Kinda A Personal Question For The Guys (Girls can Read too)

[RitaZ.]

Also a "sore subject" for us. We have 3 children and our family is definitely complete. DH has never suggested that I have a tubal ligation. Do you all know that you need your husband's consent/signature if you opt to have it done? I wonder if the same applies for a vasectomy....

I do wish DH would go ahead and have it done. I think it's the least he can do after me having 3 c-sections. We'll see...

 

[Kermit]

I agree that the man should have it done if you're both sure you're done having children. Having your tubes tied is major surgery. It would probably be a bigger hassle for him, since he'd have to do much more during the extensive recovery time, then if he just had a vasectomy himself.

Not only do you not want to take bc pills your whole life, you really shouldn't. Many doctors won't give them to anyone over 35, especially if you have other health factors like smoking, since the health risks just become too great.

 

[SuiteDisney]

Gene had it done after Rachel was born. I got to watch. It only took 5 minutes and that was with the doctor explaining everything to me as he was doing it.

The Dr. and I really hit it off. We were cracking jokes the whole time.

 

[Steve H.]

We're not at that point yet, but we've discussed it and I'll likely have it done when we know we're done with having kids.

 

[browneyes]

I wanted Allen to have it done. He was too much of a chicken though. I complained about it to my OB/GYN while he was delivering our son and he told even he was too chicken to have it done. The Dr and Allen had a bonding moment during the delivery. I had to go in a month later to get my tubal done (had to wait a month because of possible health complications). They put me to sleep and everything. Men just need a local anesthetic and they're outta there. It took about 4-5 hours after my surgery until I could checkout of the hospital. It only takes about 10 minutes for a man. It's better, from what I've read, for men to bite the bullet and have it done. I'm glad I had it done as far as not worrying about being pregnant-but if I'm late, I'm terrified I'm having a tubal pregnancy-which is something to look for when you have a tubal ligation. And it's also easier on a woman's body monthly if she doesn't have a tubal ligation.

Good luck to your dh.

 

[Princess_Aurora]

Well, DH is SURE he doesn't want anymore. I on the other hand would love to have a whole house full of babies

Then I think, wait a minute...babies grow up. I have one girl and one boy and that's perfect. Plus I don't think emotionally I could give them another sibbling. DD is taking it kinda hard. While she LOVES having a little brother she's been acting up in order to get attention. She even told me mom that I don't love her anymore and that I love Michael more. That hurt me feelings So I don't think I could add more sibbling rivelery to our family.

The tricky part is getting DH to do it. He thinks its easier for me to be on birth control. I don't necissarily think he's scared of it...although that might be some of it. He just really hates two things in life. One is spending money and two is going to the doctor. In all the time that I've known him I've only known him to go to the doctor ONCE...except for the dentist which he sees every six months. He won't even go in for a physical which I've been trying to get him to do for like two years now.

So how do you talk a guy into just getting into the dr's office?

 

[antnee]

I'll give my answer



NO WAY!!!!!!

There are other alternatives to both a vasectomy and having tubes tied. What if I divorce and re-marry and new wife would like children?????

 

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

I am so thankful my DH offered to do this on his own when DD was 3(DS was 7). He had always said he would be the one to do it as I had to "birth the children". He took the responsibility when the time was right. No way would he allow me to go under for something that was SO simple for him. He was in and out in no time. Ice pack and taking it easy was all he had to endure(and he enjoyed letting me bring him dinner in bed that night )!

 

[Towncrier]

Just wanted to add a couple of comments. Regarding the "ice", I had always heard that a vasectomy was a 2 beer procedure. You sit on the couch with one ice cold beer in hand and the other one in your "lap".

I had the operation done on a Friday afternoon. Saturday morning I went out and raked leaves all day long. There is a pouch that you are supposed to wear for the week after the operation. Kind of like an athletic supporter. I followed the doctor's advice and had no ill effects.

On a totally unrelated note, it has been 10 years since the operation and a couple of years ago I started being treated for borderline high blood pressure. When the doctor looked over my charts, the last time that my blood pressure was "normal" was the day that I had the vasectomy. I would have thought that my BP would have been sky high that day, but it wasn't. Now don't get me wrong. I'm not blaming my elevated BP on the operation. I think that DD Sarah is probably more to blame for that. And anyone who has met her knows what I'm talking about.

