Kind of bummed!

[PebblesMom]

I have two co-workers who are feuding....one threw away the others lunch out of the break room when she cleaned and they have been "at war" with eachother and have been tossing out eachothers stuff ever since. Well today one of them thought that *my* coffee mug belonged to the other one and threw it in our front trash right before the trash pick up. The part that makes me sad is that it was my mug from our 2008 trip to Disney World!!! I know in the whole big picture this is something small, but it has really bothered me! I am not sure what to say to my co-worker about this or if I should say anything....I don't want to get involved in this feud and she is really crazy. I guess more than anything I just needed to let off some steam!

 

[Carina]

Honestly I would not just be bummed I would be bloody ticked off.

And I would tell them BOTH point blank while they were both in the same room that it was time to GROW UP! I would not be nice about it and I would not elaborate other than to make it real clear that throwing out my mug - not matter who they thought it belong to made me very upset.

You don't need to pick sides - they BOTH are acting like 2 year olds!

 

[SookieStackhouse]

That is a bummer, I would be mad. I don't know about saying anything, these people sound childish enough to drag you into their fight.

 

[2Kds2K9]

honestly i would not just be bummed i would be bloody ticked off.

And i would tell them both point blank while they were both in the same room that it was time to grow up! I would not be nice about it and i would not elaborate other than to make it real clear that throwing out my mug - not matter who they thought it belong to made me very upset.

You don't need to pick sides - they both are acting like 2 year olds!

amen!

 

[PollyannaMom]

They are being ridiculous, and I think they should be confronted. However, it's probably the boss's place (or HR's, if your company is big enough) not yours. Are the powers that be aware of what is happening?

 

[Liberty Belle]

Honestly I would not just be bummed I would be bloody ticked off.

And I would tell them BOTH point blank while they were both in the same room that it was time to GROW UP! I would not be nice about it and I would not elaborate other than to make it real clear that throwing out my mug - not matter who they thought it belong to made me very upset.

You don't need to pick sides - they BOTH are acting like 2 year olds!

I agree. I'd say it would be better to go to management, but they'd be ticked at you about that, too. I'd just confront them both.

 

[Mermaid02]

I agree with everyone else! I would also get the supervisor involved.

 

[dyna]

Childish Childish Childish sounds like they both bored with their jobs.

There are somethings you don't do out of respect even if you are fueding. Sounds like they need a lesson in respect...

 

[PUZZLDY5]

How old are these people? This is crazy. Go to HR. They are disrupting your work day with their silliness and probably the people around you too.

 

[lustergirl]

How old are these people? This is crazy. Go to HR. They are disrupting your work day with their silliness and probably the people around you too.

most definitely- let HR know and have them handle it- good luck!

 

[Agri]

Go to HR first of all. If someone *took* something of yours, that's stealing and it should be replaced.

 

[DisneyScraps]

I would go to the boss about this. childish and now it's starting to hurt other people.

Lisa

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

Honestly I would not just be bummed I would be bloody ticked off.

And I would tell them BOTH point blank while they were both in the same room that it was time to GROW UP! I would not be nice about it and I would not elaborate other than to make it real clear that throwing out my mug - not matter who they thought it belong to made me very upset.

You don't need to pick sides - they BOTH are acting like 2 year olds!

This!

Where I work, my boss would do jack , so we would have to handle it ourselves. And believe me in the environment I work in, I can so see this happening in my place of work also. If its appropriate for your workplace, OP say something!

 

[FireDancer]

Do they hire children where you work because I can't believe adults would act like such children.

Check eBay for the mug. I had an Epcot mug from 1991 that my dishwasher broke and I was able to find a replacement on eBay.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

Take them both into a conference room or some other private place and lay into them. Demand to be compensated for your lost property. Complain to your manager and/or HR.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

How old are these people? This is crazy. Go to HR. They are disrupting your work day with their silliness and probably the people around you too.

Yep. I would file a formal complaint.

 

[lovetoscrap]

Check eBay for the mug. I had an Epcot mug from 1991 that my dishwasher broke and I was able to find a replacement on eBay.

This is what I was going to suggest. Except when you find it send the one that threw it out the link and tell her you expect it to be on your desk within 14 days.

And heck, I am a little passive aggressive so I would probably post a note in the break room or a central bulletin board with:

WARNING: Any items left in this area are subject to be stolen and disposed of by Susie or Jane due to their childish behavior.

(or something like that) But I also have a really thick skin and no tolerance for crazy and immature.

Frankly though, I would probably go to management or HR first and tell them this is causing a problem and ask them to deal with it.

 

[Scurvy]

I have two co-workers who are feuding....one threw away the others lunch out of the break room when she cleaned and they have been "at war" with eachother and have been tossing out eachothers stuff ever since. Well today one of them thought that *my* coffee mug belonged to the other one and threw it in our front trash right before the trash pick up. The part that makes me sad is that it was my mug from our 2008 trip to Disney World!!! I know in the whole big picture this is something small, but it has really bothered me! I am not sure what to say to my co-worker about this or if I should say anything....I don't want to get involved in this feud and she is really crazy. I guess more than anything I just needed to let off some steam!

How do you know who threw it out? I'd personally probably say something about my missing mug in front of the one who did it (if I felt certain they didn't know that I knew they did it) just to see if they would feel bad and offer to replace it. Otherwise, I would definitely say something to them and let them know I expect it to be replaced. If you can find one on ebay, I agree with the suggestion of handing over the link and telling them that's the one they should buy you. Their reaction to that would determine if I would escalate it or not.

 

[Ilivetogo]

Honestly I would not just be bummed I would be bloody ticked off.

And I would tell them BOTH point blank while they were both in the same room that it was time to GROW UP! I would not be nice about it and I would not elaborate other than to make it real clear that throwing out my mug - not matter who they thought it belong to made me very upset.

You don't need to pick sides - they BOTH are acting like 2 year olds!

This!

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[MickeyBA]

I really don't think I would be able to keep from saying something. I would try my best to be calm and controlled, but I would make it very clear that I was not happy that their childish fight was now spilling over and inconveniencing the rest of the office. I would also probably throw a "grow up" in there like the others have said.