Kind of bummed!

[minkydog]

How do you know who threw it out? I'd personally probably say something about my missing mug in front of the one who did it (if I felt certain they didn't know that I knew they did it) just to see if they would feel bad and offer to replace it. [/QUOOTE]

No. That's passive-aggressive. This needs to be nipped in the bud right now by management. No *****-footing around hoping that they'll feel bad. Hah! that will NEVER happen. This isn't 4th grade, it's a workplace. If management won't man up, then I'd confront both of them together, if possible. No finger pointing, unless the OP is positive she knows who threw away the cup. If the immediate boss won't take care of this, take it to HR. It sounds like their behavior is very disruptive in the office and it shouldn't be tolerated

 

[Scurvy]

No. That's passive-aggressive. This needs to be nipped in the bud right now by management. No *****-footing around hoping that they'll feel bad. Hah! that will NEVER happen. This isn't 4th grade, it's a workplace. If management won't man up, then I'd confront both of them together, if possible. No finger pointing, unless the OP is positive she knows who threw away the cup. If the immediate boss won't take care of this, take it to HR. It sounds like their behavior is very disruptive in the office and it shouldn't be tolerated

You're probably right. I guess I just would hope that they were so angry at the other person that it clouded their judgement, and that the realization that they did something awful to someone else might shock them out of the behavior and cause them to do the right thing without a confrontation. But realistically, anyone who would behave that way probably isn't going to do the right thing on their own no matter who they end up hurting.

 

[usnuzuloose]

I would not get personally involved but I would take them aside and let them know that they threw away your cup. It would be nice to get it replaced. I would let upper managment handle the rest as it will raise its ugly head sooner or later and I would not want to be involved in it.

 

[Mickeyistheman]

For something like this, especially if you REALLY don't have proof DO NOT GO TO HR.

I would speak with them privately and sternly and tell them how unprofessional their behavior is. If it doesn't stop you are going to file a complaint against both of them. I am sure that nowadays with jobs so few and far between that will stop their childish and immature behavior.

 

[PebblesMom]

Hi! Thanks everyone for replies! I am going to check out ebay and I do think I will say something to both of them tomorrow (I am off today). I am debating about telling my boss, because his solution for everything is to send out a memo to everyone and I do think that these two enjoy the drama and attention. They both brag about what of the others they have thrown away and my mug happened to just be at the wrong place at the wrong time

 

[Anna_Marie]

Oh yes I would go to the supervisor and let them know what was going on. This behavior is ridiculous. They are acting like feuding children, not adults. Throwing out personal property of mine would be the straw that broke the camels back with me.

 

[kwitcherkicken99]

You need to let the offender know that it was your property they threw out and ask for a comparable replacement. That's it - you don't have to go into it about the feud, just ask for your item to be replaced with something that is similar in volume to that which was tossed. And maybe politely ask them to stop touching things that don't belong to them in the first place.

 

[Carina]

They both brag about what of the others they have thrown away and my mug happened to just be at the wrong place at the wrong time

Then I 100% stand by my "GROW UP" comment

 

[w0rM]

Oh man... I would be so upset. Fortunately, nobody I work with would ever throw away a Disney mug. I work with an office full of Disney fanatics.

I agree with everyone else. They should at least compenstate you for your loss. Good luck!

 

[horseshowmom]

Hi! Thanks everyone for replies! I am going to check out ebay and I do think I will say something to both of them tomorrow (I am off today). I am debating about telling my boss, because his solution for everything is to send out a memo to everyone and I do think that these two enjoy the drama and attention. They both brag about what of the others they have thrown away and my mug happened to just be at the wrong place at the wrong time

You need to let the offender know that it was your property they threw out and ask for a comparable replacement. That's it - you don't have to go into it about the feud, just ask for your item to be replaced with something that is similar in volume to that which was tossed. And maybe politely ask them to stop touching things that don't belong to them in the first place.

Personally, I would handle it myself. I would tell whichever one disposed of your property that you want it replaced (and that that may be hard to do since it was from your Disney trip). It won't be any good to tell "them" though because the one who didn't throw it away won't do a thing (and can't be made to do so even though they are a part of this whole ridiculous thing ).

If they try to get smart with you, then I would go over their heads.

 

[MossMan]

I guess I'm in the minority here, but I suggest you stay as far away from this situation as possible.

When you have co-workers in the middle of hostilities, you always run the risk of unintended consequences when you get involved - even if that involvement is 100% justified. The kind of people who get sucked into pointless workplace feuds are invariably the kind of people who will hold grudges for perceived slights.

If there truly exists the possibility that the property of other innocents is at danger, then obviously you need to speak up in the manner most appropriate for your place of work.

But otherwise, let it go.

 

[EllenFrasier]

Even if the person thought it was the other person's mug - why would they throw out a Disney mug?? They must have known it had sentimental value no matter who it belonged to. It's time for the feud to stop and maybe this will be what stops it.

 

[kwitcherkicken99]

It won't be any good to tell "them" though because the one who didn't throw it away won't do a thing (and can't be made to do so even though they are a part of this whole ridiculous thing ).

It was more of a suggestion to be able to express her contempt with the situation - to remind them that their little war is childish and getting out of hand.

If they want to make the other person miserable, fine... but they need to make darn sure they are hitting the right target.

 

[horseshowmom]

It was more of a suggestion to be able to express her contempt with the situation - to remind them that their little war is childish and getting out of hand.

If they want to make the other person miserable, fine... but they need to make darn sure they are hitting the right target.

Actually, I'm in agreement with you which is why I quoted you. After going back and reading my post, I can see where it might not have sounded that way.

The co-workers need to get a grip.