kids

[supergrrl20]

i dont want kids at my dis wedding...mean?

 

[webray]

Not at all. It is your day..have who you want.

I have even been to non dis weddings where kids were not invited.

 

[mindystar]

I think it is totally up to the couple. My sister couldn't imagine her wedding and reception w/o kiddos--but they're our cousins who have grown up around us While I had a friend who wanted it an adults only affair. So it totally depends on you!

 

[twojo21]

a disney wedding without kids might be hard to swing, imagine the parents trying to explain to the kids you cant go to disney world but mommy & daddy are.

if you want an adults only wedding consider a babysitting service like kids nite out in the guests room or one of the kids club at the deluxe resorts for your guests kids so they can still come & have a family vacation at wdw but you can have your exclusive adults only wedding while the kids are elsewhere safe & playing.

i couldnt imagine a wedding without our families kids but for each their own, just make sure you mention the babysitting info if you decide to do this & the adults only wedding & reception info in your invitations & by word of mouth so guests know what to expect & if they can go.

 

[fun2bmomof3]

I agree that asking parents of children to come to Disney without them is likely to cause some problems. As a mom of 4 there is no way that I could swing something like that.
Also take this into consideration that the child clubs is only available from like 4:30 to midnight. The clubs are $10 per child. Potty trained Children ages 4 to 12 only.
I
n room service is available at anytime for any age. Rates are based upon the number of children --

* 1 child $14 per hour
* 2 children $16.50 per hour
* 3 children $19 per hour
* 4 children $21.50 per hour
(For groups of more than four children, call Kid's Nite Out for rates.)

NOTE: After 9:30 p.m., there will be an additional $2 an hour charge. A one-time transportation fee of $8 will be applied to each bill.


*All rates are hourly based. Four (4) hour minimum charge. Caregiver transportation fee is $8. Reservations that begin after 8:59 p.m. require an additional $2 per hour premium. Cancellations require a 24-hour advance notice. Advance reservations are required. Holidays and special events require an additional premium.

 

[ead79]

We didn’t have kids under 12 at our wedding or reception due to the late time and the formality of the wedding. We provided our guests with information about both in-room babysitting and the child clubs so they could have a place to send their children. Some of our guests made it a family vacation and brought along their parents to watch their kids during the wedding/reception. We didn’t have a lot of guests that this affected, so it wasn’t a big problem. If we had a lot of guests with kids we would’ve investigated having a babysitter somewhere near the reception to watch the kids. I think Disney can set up a TV playing movies and things like that for kids in a corner of the reception venue. We certainly encouraged people to bring their kids down to WDW, just not to our actual event. The only thing you need to do is not allow certain people to bring kids but not others. For instance, you can’t let your relatives bring kids and not let your guests bring them too. That might result in some hurt feelings. You don’t want anyone to feel like their kids are the ones you don’t want there specifically. The other important thing to remember is to not get your feelings hurt if people choose not to come because kids aren’t invited. Some people just might not be able to work it out or feel comfortable with the babysitting services or childcare clubs.

 

[J&L Love Disney]

I agree it is totally up to you because it is your wedding. That being said, as a mom, if I was spending a good bit of money to go to WDW (no matter what the reason) I would definitely bring my child along with me. I guess I would look at how many guests it would affect. For example, if it's half of your guests that may not be a feasible thing to ask.

If you provide those with children good options, then I think it could completely work out. I think I read something where you could have a separate kid's reception where they are entertained and fed. Don't know if something like this is in your budget, but it might be worth looking into. Also, providing parents with baby-sitting options and (depending on budget) offering to help cover some of the costs would be a reasonable idea. As a mon, I would be OK with either of those choices.

It's your day and ultimately whatever you are comfortable with is what you should do.

Lisa

 

[gradtchr]

It is totally up to you. I wanted my nephew at my wedding and if my event had been larger I would not have minded other children there as well but that's me and I've always loved being around kids (teacher in me) If you don't want kids let your guests know in plenty of time to make arrangements.

 

[pouncingpluto]

We aren't having kids at ours, and it hasn't been a problem. We want an adults-only, no screaming, no crying, no running-around atmosphere. It helps that we simply don't know many children. Our guests who do have kids are all making different arrangements... one friend has a wife who is too pregnant to travel, so she's staying home with their other two, and he's coming alone. Another friend is bringing along his sister to babysit.