 

[Grog]

My SO already had her tubes tied when we met, and already had two grown and out of the house children, so that was one problem we didn't have to face. To answer the question, yes....I would do it. I don't think it is fair for the woman to have to take BC pills after a couple has decided not to have any more children. Why should it all be down to the woman?

 

[babybelle]

Originally posted by RitaZ.
Also a "sore subject" for us. We have 3 children and our family is definitely complete. DH has never suggested that I have a tubal ligation. Do you all know that you need your husband's consent/signature if you opt to have it done? I wonder if the same applies for a vasectomy....

I do wish DH would go ahead and have it done. I think it's the least he can do after me having 3 c-sections. We'll see...

Dont know if its a different over here but during #3 pregnancy (#3 c-sec) I was routinely offered sterilisation , which I opted for and this was done 'immediately' after my third was born (ie during the c sec).

The doc talked about it at length with me as I was only just turned 29 at the time!

 

[Jeff in BigD]

Originally posted by ***********
The Dr. and I really hit it off. We were cracking jokes the whole time.

The LAST thing I want my doctor to be doing while he's got the knife down there is giggling over a knock-knock joke!


To be fair, I don't know a lot about the actual procedure. I wouldn't tell my wife to get her tubes tied, just as I wouldn't want her to tell me to get snipped. It's not a matter of me feeling like less of a man because I'm not fertile, I just wouldn't want there to be a mistake that basically ends up with me being a eunuch. It's the same reason I wouldn't get Lasik if my vision was bad.

 

[Zurg]

Originally posted by ***********
The Dr. and I really hit it off. We were cracking jokes the whole time.

Okay now why doesn't that suprise me!

 

[Zurg]

Well our plan was 4 kids, I gave her a hard time about wanting three for the fun of it, but the plan was 4 all along. (At the time I didn't know how much APs at WDW cost.)

After 4th was born healthy and happy it was time for me to see the Dr, who's name was Cutler. Doc Cutler did a quick snip and cauterized things, now smoke seeing coming up from down there isn't a great feeling but a little rest and ice and things were fine.

It takes a few months for all the swimmers to clear the pool if you catch my drift. They want you to take a sample in for inspecting a few months down the road just to be sure the pipes are clear.

I have a friend who waited a few months figured all was fine and he skipped inspection. He was quite upset to find his wife was pregnant - particularly after he went and did the responsible sensitive new age guy thing and got snipped. He was a tad concerned about the relationship but it seems all was not severed.

OOPS!

Next time he went in to certify things were taken care of.

So Men my humble opinion is that it is no big deal, far less than labor - when you are sure you are done have it done. But don't be assuming all is safe without that Good Housekeeping seal of approval.

 

[klombar]

I agree that it was the only way to go. I would never ask my wife to under go a major operation when I could have an out patient operation done. The only thing I can stress is......FOLLOW THE DOCTORS ORDERS! Dont be a hero and pick things up or run to work the next day. Just grab a few bags of frozen vegtables and rent a bunch of movies. My wife also took the kids on a mini vacation for the week so I had the house to myself. Believe me its been 7 years of not having to worry about more children and birth control. It was well worth it.

As far as cracking jokes.....I actually watched the operation in a mirror. That was way better then todays reality shows.

 

[Jeff in BigD]

Originally posted by klombar
As far as cracking jokes.....I actually watched the operation in a mirror. That was way better then todays reality shows.

Oh man!

 

[Troyfus]

Hey Klombar, that would have been so wild. I wasn't offered the opportunity to watch though. I would've! On me that is!!!!

 

[Buz]

Ditto on the frozen veggies. A bag of peas works wonders for an ice pack. I had mine done after boy number 3. We were sure we didn't want to go through the terrible twos (not to mention the 3-16s) again.

All in all, no real problems. I just remind DW that I am now a ....

SPORTS MODEL!

Buz

 

[cotye]

I cringe to think of what would be done... But I know it's relatively safe and is done all the time... just not comfortable thinking about it. Couldn't we just use the rhythm method?

 

[BrerMom]

What if I divorce and re-marry and new wife would like children?????

Adoption is a wonderful choice.

There's a doctor near here that has a neat concept going. He spends all afternoon and evening doing vasectomies. The guys go in after work, spend the weekend recuperating and go back to work Monday. He has a booming business.

I have a fear that when I turn 40 we'll both be as fertile as the green hills in Ireland.

Exactly!!! The older I get, the harder it is to define the "danger zone."