantic such as flowers and such - at this point, I find it far more romantic that he folds the laundry or changes the linens on the bed.
Incidentally, I am making him a book for Christmas, I have been working on it all year long. I got one of those small pocket notebooks and every time I think of something that he does for me that I appreciate or something sweet, I write it down in the book. I have it about 3/4 of the way filled up and can't wait until Christmas to give it to him.

 

[lulugirl]

Dh is very romantic! Sadly, I am not at all romantic.
He recently asked me what I wanted to do for our anniversary, my response was......."oh, are we still celebrating that?"

 

[hiwaygal]

I refuse to let DH do the dishes!!! He simply does not comprehend how a dishwasher should be loaded! But he does unload it very well!

My DH is quite romantic...he gets up every morning to make my coffee and pack my lunch. And every day there is a little love note in my lunch box...I've pretty much got one for every day for the past two plus years.

He will do little things here and there...and remembers "special" days...

Guess I'm just really lucky!

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

My husband should write cards for Hallmark. He actually writes love notes every so often that are so beautiful.

On one of the worst work days ever, I called from work, said I was coming home, taking a bath and going to bed. Cranky I was! I wanted to talk to no one.

I get home, there are candles lit everywhere. He ran me a steaming bath - overflowing with rose petals. A glass of champagne and a new book by my favorite author. He helped me into the tub and then left me for an hour while I unwound.

I adore him

 

[Fredd's Girl]

I'm really not all that into candlelight dinners and flowers all the time.

I thank God everyday for my DFi (soon to be DH). He's not "traditionally" romantic I guess as far as that goes, but he does some really sweet stuff on a regular basis. He kisses me on the forhead as he's walking through the house and tells me he loves me, he sings little songs about how much he loves me and our puppies, and he will also sometimes follow up an "I love you" with "and I love our life together". That's pretty romantic if you ask me.

 

[missypie]

I refuse to let DH do the dishes!!! He simply does not comprehend how a dishwasher should be loaded! But he does unload it very well!

My DH is quite romantic...he gets up every morning to make my coffee and pack my lunch. And every day there is a little love note in my lunch box...I've pretty much got one for every day for the past two plus years.

He will do little things here and there...and remembers "special" days...

Guess I'm just really lucky!

I read a funny article one time about how unloading the dishwasher was the perfect household job for a man. It has a beginning and an end. No judgment is required.

 

[CharityLynn]

My husband buys me flowers evry once in a while, with absolutely no reason. It is usually roses, from 2 dozen to a single one. I just got a single rose last weekend, no reason just because. He is so sweet some times.

Last year for my birthday he set it up for us to stay at the nicest hotel around here, The Radisson. He even arranged a baby sitter. And when we checked in we were upgraded to a 1 bedroom suite, which had a whirlpool tub and a beautiful glass and granite shower. It was such a lovely thing for him to do, he knew the only thing I wanted was to spend my birthday with my husband. At the time we were only married for 3 months so it was a bit like a second honeymoon, very small and only one day but it was a ton of fun.

Edited: spelling...

 

[ZachnElli]

My dh is extremely romantic. He does it all love notes and poems, surprise dates and trips out of town, flowers, never forgets a birthday or anniversary and not shy with the poopy diapers either! I got lucky!

 

[MinnyGranny62]

Hmmmmm....had to think on this one. My DH isn't
all that romantic but do know that he loves me and does show it
in his way. I do always get a kiss goodnight even after
43 years.

 

[nwdisgal]

My DH isn't a flower and chocolate type. He is very romantic though in that he shows me lots of affection, and when he tells me he loves me (which is often) it is heartfelt. Plus, he gets out of bed every morning to bring me coffee. Finally, I am a big creative flake by nature (and proud of it ). He tells me that he wouldn't ever want to be with anyone else because with me, life is always interesting.

 

[Aurora63]

My DH is not romantic at all. Plus lately, he does nothing around the house, which is driving me crazy!!! If I had to choose, I'd rather he help me out more around the house than be traditionally romantic, as I work 40+ hrs. a week. But, I'd love to get a every once in awhile too. Still I know he cares about me, but could he pick up his socks once in awhile? I'd find that to be extremely romantic.