Sorry, but we are grinches who are pretty sure we don't want children of our own... for us the negatives outweigh the positives.

 

[pouncingpluto]

Ok, that sounded harsh.

We are grinches, BUT... I have a niece and nephew I love very much and who are the flower girl and ring bearer. They are coming to the ceremony and cocktail hour but being taken back to the hotel after that. I think that's fine... the reception itself will be adults only, and really, a 2 year old and an autistic 5 year old can't take much more than two hours of wedding activities.

 

[ahutton]

While it didn't impact many of our invited guests, we did not want kids at our events either. Too long of a day, and we wanted a quiet, grown up atmosphere. We offered child care to those it did impact - they were not comfortable leaving there kids with anyone (or bringing along someone) so they decided not to come. I didn't let that worry me. I made my choice, they made their choices. No bad guys, just to each his (or her) own.

 

[fun2bmomof3]

Ahutton: That was nice that you offered the childcare. To a parent who is budgeting to go to wdw for a wedding the extra of hiring a sitter at $14-24 an hour might be too much.

Supergirrl20 : How many of your guest does this affect? If it affects alot of guest then check into the seperate child reception thing some have mentioned or see if you can figure out an alternative. If it is just one or two then I would think it really wouldn't be a big deal. If you can afford to then offer to pay for the kids clubs or child care. If the kids in mention are old enough there are various activities at different resorts for kids that would be a really neat alternative. I know there is a pirate ship cruise for kids, fishing excursions, etc. If any of these would correspond with the ceremony times then maybe they could go do one of those and then go to a kids club or in room sitter for the remaining wedding activities.
Do all the research you can and give parents the different alternatives. No one will think you are mean. Be prepared that someone might not come because they are uncomfortable with this and the alternatives for childcare. Don't let that hurt your feelings.

 

[EvilinaDM101]

We are having a 35 person custom wedding and we are not allowing kids to our wedding. There is really only one couple that has kids that is at this point and time (8 weeks out) demanding that their kids be allowed to come to the wedding. This is by the way FDH's Aunt. We both, FDH and I DO NOT want their 3 kids there and she keeps pressing. The way I feel about it, is if you don't want them there put your foot down. We are. We are paying for our own wedding and ever since I was a little girl I don't remember mentally picturing a kid or 2 throwing a temper tantrum in the middle of my dream wedding ceremony. Once again this is just IMO. I could already hear them in my head SCREAMING that the ceremony is BORING and that they want to go to the parks. SO once again don't feel bad if you say no kids. I know I'm not!!Oh! Also! His cousins (the 3 kids) age range from 6-12 and have a scary history of embarrassing temper tantrums in public places.

 

[Merandab4]

We didn't have kids at our ceremony either. They did join us afterwards though for a character dinner so it all worked out!

 

[J and R's mom]

i dont want kids at my dis wedding...mean?

If you don't want kids at the wedding, there's NOTHING wrong with that!

When my husband and I were married 6 years ago (at Disney) it was just us and our parents so there was no issue of kids being there but I understand not wanting kids there. We, like a previous poster, had also decided that we didn't want children of our own.

Fast forward 4 years and we decided to try for a child for 3 months and if nothing happened during that time then we weren't have kids. Well, it only took us a month. And then 18 months after our first was born, our second was born. SHE was a total surprise. I shouldn't have been able to get pregnant the second time...but I did. I guess God had different plans for us than we did. ANYWAY....

I mention our kids (now ages 2yrs and 9 mos) because even being a mother I completely understand NOT wanting children at a wedding...probably even more so now! Truthfully, weddings aren't the best place for kids (unless they're close family and you're around them often and want them there).

As a mother and as a bride, I understand the need to not have kids there!

Good luck and have a wonderful wedding!

 

[JohnsPrincess]

We are also basically not having children at the wedding and as another poster said, it's really because of One very disrespectful, misbehaving child and I don't want to just tell them they can't bring him. My sister (who is 5 and amazingly well behaved) is going to be there. She's the flower girl and...well...my sister!! Also there will be Lauren and Alec...they are twins and are 12 (13 at the time of the wedding) and I've known them since they were born. I don't think of them as children though. Other than the 3 of them, NO kids.